Rishabh R

I had this insight at workplace, when I and other friends of mine were using mobile phones and I was trying to watch videos that would make me look like sort of a cool and wise person who watches self-help videos, listens to particular songs. I choose it to do it for a brief time but the insight hot me when I was thinking about the book Models at that time by Mark Manson that it's better to prioritize my opinion/perception of myself rather than others perceptions/opinion of me. Insight : I am needy and people smell neediness from a mile. So, I need to do things for myself rather than others. After which I started listening to songs and watching videos which I liked rather than that persona of an attractive me would watch. I felt a little sense of joy for sometime.I also think that having a goal of being myself is better rather than performing as if I am an attractive male.

Yup. I remember replaying harsh rejection from a girl in the past in my mind. I have tried acceptance of suffering , cognitive reframing and they helped as well help me to a large degree still.

Disrespectful interactions.

I remember that I was in highschool. I just made a point to quit it and did it. Even though I logged in it few times but it was 2-3 times and never looked back.

@IslandWild In my experience to reach the mountain one must keep moving forward ,sometimes pivoting to a different direction is good but most times including adversity trying again and again is a necessary part of growth. Also, with each time recalibration of one's approach to a thing or multiple ventures is necessary so that one is not just failing but failing better and becoming better with each iteration.

Thanks dude at least someone is concious of this pattern. Even though it is unhealthy for me to count myself as unattractive but I have been bullied by females in the past for hitting on them in school and college. However, I don't think that all women are like that. Majority of them could be good people even if they don't like me.( By the way I read your whole post but this point resonated with me as a 25 year old single male )

@Natasha Tori Maru I didn't know that you were not that tall. 😂Just joking.

Could be as it depends on one's priorities.

@Leo GuraConsider the perspective that this channel maybe moving from simple self-help to spiritual narcissism. Your old videos are better than most recent ones. Also, remember that people who act like devil view themselves as God and I am not saying I am perfect since, I am too flawed but consider reflecting back on your claims , your actions,the way you treat others mirrors your own struggles. Consider the possibility that God transcends both - the ugly and the beautiful which makes it beautiful wholly(Captial B). Just my advice and observation.

I was confused and messed up regarding applying which self-help concept to improve my life. I went from YouTube videos to videos. Read two books a little- What the Buddha taught by Walpola Rahula to Discourses and selected writings by Epictetus. I was running around in circles then, I finally sat down in the evening to figure this out. The question I asked to myself was - What's 1 self-help concept that will radically improve my life ? Insight :- .Stop caring about negative situations and focus on improving them Even nearly 17 minutes of contemplation yielded profound clarity I estimate how about 30 minutes, 1 hour (as I have done in the past) - it will yield deeper clarity and more penetration to truth. Later I contemplated it's applications:- - Whenever I encounter a negative situation I can think that there is a way to improve it -Whenever I am treated rudely I can focus on moving on -Whenever I commit a mistake I can focus on how to make it right -Whenever I fail,get rejected I can make an objective to try again until I succeed -Whenever I suffer I can make a point to feel it

Ok but @Leo Gura I also have noticed that people in life and also me ( sometimes) really have a habit of questioning other's opinions and thoughts rather than their which leads to self-sabotage. It's easier to question others assumptions than to question one's own. How is true skepticism different from the technique outlined in your episodes - The power of asking questions and Assumptions are the mother of all ---- ?

For example this happened to me months ago. I was in my college convocation taking the my college degree certificate. I was suffering due to the fact that I didn't had a job at that time. I also made an assumption that I won't get a job and will be unemployed. I questioned that assumption by - What if I'm wrong ?What would it mean if I were wrong ?Would being wrong create a better problem or a worse problem than my current problems for both myself and others ?( I picked up this practice from a book) Then 3-4 days after my convocation 2 companies came for placements and I applied to them. I got paid apprenticeship offer from both and I chose one. Right now I am doing my apprenticeship since , 4 months. So isn't tranquility as well as making progress in life a side effect of skepticism ?

@Leo Gura Is challenging one's thoughts, beleifs and assumptions even in the case of very practical matters related to survival true skepticism ? I have found that when I question my assumptions about the future by - What If I'm wrong ? my assumption turns out to be false not only in the moment but also when reality shatters my assumptions.

@bazera Yes and I had both good and bad interaction with that person in the past which lead to final rejection after which I didn't saw her.

I was excited after seeing this post then went into thinking what it would be about .