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  1. Posted

    19 hours ago, Loba said:

    So what I do now when this starts to happen, is I try to take a step back and instead of viewing them as this unobtainable gem - I try to see them in a realistic manner, warts and all.  I will actively search for reasons as to why we are incompatible, why letting the person go is the best thing that I can do for myself and for them.  No one is perfect, people usually have a lot of flaws and incompatibilities.  Try seeing those in this person, instead of just the good, try to detach through an honest, detailed introspection as to why this person is not right for you.  Every time you catch yourself thinking about her, remind yourself of something that is unflattering about her.  Keep doing this and eventually the crush will stop causing you problems.

    @Loba tysm man I try to come up with things I hate about her, but if I'm being honest to myself I know that I still love her. Like I know she has many flaws. She's not the perfect girl which I won't find ever again. Yet I know I still love her. I just know that I can't stay mad on her for too long or be upset with her for more than a few days. I will try this more deeply though, especially the part  about ''Try seeing those in this person, instead of just the good, try to detach through an honest, detailed introspection as to why this person is not right for you.'' Because  if she was right for me we would already be together. But we aren't, so clearly we are not compatible. If she can see it, surely I can too.

     

     

    18 hours ago, puporing said:

    There's no "practical"/surface level solution to this that I've found. I've been this way most my life until having some awakenings. But maybe since you're a guy, you can be more assertive and pursue more women, but still might not satisfy.. I recommend both.

    @puporing I am not saying I have tried pick up extensively, something I probably should try, but I have tried to ''fuck'' these feelings away. If it wasn't with some random chick I would just pay hookers. Yet this proved to be of no success. I would be mid-lovemaking and think about her. Or mid-kissing someone in a club and thinking about her. It would ruin the entire experience. Of course, like most other people here, I hope to achieve awakening one day and fully forget about her. However I can't just trust that I will magically awaken. That is a whole another process, something which you should pursue with much more grounded reasons than ''wanting to forget a girl''.

     

     

    16 hours ago, eos_nyxia said:

    who would you most ideally be with this person? What would you most be able to freely express or become? What specific things draw out this desire in you as opposed to another?

    @eos_nyxia The answer to these questions is just being my utmost self, because I can be that with her. I am in my best mood when talking to her. Normally I am not that social or anything, but with her I can just talk away. We have had hours of conversations because she understands me and I her. We think about people a certain way, have the same type of humour etc. I guess my inner desire to socialize comes out when talking to her. My inner need for social affection.

     

     

    15 hours ago, Gesundheit2 said:
    • Don't resist the thoughts, cuz why resist? Instead, enjoy them, cuz why not enjoy?
    • Shift your focus to the people and things that you want to get; Law of Attraction.

    @Gesundheit2 For the past few weeks I have made it a habit to practice Law of Attraction everytime she comes to my mind, which happens way too much per day. So I already do these things.

  2. Posted

    So there is a girl which I have loved a lot for the past few years. We were never a thing, never dated. I have personally dated other girls throughout these years and I'm sure she has dated as well. I am just honestly sick of thinking about her everyday. The times I came clean with my emotions she didn't respond the way I wanted her to and honestly I don't think she has the same feelings. I know I can't get her, I don't mind that I can't get her, but I just want to forget about her. I want to stop viewing everything with her in mind. I want to stop dreaming about her and pretending to have conversation with her in my head. I want to detach from her. Forget her. I am not being dramatic when I say it feels like a curse. I can straight up kiss and make love with other girls, meanwhile the only thing I am thinking about is her.

    How do I detach from her? Do you guys know any guides, books, whatever. I want to associate no emotions with her. I want to be able to pretend like she doesn't exist and just move on with my life. I am tired of feeling let down every time I think I am getting close. I am tired of constantly having her in my thoughts. Please, any suggestions would suffice.

  3. Posted

    @Something Funny you’re right it’s huge, but not all the clubs are in walking distance for me so I was limited with how many I could visit. For some reason most good bars (with cheap drinks) are on the outskirts of the city while I am staying close to the Duomo. Even those on Tripadvisor are not in the city centre. 
     

    Also it was not like I could get the shoes that night with most stores being closed, not that I was planning to anyway. Everything is so expensive here.

