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I hear you, you can also simplify things by setting the intention to connect with a woman who has a deep love of the truth/God.

Still not sure what you mean, are you saying you get into a relationship so you can be someone's mentor ?

@LordFall So you find a relationship kind of useless if the other person can't also serve as your therapist ?

@LordFall How does polyamory involve more trust and communication than a regular relationship ? I think as far as AI goes, lets look at empathy for example. When someone is faking empathy, you can feel it. An AI might say all the right words and use the right body language, but it can't actually be real empathy in the true sense of the word. (Because it's just trained empathy.)

@LordFall My intention with this thread was not to place monogamy or marriage on a pedestal, but simply to speak to some of the practicalities in making such a relationship work, should one be so inclined. I can see how AI girlfriends can bring some healing, mostly by avoiding the pain of rejection, but ultimately don't we all want to be in a more soulful relationship ? As far as abuse, neglect and communication issues goes, isn't this why self healing and growth is so important ? Do you really believe that polyamory for example is exempt from these challenges ?

I think you may have just opened my mind to a whole new way of relating to this topic, cheers mate !

@Adrian colby Thanks, I like this parts work type stuff. Really helps one to see parts that have been labelled as 'lazy' or 'self sabotaging' etc in a completely new light.

Thanks man, IFS therapy looks fascinating, I'm going to look into it more. I tried something a little different/similar once called Family Constellations. The person who's receiving the healing will sit on a chair in the front of the room. The other participants will stand in different positions in the room, representing different family members (alive or deceased) of that person. As the facilitator guides the process, lets say I'm representing that person's grandmother, then I literally experience the emotions of the grandmother, connected to the particular trauma in question. Person in the chair has a lot of aha's and integration when hearing the participants verbalize what they are experiencing. Somehow taking part in the whole process brings healing to everyone involved. Don't ask me how it works, it just does. Haven't tried it for years, but it's really powerful.

Yeah I hear you, once interplanetary travel becomes a real thing, I wouldn't mind some life extension myself, just not the cyborg kind.

It's good to have new generations bringing through fresh waves of creativity on a regular basis, but I hear you.

Im not saying it's impossible for there to be adult trauma without any link to childhood. But 99 percent of the time there is still some kind of echo. When you look at any adult trauma, and you boil it down to its essential emotion and meaning given, it's still helpful to honestly check when you first experienced something like that with a similar texture/flavor. (even if on the surface it appears to be two different themes.) For example, lets say someone lost a parent at a very young age. And then in their 30's they experience a devastating relationship breakup. Seemingly unrelated events right ? But energetically it could simply be an opportunity to complete the grieving process, for which the child didn't have the capacity nor the intelligence at the time.

The unhealed traumas from childhood repeat themselves in adulthood, disguised as brand new traumas. That is, until we heal the root. Most people live their 'adult' lives through the filter of childhood decisions. These decisions usually take the form of a self negating lie, ie not being good enough etc. As children we also develop coping strategies to prevent the trauma from ever happening again. Although valid during childhood, these coping mechanisms screw us over during adulthood. Healing basically involves a clear recognition that the original decision was based on a lie, and that it's safe now to surrender the coping strategy, as well as beneficial, because all it's really doing is preventing one's limitless potential from taking the reigns.

Yeah, as far as dating sites go, i have a feeling it's pretty good.

@Flowerfaeiry Thank you, yeah I have a feeling that visualizing all these protective bubbles just don't work as well as simply being in a state of overflowing love.