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  1. Soo quick question after my first mushroom trip (1.5g), which was rather mild: in one week I have the chance to trip again and it will be the last one for a while. What would be the next dosage, keeping in mind that I could still have some minor tolerance after 6 days? Should I go for 2g or 2.5g?
  2. I don't know much about brown flakes, but couldn't you simply have oats with fruits and some milk atlernative? You could also sprinkle some peanut butter, chia, flax and hemp seeds on top for 'em healthy fats.
  3. I think quorn is a good first substitute to meat. It's delicious and packed with proteins. Bear in mind that it's still a processed food: it consists of myco(=fungus)proteins and commonly egg albumen, but at least is not classified as probable carcinogenic, as red meat is. I love to prepare ground quorn as a chili con quorn or simply have quorn cubes with some kind of sauce, veggies and rice. If you're looking for even healthier alternatives, go for beans and lentils
  4. @Leo Gura Thanks! You have no idea of how precious and relevant to my current situation your two latest videos are 🙏 Or maybe you do 😄
  5. @ivory Thank you very much for your insights! I will keep these in mind as I go through the next days. The hope is to get out some authentic truths about myself, anything will be considered a success. Then I'll continue my travels and exploration process.
  6. Nothing? Not even a tiny question?
  7. Background In two days I'm going to begin my solo journaling retreat of 7 days. I decided to do this because for the first time in two years I have the time to decompress and put what happened into perspective, especially since these last 4 months have been more intense than usual. I'm at a point where I still lack a compelling vision for my future. I only know here and there what I want to do or could be doing, but right now I feel like everything could be open, and I want to get to the bottom of what I want so that I can choose a proper path for my life purpose and personal growth. I'm also in a very lazy period, my motivation is low, although I'm traveling around in the US. It feels like I'm wasting my time and money here, whereas I thought of coming here to experience, explore and meet new people. So, on the advice of the latest @Leo Gura's video, I decided to cut to the chase and get real about what I'm here on earth to do. I've already been on a solo retreat before, trying to find my life purpose by taking a core portion of the LP course and reading a book, but I think I got distracted a bit there. I wasn't completely alone because of that and I didn't get a lot out of it, but it was still useful, and now I know how to organize the logistics. The plan What I'm going to do is think about my life and introspect. I want to get in touch with my authentic self, my desires, my motives, and with who I really am (not existentially, but as a personality). I'm going to meditate at least 1 hour, maybe 2, with Do Nothing and Mindfulness with Labeling. I'll do some stretching and basic strength exercises, not to get lost too much in my mind. I'm still unsure about how I want to structure the journaling though, and here I am asking for your advice: Would it be wiser to go for quality or for quantity of questions? Some core questions would be: What do I want in life? What have I been doing? <--Analyze what my past 2 years Who am I (as a personality)? What do I love the most about life? What is my greatest gift I could share with the world? Other than contemplating these questions, I think I'll do some sessions at the end of the day where I just let it all out, going with the flow. Additional questions: What are my strengths? What are my weaknesses? What do I fear? How do I play victim? What truths am I refusing to accept? What am I grateful for in my life? How am I being a weak human being? How am I lying to myself? How am I full of shit? Is there another way you would go about it? Other fundamental questions you would contemplate to figure out stuff about yourself? I want to make the most out of this. I'm open to any advice
  8. I think Leo's latest video is really relevant to your current situation, especially the first 25 minutes: Life Unfolds in Chapters & Phases
  9. @Nahm I'm really curious about this one, especially because I don't perceive/I'm not aware of these effects on my body and mental state. What exactly do you mean by sugar? Do you limit this category to disaccharides and monosaccharides like sucrose, glucose and fructose that are added to processed foods or do you expand it the more complex carbs contained in whole grains and potatoes? What kind of food did you quit that caused your mental clarity to diminish?
