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@Joseph Maynor yes so apply everything I said above to your life purpose, not to your hobby, and then you get the gist of it.

@Basman yes and I know, because I have been in relationships where it either was one sided love or no emotional depth as you say. Many people are superficial and many relationships are superficial, either based on lust or for transactional, status reasons or whatever.

@Joseph Maynor if it is a hobby that is different from something being you´re life purpose or career. If you want to make the most impact on the planet, you have to take it seriously. Even if you want to touch someone deeply and effect their life positively with you´re art, that still means you become really good at doing that, which is a skill, that requires excellence. I think it is okay to be lazy with you´re hobbies, not with your life purpose or career, as that laziness will become selfish rather then selfless and being of service to others.

@Ulax everyone has its own kink I guess

@Joseph Maynor what do you mean? I don't understand

@Ulax why are you making this sexual lol, is this some weird kink hahaha

I think that overconfidence happened to me until I met the masters of my craft. If you think you are any good at anything, meet someone who has been doing it for 30 years. You will realise how much of an amateur you are. Sometimes I get frustrated at certain goals I want to achieve, until I see the people who have been doing it for the longest time. Then you realise some things can't be learned in a year or even a few years. They take years of mastery, maybe even decades. The fastest way for me to grow was being humble and realising how bad I am at something. Let's say you want to start YouTube. Realise how fucking bad you are at YouTube. Mr. Beast said, "You need at least 100 videos made before I'm even going to help you and give you any tips." The idea that you will be great on the first try, or that you can be good in 100 or even 1,000 tries, is just a lack of volume. To be excellent at something takes a massive amount of volume, and only through a massive amount of volume, either by putting in years of time or by increasing the amount of time you invest each day, can you become excellent. Realise how bad you are at any given skill. I don't care if you are a national champion at whatever you do: there are people way, way, waaaaaay more proficient than you. Find them and meet them in real life. You will be shocked. You will become so humble. You will realise, "I didn't have bad luck with my results. I simply was bad. I simply needed more time. I simply need more decades, more years, and more time put into it." And if you are really humble and intelligent, you will learn from the pros and take every word they say seriously. Really, really look at what the fuck they do and ask them as many questions as you can. As Hormozi says, skill is the most important thing: "if you suck at shit, nothing else really matters." And also quoting Hormozi, saying: "do so much volume, execute so many reps, and stack so many attempts that failure becomes statistically impossible." This is what it means to put in decades into one area. If you do something for 30 years, you probably are going to be better at it than 99.99% of the people. Yet are you willing to put in 30 years? Even half, like 15 years? I think if you are not, then why even try...

I think a good person is willing to die for something. Now this has made me respect soldiers more over the years, they are willing to die for their country. Now I wouldn't say dying for you're country is the most highest form of service. That is why we remember Jesus, who died for love, died for his mission to basically raise the awareness of humanity. Now if you are truly on your purpose, I believe you should be willing to die for it, actions over words, you can yap forever, but never do something impactful with you're life. Which I see too much on this forum, bunch of trolls and yappers. So what are you willing to die for? What are you truly willing to give your life for? What mission? And if you are not willing to die for something, but talk about spirituality, I would count you in as another zen devil hahaha, but that is my own personal opinion, not objective truth.

@Natasha Tori Maru okay I was purely focused on relationship/romantic love. Not about the love for God or love for friends and family etc.

@JJfromSwitzerland Yes and count yourself blessed if you have, many people will never have known that type of love.

@Hojo yes you can´t earn it, this is why sometimes players can play themself and therefore never get in touch with love. You can play too much and then miss the opportunity for real love.

@LordFall money is something, definitely not everything. My intention wasn't to demonize money, but rather to share my insight into love and its unique and rare value. You can't buy a romantic partner, to make a girl fall in love with you. Sure love in the sense of selfless service is something else. I could donate money to a charity or buy a gift for a friend, but that is not the romantic love I was talking about.

So I had some insight yesterday, that made me cry. Now I know this is all obvious to most of you here, but due to being brainwashed by society, I kinda forgot. So I was thinking about how truly special love is. Like think about it. For someone to fall in love with or someone to fall in love with you. I might be on a hippy emotional phase or something hahaha, but listen. To have someone love you is like having a billion dollars. Because even Bill Gates can´t buy love with his billions. Imagine being Bill Gates, do you think any woman loves this nerd solely for him? In fact, his money made him more of a nerd and made it only harder for him to actually get in touch with love. Then some stupid broke retard can have a woman who actually love him. Since when has being a nerd ever worked on being attractive to women? If men get together, we are retards, laughing and doing dumb shit. Look at football games, we are like the biggest retards together, nothing intelligent about it. But a woman would actually love that retard, while this rich nerd would never even know, never even grasp what it means to love or to be loved. I was thinking back on my first relationship, I felt like she really, really loved me, which is special, like a billion euro's can't buy that not even a trillion like Elon Musk. This is why what Owen teaches about looks and money not mattering, is because you are optimizing for lust. Optimizing for the lust of money or the lust for your body, which isn't love. Okay imagine some grandma, wanting to get laid with you, because you look pretty. This is basically what looksmaxxing is. You're trying to buy love with looks or buy love with money, which both can't do it. They only give you access and leverage to superficial relationships, not deep love. I never got sobby about love like this in years hahaha, but just appreciating the fact how special love is, made me cry and needed to share it somewhere. Maybe someone got something out of this.

Update: it is almost time to go back home, tomorrow I will take the bus home as you can't fly out of the country. The things I have seen are very dualistic. Both great things, the woman are incredibly hansome hahaha, people are unbothered and just keep living life. It is almost like visiting any other city. The people are much more present in the moment due to just surviving day by day. Appreciating the little things and being grateful. Complaining feels so entitled after you have come here. Also it is not just a poor country as sometimes you imagine poverty with war, but there has been ferraris, prosches, maybachs, I have seen almost every luxurious brand. Just like any other city. Also a lot of people are smiling and laughing, war really makes you live day by day. Just like any other city. Now the darker side is that the russians even in big cities are still sending missles. You hear the air raid alarm going off multiple times a day. Everywhere you walk, you see people missing legs, I saw a guy who had stitches from his elbow to his shoulder and some Metal skeleton to keep his arm functioning. It is truely sad how many people get wounded, there are many deaths, but even many more wounded by the war. In the time I was hear I have heard 2 missles both at night. You never know if it is gonna hit your home. The people I met are very ordinairy people, just like meeting anyone from Europe. Yet when you talk to them you remember how the war hurts them. A guy wanted to travel to Amsterdam, where I am from, but said he couldn't as of age restriction for males from 25 to 60 to leave the country. Just something I take for granted, the ability to travel, is just gone. Another person I talked to his house got bombed as he was living at the front lines of the country. He had to flee to Kyiv and his woman and child are at a camp. At these moments you feel hopeless, you want to help them, but you can't. He told me, he doesn't want to be here, he wants to go back home. He wasn't angry, he was hurt, he lost a place that meant allot to him. I have never seen someone with so much pain. I can't even imagine what it is like to lose your job, your home, to need to have your childeren and his woman be sleeping at a camp. It is unfair and it wasn't his fault. This is the dark side of the war. On the main square there are flags with photos of all the soldiers that died. I would recommend you to visit this place, bring some light to this dark place and support Ukraine. Thank you.

@Basman if only I was that good lol