Dating is a distraction

[Butters]

What's the point of dating? The whole operation is not genuine because it is ultimately driven by people's reproductive desires. You're not genuinely broadening your horizons when there's a dating partner involved because the underlying urges drive a lot of it. Else you can just get a dog and move on. 

And since the whole venture is corrupted, it's a distraction. You will almost certainly get sucked into this unconscious behavior together. The whole escaping comformity Leo talks about? Get ready for more of it, much more conformity when dating. Much more lower consciousness. That's another thing: you're entering into a giant pool of normie, low consciousness gunk. It's very unlikely your dating partners value truth, insight or thinking for themselves. People don't care about those things. 

Idk maybe I'm cynical. Can we all agree dating is not expanding your consciousness because of it's thick survival bias? It begs the question: why date at all? To me it's a headache, more admin. I don't want kids, so what's the point? 

[Majed]

@Butters This is self deception. Unless you're asexual, you need to mate and date, don't kid yourself. 

Not everything is done for high consciousness purposes, sometimes you just need pragmatism to solve a concrete problem. 

[something_else]

13 minutes ago, Butters said:

Idk maybe I'm cynical. Can we all agree dating is not expanding your consciousness because of it's thick survival bias?

It seriously developed me as a person. If you neglect your social life you’ll probably be miserable. If you neglect sex and dating you’ll probably be miserable too. There are ways to do these things more consciously without completely rejecting them

[Someone here]

You answered your own question in the first sentence. It’s wired into our biology .

[bazera]

46 minutes ago, Butters said:

Idk maybe I'm cynical. Can we all agree dating is not expanding your consciousness because of it's thick survival bias? It begs the question: why date at all? To me it's a headache, more admin. I don't want kids, so what's the point?

Maybe to experience more vulnerable part of yourself? 

Being in an intemate relationship forces you to be vulnerable. Even attraction phase forces you that, to face life and survival proactively. It's not a medium for expanding consciousness, but there's survival value in it. 

It can come with a lot of drama though, which is the reason I don't date at the moment, but I can see some value in it. Not the highest value for sure.

Do you only do things in life that supposedly increase your consciousness?

[Sincerity]

1) Everyone has a want for connection, so unless you’re satisfying it yourself through connection to Reality/God/Yourself, you will crave a connection with a person.

2) Intimate relationships grow you, if you seriously engage in them.

[Rafael Thundercat]

2 hours ago, Butters said:

The whole escaping comformity Leo talks about? Get ready for more of it, much more conformity when dating. Much more lower consciousness. That's another thing: you're entering into a giant pool of normie, low consciousness gunk. It's very unlikely your dating partners value truth, insight or thinking for themselves. People don't care about those things

So dont date low-cosncious woman. 

[Valach]

Dating can be distraction. You have to develop self awareness into why you even want to be dating. What are you seeking and why?

[Jirh]

Dating is the pathway towards the deepest forms of bonding and human connection.

[LordFall]

You can use it as a distraction or as a muse towards actualizing your greatest potential. The dating market is so ruthless that it exposes most of your shadows and weak psychology so I think it's really one of the best self-development tools we have as humans.

Bonus point that it's so fun and great and boobs my friend. Think about the spiritual profundity of that. 

Edited 3 hours ago by LordFall

[Raze]

What's the point of breathing? The whole operation is not genuine because it is ultimately driven by people's living desires. You're not genuinely broadening your horizons when there's breathing involved because the underlying urges drive a lot of it. Else you can just stop breathing and move on. 

And since the whole venture is corrupted, it's a distraction. You will almost certainly get sucked into this unconscious behavior. The whole escaping comformity Leo talks about? Get ready for more of it, much more conformity when breathing. Much more lower consciousness. That's another thing: you're entering into a giant pool of normie, low consciousness gunk. It's very unlikely your breathing will value truth, insight or thinking for yourself. People who breath don't care about those things. 

Idk maybe I'm cynical. Can we all agree breathing is not expanding your consciousness because of it's thick survival bias? It begs the question: why breath at all? To me it's a headache, more admin. I don't want to live, so what's the point? 

[bazera]

@Raze Dude, did you just really compare breathing to relationships?

Edited 2 hours ago by bazera

[Yimpa]

5 hours ago, Butters said:

The whole operation is not genuine because it is ultimately driven by people's reproductive desires

This is not true for me. I have no interest in having children, but I do desire do date others and getting to know them more.

[Yimpa]

23 minutes ago, bazera said:

@Raze Dude, did you really compare breathing to relationships?

 

[Yimpa]

6 hours ago, Butters said:

What's the point of dating?