Waves

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  1. Just wanted to thank you all for contributing, you came up with pretty inspiring stuff. Keep rocking! I find myself one month later coming back to this thread as I attempt to refine my vision. Having these 5 investment written down and articulated is definitely proving structure for my imagination and daily actions. I'm also taking some time once a month to review how I did in the previous weeks and think about how I can concretely invest in these 5 areas in the following month, and which one to prioritize in the short term. Maybe it's helpful to somebody else too.
  2. @charlie cho It's a great idea to get accountability, but I'd suggest shifting your focus from getting an X amount of numbers (outcome) to doing a certain amount of approaches/having a certain amount of conversations (process). In this way you take on 100% responsibility to make it happen, whereas getting numbers is a bit more out of your control. Even when you get good you may have a period where most interactions go nowhere. Also in terms of the general journey to learn day game, focusing on the process of becoming a more social guy that is able to create deep connection with people is what will keep you going for the long term. And numbers sometimes don't mean anything, but go for what you feel is a challenge for you
  3. James Marshall or anyone of The Natural Lifestyles. These guys are masters of natural seduction and in general of living the good material life. Their approach is the most holistic you'll find out there. James has a great mind, is non-ideological, and has massive life experience, including with meditation (he has trained with monks). For example, this speech gives you the big picture of how learning dating and attraction integrates with your hero's journey.
  4. @flume It's mainly about the time, focus, energy you invest, in addition to the money. The episode was really good. The concept was rather simple, but it definitely changed and expanded my perspective on the "process" of going from vision to creation. I definitely recommend checking it out. Yes I didn't want to include the how, because the list would get too bulky, although some how items slipped in haha. Intelligence would be develop via contemplation, studying and experiencing multiple perspectives, integrating them via contemplation, gaining understanding, etc. Curiosity could emerge from the same process, as, usually, the more you learn and understand, the more you want to expand your map and incorporate other domains. Also, developing gratitude and really appreciating how limited your perspective is, could be another way of developing curiosity. With spiritual practices you can certainly become more child-like and tune in with the beauty around you, which just makes you more fascinated and curious about the world.
  5. @Scholar Cool, my bad. I noticed that you seem to bring a good portion of emotional investment in your attempt to pin him down on the spiral, I don't think it's serving you to gain an accurate idea. I'm sure you'll take my observation for what it's worth.
  6. Last week's video about Investment over years was highly inspiring and got me thinking a lot about how I could be more deliberate in creating the life I want. Here's the time-stamped point where he suggests to do a small but important exercise. I'd like to invite you to reflect and share the 5 things that you'd like to invest in in the next 5-10 years. It's a good exercise to get clear and concrete. I'm also trying to refine my list and I'm sure that seeing other's ways to label and describe these investments will be helpful to get a better idea of what we personally value. One way I'd like to develop it further and make it more visual and aesthetic is to do some graphic art/mind-maps of these 5 labels. Here is my first attempt at categorizing them (in no particular order). They are clearly interconnected and spill over into each other, but that's okay : Self-education Understanding life, learning about various domains and perspectives Developing intelligence, curiosity, wisdom Social life & skills Seduction, Dating, Sexuality Friendships, tribe, collaboration Self-expression and connection: charismatic and authentic communication. Career & Business Life Purpose Valuable and rare creative skills Financial Independence Health Mind-Body connection Movement, Nutrition, Play, Breathwork, Feeling Self-mastery Mastering my inner Achiever, Creator & Leader: discipline, focus, vision, action, generating results, intensity, clarity Emotional mastery Introspection, self-reflection Spirituality Curious to learn about yours!
  7. @Scholar I don't understand why you think he needs to be fully stage Green to represent those values and almost to have the right to speak about them. The evolution happens in small steps, slowly building on top of each other, it's all enmeshed together, orange and green. Why do you assume he should be any different? Would you rather have him shut up and not spreading any Green values at all, just because he's not fully Green? I mean, the dude is educating thousands of people about progressive politics and helping them to develop a Greener worldview. How are you not on board with that? I think he's doing an important job. I don't care what he does in his personal life. He seems a very down-to-earth, practical, and funny dude who can entertain, appeal to orange people and help them grow out of orange in small ways, at least in the political domain.
