Blocking & Deleting After a Break Up or Not?

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Valach I think online trauma, PTSD and C-PTSD are conflated. 

[Valach]

4 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

@Valach I think online trauma, PTSD and C-PTSD are conflated. 

In what ways do you think?

EDIT: Sorry, I missread that, I think I get what you meant now (not a native speaker )

Edited 14 minutes ago by Valach

[Jirh]

Whatever guys. You don't have to justify yourselves to me. I'm not the arbiter of your maturity. I only stated my opinion.

It's your life. Do what seems right for you.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

14 minutes ago, Valach said:

In what ways do you think?

Depth, complexity and pathways to healing. 

Most notably the sort of debilitation involved in what some people ascribe to trauma would more properly be assigned to PTSD or C-PTSD. Because as soon as trauma begins to impede our functioning on a day to day level to the point we cannot function, it begins to become closer to diagnosable as one of these two pathologies. Trauma isn't a diagnosis in and of itself. But PTSD and C-PTSD are. There are more markers that qualify for a diagnosis of either of these two issues, I will add.

Trauma and it's related conditions can be associated with maturity. But trauma, PTSD and C-PTSD =/= immaturity by default.

I think when people say trauma and label it as incapacitating it is usually a pointer to a pathology (PTSD, C-PTSD or another condition entirely). 

I am sort of against a lot of the therapizing rheroric that is commonly online (I digress!).

Edited 2 minutes ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[Valach]

5 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Depth, complexity and pathways to healing. 

Most notably the sort of debilitation involved in what some people ascribe to trauma would more properly be assigned to PTSD or C-PTSD. Because as soon as trauma begins to impede our functioning on a day to day level to the point we cannot function, it becomes diagnosable as one of these two pathologies. Trauma isn't a diagnosis in and of itself. But PTSD and C-PTSD are. 

Trauma and it's related conditions can be associated with maturity. But trauma, PTSD and C-PTSD =/= immaturity by default.

I think when people say trauma and label it as incapacitating it is usually a pointer to a pathology (PTSD, C-PTSD or another condition entirely). 

I am sort of against a lot of the therapizing rheroric that is commonly online (I digress!).

I would argue that a lot of "normal" trauma also has destabilizing effect on your day to day life. It is just much harder to notice because it is so much more common. Think a little kid who does not get approved by his parents enough and feels like he is not attractive enough and sufficient enough. Now he grows up with that belief ingrained in him and he will try to compensate for it. So he will try to be succesfull, get fit in the gym, buy nice clothes, have dating success, sleep around, do pickup and all the things that most other people are doing. Just because his life is built on false premise that he is not enough. But most people are like that so it is hard to notice.

So yea, I am traumatized and have a deep sense of shame about myself and it influences me a lot. I am an addict. But so is almost anyone I meet - they just don't know it themselves.

Edited just now by Valach