  5. Posted · Edited by Ampresus

    Hello everyone.

    Yesterday I felt like being an approach RSD guru and decided to go out on my own here in Milaan, Italy. I thought it only made sense that this city has a good nightlife and that I should give it a try before I leave. 
     

    I try to enter 1 club. “Sorry there is a dresscode and those shoes aren’t allowed.”

    I try to enter another club. “Sorry this is a private party you can’t get in through payment or whatever.”

    Already defeated, I walk to the third club where I knew I could get in but had to pay €30 for the entrance. Fuck it I thought, game requires sacrifices I guess. I walk in and lo and behold there are 20 girls just dancing on a podium. There were only 2 other guys there. What the actual fuck is this place. I talk with one of the girls who approached me and I soon realized they are strippers/hookers. Left without even finishing my drink.

    Now I have had a similar disappointing night in Turkey, where I couldn’t even get into a club without having a girl with me. The fuck are these stupid rules man. When I was in Crete, Greece I could literally walk into any club without anyone batting an eye. Why are other places so goddamn hard to walk into? 
     

    You might say “approach some girls and try to get one with you to one of clubs” and I tried this. But said girls were always scared and wanted to leave the convo in 5s. I am still a newbie and just wanted to try some nightgame here my god why is it so difficult.

     

    Does anyone know how I find some clubs who will just let me in? Or at least not have strippers/hookers as the main attraction? I think I’ll stick to daygame for a long time because this club life where you get in if you have some status and wealth really doesn’t suit me. Why can’t a man just party in peace for God’s sake.

  8. Posted

    Hello everybody.

    Yesterday I came back from Crete after a long week of partying, drinking and kissing. I learnt a lot in those few days. It was also my first time drinking! 
     

    On the last day we went to a waterpark and I actually managed to get the Instagram and a kiss from an employee. I tried to get her to come out with me that same evening, since it was my last day there, but she said she was unavailable. 
     

    Now normally I would just think “whatever, enough fish in the sea” and move on. When I told her that I would be leaving the next day however, she was really upset and kept sending pictures on Instagram calling me cute and adorable. She insisted on me coming back, saying that she wished that kiss lasted longer. I think you can see where I am going with this.

     

    I can afford to go back in August. My dick is telling me I should, but my mind says it is just too weird to travel all the way back for one girl. I learnt a lot of game and intend to do more approaches back at home anyway, so why travel all the way to Greece for a girl? Then again… I really want her haha.

    What would you do? Currently I am planning to go back in August, but will keep doing approaches on random girls until then. It’s not like I’m married with her after all. 

  11. Posted

    Please don’t take this post too seriously.

    Yesterday I partied drunk for the first time and had the time of my life. I finally get what people mean when they say they are more social when drunk. I understand that for pick-up relying on being drunk is not a good strategy, but I feel like this experience showed me how social I can truly be if I gave 0 f*cks. I talked and danced with so many girls and even guys. I made like 3 guy-friends at that club alone. I have been struggling a lot with socializing and loneliness and this experience has given me hope that I don’t need to be scared and alone forever. 
     

    With that out of the way, the “small dick” joke did make some girls burst out in laughter. Though there were also plenty who were simply like “you know that is not a good pick up line right?” which confused me at the time. I wasn’t even trying to hit on them at that point, I just had way too much fun calling my own dick small. Are there any other counter intuitive things to say like this? I feel like they are a lot of fun. 
     

    Going out at clubs is a bit difficult though I won’t lie. Girls decide in 2 seconds whether they will dance with you or not. Regardless, I complimented a lot of men and women and they all seemed to enjoy that. Made me feel great too. If anyone has a bit more experience with clubs please feel free to share some advice. I will go out tonight again and I will call my dick small again!

  12. Posted · Edited by Ampresus

    Hello everyone.

    So I would say a week ago or so, I experienced something I hadn't in a long time. I laid in bed late at night and for some reason my mind blacked out. Like it went quiet. Not in the sense of mind voice was gone, but as if I was nothing. Like there was nothing. I hope I make sense when I say these things because that is truly what it felt like. Like my thoughts were just thoughts. I looked around and my walls and windows were just that. Empty space like myself. I felt like I was in an endless pit. I was just trying to sleep and then this happened. I even got a bit teary. I was stressing about so many things and now they were all gone. After a few minutes of intense ''being nothing'' it calmed down and I came back.

