Joseph Maynor

Interesting. Well, we're talking about two things combined. One, did the person understand you. Two, are they interested in meeting you half way. 1. is cognitive, 2. is emotional and relational.

Value truth first and then come talk to me. Anyone can hide behind truth.

I spent years on his forum as a caveat. I'm curious why you think he is the crux of the turning point.

Have you noticed that someone may not even want to listen? You may be giving what you think is a great and constructive insight on a situation or relation and someone may not listen, or even if they do, they never register or agree with you about it. And the issue comes up over and over again. You're made to feel silly for even bringing it up. This is what you have to notice. Understand it structurally and systemically so it doesn't become too personal.

Okay. On that note, enjoy.

Why are you so concerned with what other people are doing? I suppose I could turn this question around on myself too. That is fair. But it's interesting. Why are we so concerned with what other people are doing is probably the better question.

Selfishness is one of those words that needs context. In humans it occurs in degrees. If we're saying selfishness in general is wrong, then one has to ask if that is an impossible standard to expect. I've never met a completely unselfish person. We all need to survive. We all eat something to survive. We all take over property including the environment to survive. Are other animals selfish or only humans? What does a completely unselfish human even look like? Are some of us trying to low key virtue signal by saying we want to be completely unselfish? But that's kinda selfish, no? You want to selfishly look or be seen a certain way to others (a saintly way).

Never used Markdown but I know what it is. I only have 3 sites that I'm currently coding so I'm doing them all from scratch only using HTML, CSS, and a little bit of JavaScript. They have different functions. One is a personal site, one is for my life purpose, and one is for philosophy. I might need to learn more as time goes on. I don't really have the bandwidth to learn a bunch of tech just for the sake of doing that. I feel bad for people who are in tech because that stuff changes so fast and all of it requires a bunch of time to learn.

I agree, this is why I focus the most on HTML, CSS, and JavaScript because they are the core web technologies and slowest to change. I like the idea of a CSS Framework, but it never satisfies me, and those technologies are changing too so now you gotta keep up with that framework, which is a lot of work to master. I'd rather spend my time working on Vue.js if anything extra.

I like this video, but it's more of a once a week thing to eat.

What is it about being attached to beliefs that causes so much suffering and a desire to surrender your beliefs?

I think this is a good example of great conversation and it shows you don't have to be funny or even flirty to be attractive. I'm sure the fact that Fabi is one of the best chess players in the world helps, but I like how he almost has the inverse of "game" mentality. This is not a romantic conversation, but it's amazing to me how mature it is without trying to be. There's authenticity and humility, but without trying hard to appear that way. You can be a nice guy without that being a bad thing.