Rishabh R

Great point.

In meditations by Marcus Aurelius opens the book with similar passage-- When you wake up in the morning tell yourself that people you will meet would be dishonest, muddling etc. because they can't see the good from the bad but I have seen the nature of good so they can't hurt me. By the way it is a nice perspective that no matter what others say to you it is your's permission weather to take it personally or not. I think that this can be done by separation of responsibility. Like for example- I am responsible for my actions and other's are responsible for their actions.

Reframe for hatred is that - The people who hurted me are one of the few people among thousands of people in life.

Happy Birthday @Leo Gura

@Av2521 I have been in that situation where everyone around you is committed except yourself. What matters is to stop caring about other people's love story and start building your own. Still to date , I feel jealous of other people's success in finding a girlfriend but when I stop caring a smile comes to my face automatically. I had a crush on a lot of women and their behaviour was insecure when I approached them or flirted with them they rejected me and then they started dating someone else. But who cares. Their choices determine their life and my actions determine my life. As per moving to big city I would say that have a primary agenda as something else than women is better rather than going solely for women.

Thanks @Lyubov and @Yimpa .

I sat down and contemplated for 30 minutes- How do I overcome challenges in life ? Here are the answers which I got :- - By realising that all challenges are temporary - By being optimistic that it will be overcomed -By realising that challenges are not as big as thought previously - By realising that I have overcame massive challenges -By acting by seeing a hopeful future -By realising that they make me stronger -By realising that procrastination will make them worse - By relying on my potential rather than external markers -By realising that they determine my potential Thanks.

@Miguel1 , @Leo Gura thanks.

@Yimpa 🙂

@Sugarcoat Yeah that's a great perspective but I think that everyone fails(including me of course) to realize the importance of direct experience which looking at one's hand, an object in the room or just focussing one's attention on what's being experienced. It offers such a deep tranquility and liberation from falsehood .

@Leo Gura Is it the case that people create fantasies and constructions to escape direct experience ? By the way contemplation leads to understanding of truth while direct experience leads to living with truth . Both are important but direct experience wins in case of truth.

I have come to the realisation that I can find a girlfriend no matter how many times I am rejected. I attracted 4 girls in 5 days. @Leo Gura Is this assumption high quality that if even 2 girls respond warmly to your advancements in a time period of over 1 month then you are already successful with girls ? Thanks.

@Hibahere Welcome back to the forum. I thought you became inactive on the forum.

@Consept Tell them in a polite way that you didn't like their actions and if the situation escalates then distance yourself from them by stop contacting them. By the way sorry for your situation. I mean , I know it's easy to give advice but difficult to implement.

@Clarence You have overcame one of the most toughest battles in life. Great! As it was one of the quotes of Socrates (I don't know weather Socrates said it or not): Respect everyone because everyone you meet is fighting a tough battle. - I think this need to be understood by me and the forum members since it's a self-improvement forum.