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Stay in hostels and you'll make friends very quickly. If you're solo travelling and staying in hotels instead of hostels, you're doing it wrong. Most of the best friends I have right now are all people I met in a hostel at one point or another.

No, I had friends take them Random people will rarely take good quality photos of you, but I guess it's better than nothing.

Travelling a bunch was the best thing that ever happened for my Tinder/Hinge profile. You just get a lot of cool photos of yourself without really trying. My main pic is a staged photo of me though. You want at least one clear headshot that is really well taken, but the rest should be in-the-moment photos of stuff you're doing.

Some people are lucky that they have a kind of natural motivation and drive. Some other people are lucky that they find their purpose in life early. There are lots of different reasons. Generally people who seem to have crazy energy levels are very internally motivated and don't need to burn through a lot of willpower to stay motivated. A lot of us are externally motivated and we need to burn through our willpower reserves to keep motivated, which is not sustainable and burns you out.

Wow I haven’t seen this dude in probably 10 years

Great argument Use your imagination sometimes, watch porn sometimes. Can you actually explain why you think porn is bad for you instead of just asserting that it is the case? IMO in moderation porn isn't bad for you, but if you believe it is then you'll feel guilt and shame and a whole other concoction of negative emotions.

The problem here is the shame, not the jerking off to porn. Jerking off once a day is not going to hurt you in any meaningful way unless you attach a ton of shame to it.

My general opinion is that once you hit 25, everything is fair game. 21-25 is a bit of a grey area, it depends on circumstances. <21 the age gap should rarely exceed 2-3 years. 30 and 20 is extreme and I think most people would agree with that. What on earth do a 30 year old and a 20 year old have in common? Almost nothing Yea that $30 saved from not buying things on amazon and having subscriptions is really gonna save you from your $2000/m rent for a two bed house Watching stuff about the modern world isn't the same as actually living in it. If you have next to zero real life experience you'll struggle to raise healthy children.

It's not like these are the only two options. Financially stable with kids is the realistic ideal for most people. You'd need a man in the top 10% of earners to comfortably support a mother and multiple kids on a single income. By definition there aren't enough men in the top 10% to make this a viable option for most couples/women. This isn't the 50s anymore where a median income could support an entire family. Also, a 30 year old has little business dating a 20 year old. He'd be using her as a sex/breeding machine and she'd be using him as an ATM, because there will be little to no emotional connection with that age difference in the vast majority of cases. The grandparents who also haven't really lived a life because they had kids at 19? They also haven't existed or lived in the modern world, they can provide some general life wisdom but not as much practical advice as parents who actually lived a life in somewhat modern times.

Having a kid at 20 in the modern world is generally not very sustainable unless you were born into an already wealthy family or you somehow find a rich husband. A dude earning median salary (or even significantly above median) is not going to be able to support his 20 year old wife and their kids. Providing a good life for a family on a single average income is just not feasible now. Also, if you have zero career skills at 45 and try to enter the workforce, nobody is going to hire you. The difficulty in kickstarting a successful career at 45 is INSANE. Honestly, I don't get the big deal with having kids in your late twenties or early thirties. You get to actually experience the world instead of being stuck at home 24/7, plus you are more financially stable when you do decide to have kids so you can provide a better life for them. I don't have proof for this, but I suspect that parents who have actually lived their own lives before having kids make better parents. How are you expected to teach your kids how to live a good life if you never have?

He's the perfect example of a very intelligent person who has a deeply flawed world view. He can create extremely convincing, eloquent, and logical arguments which resonate with a lot of people... but they're all based on a deeply flawed view of the world.

I have no idea what point you’re even trying to make here. This reads like an acid trip ramble

What in the fuck are you smoking Most of the cringiest corniest things I have heard or saw have all been from US people. Are you seriously trying to suggest that your average American is less corny than your average German?

I think women typically prefer balanced men. It is not really correct to say they prefer betas or alphas. The ideal is a man who is masculine, but not so masculine that they become scary. Confident, but not arrogant. Physically strong, but not obscene looking. You get the idea. The flawed thinking here is that these balanced men (who women really do prefer) are 'beta'. Or in other words that not being hyper-masculine makes you a beta. This just isn't true. The men who are well balanced overall don't fit the stereotypical definition of a beta, nor the definition of an alpha. Generally a beta is a dude who lacks confidence, is kinda boring, doesn't have anything particularly unique or interesting about him. Not many women are going to look for a man like that.

This is so judgy