will getting a girl friend solve my loneliness

[Ramanujan]

i live in a 3rd world. its a taboo to do dating.  i tried to use friendship with other men to solve my loneliness. it worked for some time. but there are some problems. like some see me as a backup friend. some see me as a side friend , a side charecter in their life .  it was managable. but once they got married , they started avoiding me. they choose a pussy they met one year ago over me

so i am back to square 1. no friends. not enough social skills.  the pain of loneliness is absolutely unbearable. i start crying some day

 

will getting a girl friend cure my loneliness.  i know game take a while to learn. i am a game noobie. although i am an arm chair pickup artist

 

 

is getting a girlfriend different from having male friends for your loneliness. does it cure loneliness

[Majed]

@Ramanujan Yeah man sounds tuff. There certainly are ways though to get laid in India. Like i don't imagine the 1 billion indians are all sexually frustrated. It also depends on whether you live in the city or in rural areas. If you live in the city, try approaching a few girls, see how it goes. 

[Raze]

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[LordFall]

There are different parts to loneliness. What you mentioned about your friends is more about not being valued for what you have to offer than lack of people around you. Plenty of men with girlfriend/wives are not valued for what they have to offer and therefore feel lonely even in a relationship.

What do you have to offer? What are your interests and skills? The best way you can solve this loneliness aspect IMO is post about it on social media and you'll start to get hundreds of views right away and soon enough comments about your interests. Now you have a way to express what you care about to a global audience that you can make a community out of, just like this one.

Still get then girlfriend but going at this quest from a place of offering value and leverage is way better than "Nobody wants to talk to me, im lonely pls date me." 

I don't know what country you're from and if dating apps are viable there, please elaborate. Maybe that will work or maybe your best bet is to save like $5000 and move to South East Asia, the dating is pretty easy there. 

Edited 2 hours ago by LordFall

[bazera]

11 minutes ago, Ramanujan said:

does it cure loneliness

In some ways yes, it will distract you from the feelings you feel now, ones you call loneliness. But if you put all your eggs into one basket (a girlfriend), you'll get attached to her in unhealthy ways that will create all sorts of problems. 

I'd advice you to work on some other aspects of your life, you clearly crave some socialization so do that, what is holding you back in that regard? What are the ways for you to meet new friends and develop new social connections? 

Edited 2 hours ago by bazera

[Rishabh R]

@Ramanujan Continue to make more make friends and do so with females as well. Who knows one day you will get things better than you hoped for initially. 

Truly negativity is the path to positivity . Negative situations lead to better things if you keep taking action .

[Someone here]

Yes it will.

[Rigel]

The catch 22 with all of this is that feeling lonely is not attractive at all. It makes you needy and desperate which healthy people can smell off of you.

It will not solve your problem ultimately but you might need to get together with another needy person that engages with you selfishly to realize that it doesn’t really work. It’s valuable experience even if it blows up. You’ll be less needy and higher quality people will start to vibe with you more.

Having healthy relationships will make your life beautiful and better but you can’t get that if you’re not somewhat exuberant with your energies without the need for anyone’s approval. You don’t need to be perfect but if you don’t love your life already you will only attract people that also don’t love their life. Which again you might have to do just to break up some of that neediness.

[Rigel]

What do you like to do in life? Find communities that do those things and go be around people without any intention other than to have fun doing the thing with other people. If you have enough fun around enough people, you will match with someone without even trying.

[Joseph Maynor]

Be careful what you wish for lol.