Type compatibility

[Proserpina]

Which types (in mbti, enneagram,  instinctual variant etc.) do you tend to get along with most? 

I find for myself, as an ISFP,  I get along best with ENTJs.  Which are duals in socionics. 

[Matt23]

Ever looked at Objective Personality?  Good typology duo putting the MBTI up to scientific rigor... as best they can I suppose.  

They say people are usually attracted to opposites of their type in terms of their function stack.  This might be more-so for romantically, but I bet it's across the board.  

For example, I think I'm an ISFP jumper, so my stack is Fi-Ni-Se-Te.  Meaning I'm more attracted to and get along more with ExxPs, ideally with stacks that go Se-Te-Fi-Ni.   (Jumper Means... out of the several thousand interviews and people they've typed in their system, they found that for about half the people, their 2nd dominant function is actually the 3rd function in the stack.  So, if I'm a jumper and have a stack that goes Ti-Ne-Si-Fe, then my first dominant function is Ti, but then my 2nd dominant function isn't Ne, it's Si).  

[Asayake]

I'm INFP and I get along really well with ENTJ. Although it's a thinking type I seem to bring out the emotion of him and I think my Ne feeds his Ni and he enjoys it. We can have very interesting discussions and share some interests.

I also get along pretty well with other types with Fi in first or second slot, so I agree with Loba there. Feeling types and I understand eachother, even if we don't agree on everything. I also get along pretty well with some Fe types like INFJ, ISFJ, ENFJ. Types which show empathy, I find beautiful.

ENTP is also a kind of good match, we see some things very differently but we both like to explore things in a similar Ne way so we look at some things similarly. I think they can be funny in the way they joke with others and more smooth with it than the ST types who seem more likely to be insensitive and hurtful without realising it. Instead ENTP will challenge you in a more clever way so that it feels motivated and fun, and you can see the childlike explorative nature behind their schemes and it makes it feel pure in a sense. They will also be pretty individualistic which is something I like. I prefer when I feel like I'm talking to an original person who is a free soul, not governed by schedules and habits.

INTJ can also work but seems a bit more one sided in the sense that I think the INTJ likes talking with me more than vice versa. He is very introverted which forces me to talk a lot and drive the conversation and I prefer when someone talks a bit more so I don't have to do all the talking all of the time. But he finds my ideas interesting and is understanding.

I think some of the worst matches for an INFP, from my experience, is ISTJ, ESTP, ISTP.

ESTJ seems logical to be a bad match but one of my best friends is an ESTJ and we get along well. It's just we don't often connect emotionally. But he helps me with tips regarding practical things and improving productivity, and gives me gifts. He's one of those friends who helps bring some order to my life but he is probably more healthy than most ESTJs in the sense that he shows respect for my emotions and is open to listen to my ideas, even if he doesn't agree with what I say he doesn't try to change what I'm doing unless I ask him for advice. It's likely I won't get along super with every ESTJ though..

 

 

 

 

[Gesundheit2]

10 hours ago, Loba said:

I'm an INFP, and I have found I get along best with NF and SF types, and don't do very well with thinking personalities.  Anyone that I have been very super close to, as a friend or otherwise was an NF, usually ENFPs.  I value emotions and the feeling of bonding that comes with sharing emotions and thinking types generally don't express or have very strong senses of emotion, and I get bored having to dig around for them, assuming they have any to begin with.  And what's there is generally very juvenile and often not very well formed, and so I get embarrassed and turned off by their sloppy displays of feigned emotional depth.

I like them when you want to do something exciting, or if you need an informative essay spewed at you - they're good for that, I suppose...

But with other feeling types, you can just 'get' one another, without words needing to be said, if you feel the same thing, you can speak through the heart and there's something irreplicable and magical about that.  I love being on the same page emotionally with people.

 

I don't believe in personality types and that kind of thing, but I would like to have the ability and skill to connect with everyone. I don't know if it's me or you, but you certainly are a hard one to understand. It would be great if you could give some directions and general guidelines on how other people should be interacting with your species.

[Tyler Robinson]

I usually get along with ENFPs. 

My last bf was that. I usually get along with most MBTIs. It depends on their level of emotional intelligence across the board. 

 

 

[Tyler Robinson]

1 hour ago, Asayake said:

. I also get along pretty well with some Fe types like INFJ, ISFJ, ENFJ. Types which show empathy, I find beautiful.

Yea these are really nice people imo. Had good interactions with these. 

