Mason Riggle

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  1. @Roy yeah, I think we all get that. This isn't Leo bashing. He does present his views on dating/pick up as an Authority here, and in his Actualized videos on the subject, and so I don't see a problem with this type of critique. It's a little awkward to do it here, since it's his forum, but it wouldn't seem so controversial if this same thread appeared on some other forum, or if Leo wasn't the subject in question. It's a worthwhile topic. Of course we value Leo's views and insights or none of us would be here.
  2. @Preety_India I don't think you're super far off base with your assessment. His dating advice seems aimed at short term hookups rather than finding fulfilling long term relationships. I've had plenty of casual sex, two week flings, months long relationships, years long relationships, and his advice seems to lack nuance and he paints with very broad stokes. I've had 'success' with many different strategies, and with no strategy.. sometimes you just get lucky. If all you're trying to do is get laid, a prostitute is like a sure fire bet, but 'just hire a hooker' is horrible dating advice.
  3. @Nahm excellent advice.
  4. @mememe I'm sure it played a role. Relapse rates have skyrocketed since Covid
  5. @ivankiss thanks for the support! And I appreciate @Nahms words as well. I've left a very similar relationship before. I know that's always an option for me. Circumstances are different this time, however. My S/O is a *recovering* addict, and she was sober for the first 6 years of our relationship, but she relapsed and the past year as been a living nightmare.
  6. @ivankiss I'm currently in the position you were in. It seems impossible.
  7. @Gabith for me (the organism named Mason Riggle), the notion of a 'thinker' in addition to what my organism is always already doing (thinking, breathing, growing, digesting, etc) is easily dispelled by remembering, and accepting, that no matter what I do, it's always just more 'me being me', which my organism does automatically. I couldn't 'not be like myself' if I tried, because that's just more 'me being like myself'. Notions of 'guilt', 'shame', 'forgiveness', all imply a 'doer' on top of 'what's happening', and this 'doer' doesn't exist. You don't feel the urge to forgive a volcano for spewing lava on the neighboring village, because you know the volcano is just being a volcano, without any 'locus of attention' called 'volcano' inside the volcano somewhere controlling how it is itself.. who exactly would you forgive??.. the volcano just is itself.. and so are you, and so am I.
  8. Can't have up without down.. You want just the inside of a cup with no outside of a cup, but that's not how reality works.
  9. @Thought Art recognize that the 'bubbles' are not as separate as you might imagine. When I say to you, 'don't think of a pink elephant', I am shaping your bubble... your bubble is shaped by 'everything which is not your bubble'. In this way you might recognize how everything is interdependent on everything else (it's all one system).. there is no 'separation'. Where is the triangle? If the triangle in this picture could talk.. it might say, 'I am not separate from that which is not me, in fact, if what I am is what is not me, I must be all of it.'
  10. Through meditation you may begin to recognize your own thoughts coming on the exact same way the chirping of a bird does.. every bit of 'your experience' arising into awareness, with no 'you' who's doing any of it. Reality happens.
  11. @Leo Gura 'dancing around'.. cute metaphor. Language is metaphor, and shitty is subjective. 'raining cats and dogs' and 'pouring out' point to the same thing.. but if you think 'raining cats and dogs' means that actual cats and dogs are falling from the sky, then obviously you will think that's a pretty shitty metaphor for what's actually occurring with the weather. If you understand the metaphor, it's a perfectly good one.
  12. @Someone here I suppose I can't see a difference between the two.