Feeling empty after sex

[Vlad_]

Every time after I cum I feel like my energy level is zero. It also makes me seek some more stimulation  which makes me feel worse eventually. 

It doesn't matter wether I have emotional connection with girl's personality or I'm just phisically attracted. The end is the same.

Also when I'm in relationships I'm getting used to the same pussy very quickly and I crave something new. Is it healthy? How to define it? By which criteria and whose authority? 

[Osaid]

1 hour ago, Vlad_ said:

Every time after I cum I feel like my energy level is zero

Like, do you feel fatigued? Brain fog maybe?

If so, it might be POIS (Post-Orgasmic Illness Syndrome):

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How to define it? By which criteria and whose authority? 

Is it sustainable and practical in the long run? Is it having a noticeably negative effect? Simply look at what kind of effect it will have on your life and decide from there.

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Also when I'm in relationships I'm getting used to the same pussy very quickly and I crave something new.

I would say this is normal to a certain degree. Something new and novel will be more exciting, yes. But it shouldn't ruin sex or make sex hard to enjoy. I think that indicates an imbalance.

You could try abstaining for a while to build up libido.

Edited January 27, 2023 by Osaid

[mr_engineer]

@Vlad_ How much do you care about her experience? 

From what I've seen, if you're having sex for the pleasure, if the pleasure is the only thing motivating you to have it, it will not fulfil you. Simply because pleasure is not happiness.

• Pat yourself on the back for seeing this, first and foremost.
• Then, stop chasing sex for a while. 
• These are the symptoms of a sex-addiction. Heal it like you would heal any other addiction - by working on the trauma you're using the addiction to run away from. 
• Keep doing this, until you discover yourself deeper in a sexual context. Specifically, who you are as a giver of sexual pleasure. 
• Then, seek out a compatible partner and commit to her. 

[vladorion]

If you feel bad after cumming you probably cum too often and depleting your energy a lot.

Try to abstain for a while and let sexual energy build up. Then cum and see if there's a difference vs how you normally feel after cumming.

You can also learn to orgasm without ejaculation.

Edited January 27, 2023 by vladorion

[Roy]

3 hours ago, Vlad_ said:

Every time after I cum I feel like my energy level is zero

That's your body relaxing and releasing built up tension. It's a good thing. Sex is supposed to be therapeutic and enjoyable. It sounds like you're resisting that a bit, I mean at least from what I'm discerning from this short post. Why would you need to have energy after sex? Sit there and cuddle with your girl, they want that. You don't have to go back to work doing chores 20 minutes after cumming lol.

3 hours ago, Vlad_ said:

Also when I'm in relationships I'm getting used to the same pussy very quickly and I crave something new. Is it healthy?

That's a very normal Ego thing. We are men and our reptilians brains are wired to fuck everything we can and spread our genes everywhere. I see at least 20 women a day I'd like to bed wrestle with, but I don't act on it. Of course this isn't sustainable and or stable for raising families, so we can't satisfy that urge. It's selfishness that you have to watch out for within yourself. That's where the work is. To identify those selfish thoughts and feelings and manage them appropriately.

Is it healthy or unhealthy per se to want sex with different people? That's really up to what kind of lifestyle you want to live. Observe how it makes other people feel though. If you are having sex with women and discarding them from your life quickly, their reactions should tell you all you need to know.

Is your personal gain coming at the expense of others or your environment? What are you offering back in return? That's your criteria.

Edited January 27, 2023 by Roy

[Eyowey]

Sex is the most important thing in life so after doing it you will feel like there's nothing left to do. It takes about a week to reach homeostasis after cumming. Ideally you cum once a month during her ovulation.

[Leo Gura]

7 hours ago, Vlad_ said:

Every time after I cum I feel like my energy level is zero. It also makes me seek some more stimulation  which makes me feel worse eventually. 

This is not normal or healthy. Look deeper into your health.

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Also when I'm in relationships I'm getting used to the same pussy very quickly and I crave something new. Is it healthy? How to define it? By which criteria and whose authority? 

That's normal. The longer the relationship the less sex you will tend to have, until eventually it reaches zero.

Which is why guys like pickup so much. It gives them the variety the ego craves. But chasing variety becomes its own curse.