    The only other time I had experienced something similar was during meditation a year ago. Back when I was very into it (im sorry guys I havent meditated in a while I know you're all ready to cite all the reasons I should start again but just bear with me). During this one particular meditation session I entered ''a state'' I guess where my thoughts went quiet. I literally had 0 thoughts for a solid 4-5 mins and was astounded. It was not even like a special session, I was just going through the daily habit of meditating. Nothing out of the ordinary.

    Anyways I guess my question is: what did just happen? Like does it have a name? Was it a state? Or something more?

  13. Posted

    @Ryan_047 Welcome to yt lol. At the end of the day it's a platform where everyone competes for your attention, so of course some of his titles and thumbnails will be clickbaity. I personally don't know how they got to 3.4-4.4g/kg protein per day without overusing protein powder or just eating chicken all day. I am struggling to get 160g in everyday, yet here he says that doing twice that is perfectly fine. Regardless he makes the best fitness yt videos as far as I know.

  16. Posted

    7 hours ago, Ryan_047 said:

     

    @UDT

    What is the necessary amount of protein that is needed on a daily basis? I've heard people say 0.8-1 grams and other say 2g. I also heard people argue whether the animal based protein or plant based protein is better.  Could you please link some resources?

     

    Watch this video by Jeff Nippard, one of the most well-respected fitness guys on YT. He explains everything you want to know, based on scientific studies that he links in the description of each video:

     

  19. Posted

    On 19/02/2022 at 3:09 AM, Leo Gura said:

    Look at the FDA/EPA guidelines for consumption of fish.

    Or we can just look at the EFSA and gather what they are saying:
    ''However fish can also contribute significantly to the dietary exposure to contaminants such as methylmercury, dioxins and PCBs, brominated flame retardants, camphechlor and organotin compounds. Concentrations of these contaminants in fish vary with the nature of the contaminant and the type of fish. Fat soluble contaminants (such as dioxins and dioxin-like compounds) are especially found in fatty fish, e.g. salmon and herring. In contrast, methymercury levels are not related to the fat content of the fish but due to its accumulation in the food chain, methylmercury is present in higher amounts in large predatory fish (such as swordfish and tuna).

    High consumers of top predatory fish such as pike or tuna (especially bluefin or albacore tuna, not likely to be found in canned tuna in Europe) may exceed the provisionally tolerable weekly intake (PTWI) for methylmercury. High consumers of fatty fish may exceed the PTWI for dioxins and dioxin-like compounds.''

    ''Intakes of contaminants in fish other than methylmercury and dioxins and PCBs, are not a health concern. Fish do not contribute significantly to total dietary exposure to these contaminants, and where it does, it is unlikely that even high consumers of fish exceed the tolerable intake levels (where these have been established).''

    Basically don't eat too much fish, esp not stuff like bluefin, and you won't exceed PTWI. Almost as if peope have been eating sea food for years and can keep doing so! Crazy!
    https://www.efsa.europa.eu/en/news/efsa-provides-advice-safety-and-nutritional-contribution-wild-and-farmed-fish

    (Same authority also says that replacing fish with meat won't make much of a difference, since that can still exceed PTWI if gone too far. If you're really worried about it, I suggest going for a more plant-based diet.)

  20. Posted

    Ngl I personally think this whole ''sea-food = poison'' is the stupidest thing I have heard in a while. Haven't watched Leo's video about it and I won't bother, but if you truly want to avoid it though here are some other options:
    - Cottage cheese
    - Nuts, seeds, legumes
    - Yoghurt (the lower the fat, the better)
    - Whey protein (though ppl on this forum are also scared of that apparently)
    - Stuff like peanut butter or almond butter

    I personally eat meats and fish on top everything I mentioned here, besides whey protein (I have yet to order it for the first time). In the end it's up to you ofc.

  21. Posted

    Hello everyone.