  10. Yeah, I know what it feels like. I'm in the same situation right now and I've been digging into this for some time. My situation comes from not having a father figure growing up (he passed away when I was 4) and being brought up by a deeply emotional wounded woman, who I sense didn't go through the sorrow in a healthy way. She closed her heart to love, she turned defensive and protective, with the only subconscious goal of shielding her children from hurt. But after all, how can I blame her? She went through an immense pain I can't even imagine, and she didn't have the tools or resourcefulness to cope with it. I, as a vulnerable child, grew up absorbing this defensive behavior. Vulnerability meant pain and getting hurt, so better not to be open to the world and not to risk, better to play it safe. As you can see, with this kind of deep, repetitive conditioning, it's pretty hard to remove the layers of this toxic shield. Being vulnerable can be an attitude, you can push yourself to share more of yourself with others, but I'm still inhibited in multiple ways, especially in social situations and with women. I can think of all the good reasons (logical and emotional) to socialize and talk to women, which can help to some extent to get you out there, but as you say, as soon as I see I can connect with people, I feel resistance, I perceive a block, a bomb of bullshit explodes and I don't end up expressing my authentic desire of connection, of intimacy. This is fear, and its role seems to protect us from hurt, and that's why we try not to be vulnerable. That's what I understood so far, but I have a lot more work to do. I now know what I have to do and I managed to push myself in certain situations. You can overcome this. These are some books that helped me shine awareness on the problem: The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem - N. Branden <-- The foundation No More Mr. Nice Guy - R. Glover <-- Emotional maturity Models - M. Manson <-- Dating, where the word "Vulnerability" struck me for the first time Good luck man! You've already made the first step to solve this.
  11. It was one of the first self-help books I read, and I think it's really valuable, especially if you don't have a model close to you that shows you what a healthy and grounded self-esteem looks like. It describes what it's like to be a happy and healthy human being and tells you that there's a higher ideal you have the potential to aspire to and become. I finished the book and waited some months before doing the exercises (I know, poor execution), until an event made me realize that I should work on my self-esteem. So I began completing the sentences every morning for 10 minutes, for 31 weeks I believe. I feel it worked as some kind of journaling therapy. It pushes you to come out with your true motives about life. It makes you think about the person you would like to become, about your blocks and fears, about things you repressed, about your desires, and ways you can improve. It's an empowering exercise that gives you trust and some insights about yourself. But, in my experience, it's only an uncovering process, a launching pad. You still have to go out and take the necessary steps to make change happen.
  12. Glad you found it useful You should check out other videos of him, he gives practical ways of studying efficiently. If you want to push yourself even more you could already type notes in your own words, which is what people who hand-write tend to do because they have a slower writing speed, so they have to choose carefully what to record and cannot just write all the speaker says. If you can do that while typing I think you make most of the gains possible, and yeah, it then comes down to how you play with the information and how well you can concretely apply it. In general I find that I remember stuff I hear just once only when it's really relevant to my situation, according to the good old principle of "good shit sticks" (heard it from Tim Ferriss).
  13. In class, I take notes on lecture slides, hand-writing on the iPad, which is pretty convenient. Then I formulate questions and answers in a google sheet document (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iIyDJK_SAjs) and when it comes to study I test myself on those. I found this works well with subjects like biology and physiology, but I have no experience with humanistic subjects. If you were thinking more about self-help books, I personally re-type what I underlined in books. I don't think it makes a difference whether I type or write, because I'm just copying and not formulating my own sentences. I'll then bold the key expression in my notes, for when I look at them again. By typing them I have a digital version, which is much more accessible and practical. The mental process and cognitive effort when you're taking notes and reviewing them (eg recalling information using your own words) is more important for retention than the way you record information.
  14. I was initially reluctant to try them out, especially because you have to pay for the audible subscription, and because I listened to podcasts during commutes. Then I decided to give them a go and I was surprised by their convenience and delivery of information, but this might have to do with my preference to listening. They're a good and practical way of being exposed to knaawledge. Concerning retention of information I don't feel there is much of a difference from reading. It just takes more effort to register quotes or information, that's why I often download the ebook version and take the important stuff out of there, especially action steps.
  15. @Leo Gura What do you suggest is a good balance to strike between handling basic needs and cultivating a spiritual sense? Or, put in other words, what amount/what kind of spiritual work do you feel is to be prioritized to slowly set the foundations for pursuing awakening later in life while the focus is on working on life purpose, developing a business, improving social and dating skills, ecc.? I know I want to handle the basics first, but I also don't want to abandon and forget about spirituality.