 

[Proserpina]

On 08/08/2022 at 9:46 AM, Loba said:

I'm an INFP, and I have found I get along best with NF and SF types, and don't do very well with thinking personalities.  Anyone that I have been very super close to, as a friend or otherwise was an NF, usually ENFPs.  I value emotions and the feeling of bonding that comes with sharing emotions and thinking types generally don't express or have very strong senses of emotion, and I get bored having to dig around for them, assuming they have any to begin with.  And what's there is generally very juvenile and often not very well formed, and so I get embarrassed and turned off by their sloppy displays of feigned emotional depth.

I like them when you want to do something exciting, or if you need an informative essay spewed at you - they're good for that, I suppose...

But with other feeling types, you can just 'get' one another, without words needing to be said, if you feel the same thing, you can speak through the heart and there's something irreplicable and magical about that.  I love being on the same page emotionally with people.

 

Yeah,  I only get along with thinkers who have developed feeling or high compassion or who are considerably high up on the spiral.  

NFs, especially INFPs, are similarly majestic as NTs. They're like special little creatures I want to keep as a collection.  Each unique and gifted.  Not to be creepy.  

[Proserpina]

15 hours ago, Tyler Robinson said:

I usually get along with ENFPs. 

My last bf was that. I usually get along with most MBTIs. It depends on their level of emotional intelligence across the board. 

 

 

Cool.  I think ExxPs and IxxJs, ExxJs and IxxPs get along in general.  Although I've yet to meet an ExxJ other than NT I get along with well. 

INTJs are easy to get along with.  ISFP and INTJ are supposed to be compatible. 

 

[Zeroguy]

@Proserpina https://www.typematchapp.com/isfp-compatibility-chart/

[Asayake]

5 hours ago, Proserpina said:

Cool.  I think ExxPs and IxxJs, ExxJs and IxxPs get along in general. 

You might be on to something here because my two closest friends are ENTJ and ESTJ.

[thisintegrated]

On 17/07/2022 at 2:10 AM, Proserpina said:

I find for myself, as an ISFP,  I get along best with ENTJs.  Which are duals in socionics. 

Socionics' theory of duality is complete BS, ime.

In general, sensors go with sensors, intuitives with intuitives.

In theory, ISFP should be most compatible with ESTJ.  INFP with ENTJ.

 

I'll add.. I can't imagine an ISFP being at all interested in Socionics.  This is deep intuitive territory.  Does not get much more N than this.  I'll just go ahead and say you're an INFP.

Edited August 14, 2022 by thisintegrated

[Yali]

9 minutes ago, thisintegrated said:

Socionics' theory of duality is complete BS, ime.

@thisintegrated

This run contrary to my experience. As an INTJ, I find I get along very well with types within my quadra -- ENTJ, INTJ, ISFP, ESFP. ENFP is alright but ENTP not so much as we share NO cognitive functions. @Proserpina

Edited August 14, 2022 by Yali

[Yali]

@Loba This isn't based off personal experience but what you think to be true. Go meet an ESTJ and see how you get a long. I think it'll work fine since you'll share the same cognitive functions, which is all that matters.

6 minutes ago, Loba said:

Yeah, I can't imagine a little marshmallow like an INFP being good for an EXTJ, they're so busy and often quite militant - they don't have good listening skil

With ENFJ, you share no cognitive functions -- probably one of the worst matches contrary to popular opinion. It'd be like pairing an athiest with a fundamentalist christain. How can you expect to get along with NO shared values?

Watch this gal. She knows what's she's talking about:

 

 

 

 

Edited August 14, 2022 by Yali

[Yali]

@Loba shared cognitive functions = compatibility. 

https://www.sociotype.com/socionics/intertype_relationships/

Edited August 15, 2022 by Yali

[Proserpina]

1 hour ago, thisintegrated said:

Socionics' theory of duality is complete BS, ime.

In general, sensors go with sensors, intuitives with intuitives.

In theory, ISFP should be most compatible with ESTJ.  INFP with ENTJ.

 

I'll add.. I can't imagine an ISFP being at all interested in Socionics.  This is deep intuitive territory.  Does not get much more N than this.  I'll just go ahead and say you're an INFP.

Hmm... I've had a deep fascination with type theory my entire life.  Spiral dynamics was like candy when I first discovered it.  

Artsu typed me as ISFP.  I can't type myself for shit but I always get INFP on the test.  Thanks for the second opinion.  

[Proserpina]

My little ENTJ that I spend all my time with has high compassion.  He might be an ENFJ or ENxJ. He is also enneagram 4 sx/so, which helps.  He is driven by and passionate about helping others.  

He gives me lots of snuggles and kisses. Constantly makes me laugh.  