    Yesterday I might have just had the best day of my life. I met up with a girl I had been talking to and my god did we have fun. It seemed like everything went fine, but after pumping for a solid 30 minutes I realized I just couldn't cum. I got hard to a certain degree, but cumming was mostly off the table. I came close to orgasming once, and after it never really came back.

    I made her cum though, which I am proud of. I wasn't born yesterday, I know women like more than penetration and so I ate her out. She said she truly enjoyed it and that I needn't worry about it. She said it might just be because it's my first time, the nerves and all that.

    Thank the lord she wants to see me again and so I will be visiting her next Saturday. I am so happy that I did get laid, but I truly want to cum next time. One thing that I am already taking into account is not fapping. I won't cum until I meet her, that's for sure. I thought by not fapping for ~2 days I would surely cum when I got to her, but apparently that wasn't enough.

    Do you guys have any other advice? Anyone with experience perhaps? I am not even the low libido type of dude. Personally I think it comes because I fap too much, but I am open for all suggestions.

  22. Posted

    Am also Dutch and I completely agree with MaxV. I would say Volt is the most conscious party at the moment, though unfortunately very small.

    Btw conservative parties are actually rising in numbers. A quick look at FvD should tell you enough. On YouTube alone they gather the most amount of views. NOS, for example, interviewed (using viewer requested questions) a bunch of party-leaders and it's clear with numbers alone how popular Thierry really is. He got +100k views on his interview, double of current minister-president Mark Rutte. His YouTube channel is just a minefield of hit after hit. Compared to his channel, GroenLinks and ChristenUnie (for example) are failing miserably.

    I don't know too much about politics in general, especially about my own country, but I can already tell that they are destined for something big. Their popularity is increasing with every controversial tweet. I don't think they'll be the biggest, not even close, but they'll definitely leave a mark in parliament. Am guessing at least 8 seats, if I'm wrong it just proves how little I really know about politics in my country.

    Piratenpartij is also great, they want to legalize shrooms!

  24. Posted

    Good day everyone.

    As my last years of high school are coming to an end, I have basically made two options for myself:
    1. I take a gap year, buy Leo's course and try to finish it within that year. I'll know what I want, how to get it and what I need to get it at the end of the year.
    2. I go to university, get myself a degree so I am secure in that regard and then pursue one of many dreams which I have.

    As of right now I am not 100% certain what I want. I always thought I wanted to become something big like an astronaut, which is still something I really want to be, but I see now that it might be smarter to go for other options. Especially Leo's blog post about universities really made me question whether it would be smart to go to one.

    Psychedelics researcher, full-time video-editor or primatologist are my other options right now. My interest is high in these fields and maybe just going for the astronaut route might not be that fun. Apparently I'd need at least a degree in something like aerospace engineering, something which in and of itself doesn't seem THAT interesting to me, but is certainly something I'd consider doing if that's what it takes to become an astronaut.

    The gap year would really help me figure out what I want, though lets say the course doesn't take too long I would end up not doing much for the remainder of the year. You can only apply for universities every year you know. I would have loads of free time left not knowing what to do.

    If you have any advice, suggestions or general remarks about universities and stuff, please let me know. So far my only informant about universities has been Leo calling them all evil and personally I am still a bit skeptic about that. Maybe he's right, I don't know.

  25. Posted

    Good day everyone.

    Life is getting real for me believe it or not. I wanted to search for studies and follow the intructions my school gave me today to prepare a bit, but realized very quickly that a lot of different studies seem interesting to me. For example, on one hand I want to do something in primatology, but on the other hand I want to study psychedelics too.

    As I was going down the entire list of studies which fit my favorite categories (33 pages total, 10 studies per page), I only got to page 10 before having to slow down. I have written down 21 studies already. Stuff is getting overwhelming.

    I think it would be best if I hear some personal stories. Where did you guys study? I was personally planning to go to university somewhere in Canada, but am open to any options really. What did you guys like/dislike about studying? How long did the study take? Did you have time to visit friends/family or just in general any free time? Did it take time to adjust to studying instead of normal school? Have you ever been to a university?

    Last but not least: How can I implement self-actualization into this? I want to connect my path here with my study, hence why studying psychedelics seems so interesting to me. Not trying to become the next Terence Mckenna or anything, but the scientific research behind all of it seems so fascinating.

    Cheers.