One healthy solution to this I found is to not see your girlfriend too often. Once a week, or even once a month will keep the sex exciting. If you have sex many times per week you will burn through her quickly. The problem isn't that it's the same pussy, but that you use it too often.

Of course porn is a nice way to get that variety in between your girlfriend.

Edited January 27, 2023 by Leo Gura

[mmKay]

7 hours ago, Vlad_ said:

Also when I'm in relationships I'm getting used to the same pussy very quickly and I crave something new. Is it healthy?How to define it?

Vr headset ?

[StarStruck]

You can do tantra, having sex without reaching the animal orgasm, tantra is a much deeper and satisfying experience which will build deeper relationship with your partner. If you orgasm all the time, you will lose your spark very quick unless you are a teen and horny as fuck. Tantra provides a solution but a sacrifice is needed: having sex from your higher being instead from your animal self.

Also cutting out porn will help. Porn and such are programming your mind to desire variability. Because of porn you become like an animal wanting to spread your seed. Back in the day (ask old people) they didn't have porn and they would just do it with one partner their whole lives. I know old people who only had 1 sex partner and when I ask them if they feel like they missed out on something they will say no.

 

Edited January 27, 2023 by StarStruck

[Vido]

Yea, with porn, you just don't know if the women are a victim of human trafficking or domestic abuse or blackmail. They look like they like it but you do never know and the amount of women who will do out because of such reasons is crazy high

[Hercolubus]

Have you looked into white tantra, karezza and semen retention? Your energy levels going down makes sense since you're literally wasting your energy instead of transmuting it. Do not listen to anyone who says that you can't see your partner too often or that it is inevitable to get bored and want someone else, It's simply not true. It might be the case if you keep doing what you're doing, but it doesn't have to be that way. You can have a loving relationship and stay in the honeymoon phase for the rest of your lives if you genuinely want to.

[Leo Gura]

5 minutes ago, Hercolubus said:

Your energy levels going down makes sense since you're literally wasting your energy instead of transmuting it.

This makes no sense.

Why would a monkey's energy be lost from sex? Sex is what monkeys do all the time.

I've never lost energy from cumming.

Edited January 27, 2023 by Leo Gura

[Kshantivadin]

3 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

I've never lost energy from cumming.

Whilst suffering from chronic fatigue. Maybe you never gave your body time to "store" the energy so you never felt like you lost it. 

10 hours ago, Vlad_ said:

Also when I'm in relationships I'm getting used to the same pussy very quickly and I crave something new. Is it healthy? How to define it? By which criteria and whose authority? 

I think it's the Coolidge effect from cumming often. You can bypass this by simply not ejaculating with your partner. Takes balls though  the rewards are immense imo. 

I think all guys should know that it's possible to orgasm without ejaculating. The two are separate, making ejaculation redundant. 

[integral]

Why would I ever have an orgasm? It represents the end of sex. 

[Leo Gura]

43 minutes ago, Kshantivadin said:

Whilst suffering from chronic fatigue.

Unrelated issue.

Dude, I've been cumming since I was 14.

I can cum three times in a row and I have more energy than before.

Edited January 27, 2023 by Leo Gura

[Waves]

@Leo Gura From what you've shared and by looking at what you've been able to create so far, you seem to naturally have exceptional amounts of creative/sexual energy.

For a lot of us: we nut = we tired

[The Mystical Man]

You guys need more Jesus in your lives:

 

[Vido]

11 minutes ago, Waves said:

@Leo Gura From what you've shared and by looking at what you've been able to create so far, you seem to naturally have exceptional amounts of creative/sexual energy.

For a lot of us: we nut = we tired

Haha that's why guys fall asleep after sex and the girl being annoyed is a trope in movies

[Hercolubus]

31 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Unrelated issue.

Dude, I've been cumming since I was 14.

I can cum three times in a row and I have more energy than before.

Are you absolutely sure it's unrelated? Have you tried white tantra, karezza, semen retention and transmutation? Maybe the problem will go away. 

 

[StarStruck]

No human is super human. Everybody has a ball sack. Some bigger than others and this will give the person more kundalini/sexual/creative energy. I hope you guys excuse my French but my balls are huge and even I need recovery time simply because it is a huge tax on the body to make semen. There is no short cuts and cheats to this. If you live in 3D world you are bound to the same rules. A spiritual or health shortcut always end as a deal with the devil with the metaphorical dick up your own ass.