meta_male

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  1. @LittoDitto I've been holding off therapy for a really long time. It's amazing how much one can take before it becomes unbearable. Not to scare you, but if you keep waiting – more likely than not – it's only getting worse. Make sure you get help, doing your own research can only do so much. I know what it's like to have therapy on the to-do list, the perfect time to get started will never come, so start by taking miniature steps towards it. IFS is what I can recommend, it's a powerful tool to help you heal trauma. Just look up some therapists, check out their website and note them down, some do online sessions too, so you're not necessarily bound by your location (although I recommend seeing them in person if possible). Next step you call, email or text them to give them a short overview about your situation. They'll guide you through it from there, so all you gotta do is make contact. Let the world know you're in need of help. https://www.actualized.org/insights/ifs-therapy-for-trauma-healing https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners
  2. @Consept Fair enough. Like attracts like.
  3. His appearance plays a big part in how you feel around him.
  4. They'll have trouble bonding. Promiscuity is not an attractive trait for men and for women.
  5. Might be hard to find there. They're stuck in missionary positions.
  6. They adopt this type of attitude because they get benefits from men who put them on a pedestal.
  7. @bebotalk Are they rude when they hang up on me?
  8. This actually makes you the perfect target for a cult.
  9. Have you walked in their shoes? Empathy goes a long way in your career.
  10. Age is literally just the number of years you spent on this planet, not much more behind it really. People age at different rates, in reality my body is only like 12. If your life has been very repetitive and boring the past years you're bound to feel old cause you lack energy. Depending on your surroundings or activities your sense of age can change from feeling old to feeling young again btw, so nothing has been lost.
  11. No such thing as right or wrong. Just get to know her in person a bit, then invite her out for a drink. No need to worry about social media this way.
  12. Educate yourself on how to best go about it, only you can decide the right course of action for yourself. And don't panic 😅 Everything can look like a conspiracy when the penny drops, but I wouldn't say it wasn't love at all, maybe just not the same degree of love. Of course the reaction to rejection will trigger deep trauma, whether it's BPD or NPD. Are you sure they've been diagnosed with it, btw. Is there a possibility he's going through some "phase"? BPD = impulsive, intolerance of aloneness, concern about acceptance, negative self image, self harming behaviour, can have genuine interest NPD = sense of superiority, need to be admired, lack of empathy, seeks to exploit/manipulate/impress, shallow emotions except rage Both = entitlement, sensitive to criticism and rejection, project their own bad feelings onto others, unwillingness to listen, carry grudges, can be overly critical, difficulty admitting they're wrong, victim mentality
  13. @evgn Did you talk to her in person a bit or just straight sent out a request on IG?