 

Edited August 15, 2022 by Proserpina

[thisintegrated]

1 hour ago, Yali said:

@thisintegrated

This run contrary to my experience. As an INTJ, I find I get along very well with types within my quadra -- ENTJ, INTJ, ISFP, ESFP. ENFP is alright but ENTP not so much as we share NO cognitive functions. @Proserpina

INTJ is supposed to be the most compatible of all types for ENTPs.  And that's true, ime, for long term term compatibility.

Duality is supposed to work because "opposites attract", so the fact they share no functions is a good thing.

 

1 hour ago, Loba said:

@thisintegrated Yeah, I can't imagine a little marshmallow like an INFP being good for an EXTJ, they're so busy and often quite militant - they don't have good listening skills.  INFP's are looking for emotions and soft feelings to share with their partner, so I've never really understood why people ship them with thinking judgers so frequently.

I think a healthy ENFJ would be the best match, but they're quite rare to find in good condition.  The Fe + Ni has that kind of "swallow you up, you belong to me, you are part of my tribe forever" kind of affect that the INFP is looking for.  And they're judgers, so they're still able to allow some sense of groundedness.

We like Te to some extent, but not to the point where it takes over our alone-time routines, prevents open ended exploration and stifles us with a schedule.  It just seems odd to me to put an INFP, who is terrible at Te, with Te-doms, while overlooking their need for emotional validation and support from a kind, present partner.

One INFP I knew just wanted someone to tell her what to do, to command her, but to also be smart.  ENTJs are usually what they're looking for.  ENFJs would likely be good friends for INFPs as they'd hear them out and be interested in their emotions, but not sure about long term compatibility.

 

11 minutes ago, Proserpina said:

Hmm... I've had a deep fascination with type theory my entire life.  Spiral dynamics was like candy when I first discovered it.  

Artsu typed me as ISFP.  I can't type myself for shit but I always get INFP on the test.  Thanks for the second opinion.  

INFP confirmed.

You're like the 3rd ISFP I've debunked this week.  In the years I've been on this forum, I've only ever come across maybe 4 people claiming to be ISFP.  Actualization + ISFP just don't go together.

[thisintegrated]

9 minutes ago, Loba said:

You have an intj fetish for sure.

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9 minutes ago, Loba said:

I always thought that each type did better with a feeler, though.  You with an infj and them with an enfp.

I think INFJs aren't arrogant enough for me.  Too easy to get along with.

Sister's a Yellow INFJ and we get along almost too well.  It would be a problem to be in a relationship with such a person as there's not enough fire/sparks.  But for more casual relationships it's perfect.  One of the most well rounded and open minded types.

 

9 minutes ago, Loba said:

I can see you in particular with an intj though: maliciously humorous, arrogant, sarcastic and elitist, with zero feels - like two robots connecting at the wires, it would be an interesting dynamic.

I have feels, it's just the INTJs that don't??

[AtheisticNonduality]

32 minutes ago, thisintegrated said:

I have feels, it's just the INTJs that don't??

Fi = emotions. Fe = detecting emotions / pseudo-emotions.

[thisintegrated]

39 minutes ago, Loba said:

Well if you're looking for arrogant, they are that, why you want that, only God knows.

If someone claims to be "the best" then they actually put in the effort it takes to be "the best".  If they're smart and self-aware then to actually believe in their own arrogant claims there has to be at least some validity to those claims.  Problem is that 99% of INTJs are Orange, and, therefore, lack this self-awareness and are just cold, immature, imbalanced wannabe INTPs.

 

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Don't you want someone to love you back?

I did a while ago.  Got it.  Now a girl is obsessed and in love with me but I just don't really care.  Nothing exciting about love in itself.  Love only means something when everything else works.

I think something a lot of women don't realize is that women need love.  Men need respect.

Testosterone is the hormone that makes effort feel good.  Man = testosterone/effort.  Men feel good when their effort is respected/appreciated, as it basically means they are valued as a man by the woman, and this is of course good for relationships which revolve around the gender dynamic.

Women are different.  What makes a woman feel like the woman in this gender dynamic is being cared for, which is the main form of love they need.  Feeling loved = safety and assurance that the relationship is working/stable.  Whereas if a man feels loved that says nothing about the quality of the relationship.

 

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starting a family with her long term boyfriend, now husband and moving to Boulder.

Moving to live under a boulder?  Like Patrick?

 

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I miss her.  I like the female ones, they are pretty chill

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Actually that's been my experience too.  I still kinda miss my INTJ ex.  But Orange be Orange.

 

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the males are strange.

Oh yes..

Though they're weirdly attracted to INFPs, so watch out!

Edited August 15, 2022 by thisintegrated