Sparkist

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  5. Posted

    I've witnessed several arguments over the past few days on here. They all seem to focus on 'I'm right, you're wrong'. 

    For the record, I have no desire to change you or your beliefs. We're all entitled to believe what we want, and we're all entitled to change our beliefs whenever and/or however we want. I respect your views and I hope you'll respect mine, however I expect nothing. 

    We're all just people trying our best to make it in this world, and make the most of it while we can. So...I guess I just wanted to say that. 

    Also, this thread is in no way meant to cause any offence or put anyone down. I just want to bring a bit of balance back into my day, as I personally feel a little hassled by some of the things I've been reading. But, that's my problem and I recognise that.

    I hope this made someone smile, at least :x That's my real aim here.

     

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    @Ether Haha yes, it's me. I love the art of transformation! 

    @egoeimai @Charlotte Thank you both, you're very kind!!! :x  

    @egoeimai I was a professional makeup artist for a few years, a while back. SFX was definitely one of the most enjoyable parts of the job. I was mainly self taught but I had a year or so of 'distance training'. 

    Your hibiscus drawing is lovely, by the way. The shading is very good. Have you been drawing long? You seem to doubt your talent <3 

    @Natasha Your flowers are beautiful! That must have taken some serious patience.

     

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    @White So is ego death really an obtainable thing? And when people say they've experienced ego death (through psychedelics, for example) is that really what they experienced? And if so, is ego death something that can be sustained? Surely you need the ego to recognise ego death? Argh...lol...see? I'm just flummoxed right now. I'm going round and round in loops. 

    11 minutes ago, John Iverson said:

    Hm? My baseline is orange , i'm in the stage that for me , all the stages is perfect right now, if some is in the stage red, it is okay ,where they are is a perfect moment no bad or wrong about it, i understand them, they somehoy in their lifetime evolve they will not be conscious about it but they will grow,, they need to be at stage red.. or atleast in a very low stage.. it is like the rock is perfect in place right now, and someday the rock will be human and conscious to himself and all of his surroundings.. :D 

    @John Iverson Maybe you have surpassed orange if you believe all stages are perfect? I don't know. I'd like to say that I truly believe all stages are perfect, but really I don't think they are...not truly. I'm still a pretty judgemental person. I think my brain hurts slightly, thinking about all this. Lol.

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    @White Is turquoise still ego? Or is that a stage which has transcended ego? 

    Ego is fast becoming a bit of a mind-f*** to me. The more I think about it, the more I can't get my head around ego not being a part of anyone's being/actions/desires etc. Or else they'd just be silent and still? Or does ego still manifest in someone who has transcended ego, simply because they choose to 'play' with it? 

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    5 minutes ago, John Iverson said:

    Try to watch video of Leo about Spiral Dynamics.. and you will spot what stage are you..  i cannot say anything because I don't know you well,.. it could be you have issue to your dad because you are also have an ideology of blue that the core of it... it could be your father is strict and you are like liberal that you want justice or freedom , idk.. haha share here if you know it already.... and ohh wait also for the next videos of Leo he will also tacke spiral dynamics again, one by one...

    @John Iverson Spiral dynamics is a totally new concept to me. I have no idea what stage I'm in, but I've learnt so far that I can relate to parts of more than one of the stages. I've done a little bit of my own research online since hearing about it and I'm still not really any of the wiser about where I sit. I really enjoyed Leo's video on blue and am definitely going to be tuning in to the rest of the series! Do you know what stage you're at? 

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    @John Iverson Oh he didn't slap me, but he was very angry which made me quite fearful. We were in his car and I actually got out while we were stopped at traffic lights because he was driving recklessly and was leaning over to my side and shouting right in front of my face. He didn't talk to me for quite some time afterwards.

    We have re-built our relationship but it very different to how it was before. I believe that this has made our relationship less 'roses and daisies' in his eyes. Less idealistic. To me, our relationship is more genuine than it ever has been, though. I certainly don't feel like a little child around him now. We tend to agree to disagree and move on whenever our views conflict, now. So, we've grown from it. 

  20. Posted · Edited by Sparkist

    @White I'm keen to learn more about myself and where I fall within Spiral Dynamics and self actualisation. I was aware that I had lived out traits of blue and wanted to admit that, so as not to put myself across falsely. And other than that just exchanging experiences with Rilles and anyone else who may want to share. Why do you ask?

  21. Posted

    @White Ahh interesting. I was wondering where I fell on the ole Spiral Dynamics model. Thanks for your reply. 

    @Rilles That ole chestnut eh? I've actually used those very words myself, much to my own disappointment (I have a teenage daughter). I grew up with that sentiment. Allow me to add (and defend myself entertainingly, I'm sure) that I only ever used it when I was at my absolute wits end xD I don't feel as though I'm tried to this degree with her nowadays. 

    What about 'children should be seen and not heard!' And 'Do as I say, not as I do!'?

  22. Posted

    @John Iverson My Dad once told me I should respect him because he is my father. I disagreed. I feel that my respect shouldn't come because of status, position or expectation, but by actions, and mutual respect and understanding. He was absolutely enraged when I stood up to him in this way. I don't think he's ever really truly forgiven me. I believe his sentiment was very stage blue.

    I have had an issue with 'authority', certainly for the sake of authority, for many years. Titles and hierarchies don't really mean anything to me. Just because you are the 'boss' or the 'father' or the 'leader' does not mean I instantly do what you say and instantly give you respect. We've seen many people in positions of power over the years take advantage of those positions and use them for selfish and/or evil means. So, all credibility in hierarchical structure comes into question, for me.