  8. Wow, that was a damn good one, great pronunciation too!
  9. Why do you think it helped you become a calmer person? Is it because it helps you clear your thoughts more easily?
  10. @Marcel Well, that must have been a compelling reason. Yeah it's a good mindset shift not be looking passively, but to get involved with things and putting your passion into them actively.
  11. You're not alone my friend. I'm also scattered with knowledge, one day I'm interested in one thing, the other day in something else. I noticed that when there are exercises to do, that's the most likely point at which I start looking elsewhere, because I think to myself that I want to be fresh or in the mood to tackle the exercise. On one hand I allow myself to follow my interests and read various books simultaneously, especially if I'm reading one fiction book and other non-fiction ones. I also accepted the fact that I don't have to finish a book if it's not that helpful to me at the stage I'm at. But I know it doesn't feel right to leave it open-ended. On the other hand, it's clear that some discipline is required to get the benefits. Now, I won't allow myself to buy a book until I finish one. I keep the ones I want to buy in my Amazon wish list. Also, I try to read every day, doesn't matter how many pages, and I do it in the same part of the day (after dinner). In a deeper sense, it could be that our habit of constantly switching tasks during the day (you know, checking the phone, internet, etc.) then translates into other domains like these.
  12. Good for you! That's a great place to be in. How did you go about it? Was/Is it motivated by external goals? For instance, a couple of years ago I had a strong discipline to study for exams and did well, but now that kind of motivation mainly coming from the fear of not passing exams is not enough anymore. It was powerful at the time, but it ran its course, and now I want to learn to be positively motivated. On a side note, I listened to the newest Huberman Lab's podcast on addiction and there was an interesting insight: look at the jobs that present themselves to you and do them simply and honorably one day at the time, with humility. This mindset will certainly help me to build discipline back up. From that place of humility and taking one day/moment at the time I can get overthinking out of the picture and focus on simple execution and engagement. Timothy rarely disappoints, I will check it out, thanks I'm at a point where I can recognize being apathetic/depressed from time to time as normal. Still hard to accept it when it happens, but I'm sure I'll get there and beyond with IFS. Funnily enough I never had a chance to read it. Might be a good time.
  13. I would investigate why you feel that way. Is it strictly connected to the fact that you don't want to catch STDs or is there something deeper, like you cannot accept that she had such sexual experiences in the past? I could be totally projecting here, I'm still trying to deconstruct the social conditioning of the Madonna-whore complex. If this rings a bell, I have a really good video for you: Triggered by Sexually Liberated Women?
  14. @FlyingLotus Wow, you went hard and holistic there thanks a lot! You gave me a lot to research and think about. I may have experienced some neglect, but indirectly, due to the loss of a parent. Still need to dig deep there. I'm currently working with the Sedona Method to release emotional baggage, but it's a long-term process and it needs to be attacked from various angles, as you suggested. This is a key insight for me, I'll start to pay more attention to how and when this depressed part manifests. I heard of IFS from multiple people recently, it may be worth to follow the synchronicity haha This guy is interesting, definitely curious to hear what he has to say. I'm currently considering to do a dopamine detox, because it's now clear that excessive stimulation from internet and social media is robbing me of energy, desire, motivation, and wasting my time.
  15. @aurum Thanks for your thoughts, you certainly make valid points that helped me reframe the situation. I think it's about further recognizing my privilege and appreciating the luck I had to be born in such circumstances (without beating myself up for it), which also helped me realize that money and material possessions don't actually lead to happiness. I'm comparing myself to others and I see that I'm not that hungry and motivated to work hard, and instead of seeing it as a weakness, I can realize that I have the opportunity to be driven by higher sources of motivation (creativity instead of reactivity). I'm paralyzed and overwhelmed by the amount of freedom I have, and resist the paradigm change from negative to positive motivation. Still, there is that other side of the coin of this privilege that left me somewhat unresourceful and unable to fend for myself. The solution seems to go back and plug those holes in my development and create a solid foundation (i.e. Achiever, stage Blue & Orange). That's absolutely the plan, I moved to a larger city for this purpose. The thing is, the desire to engage and explore is often suppressed, but that's another story.