I'm done pursuing women

[AION]

When you need water , the right thing to do is not ignore your thirst because it will make things only worse. Getting a good job and such won’t get you a girl either. You just need somebody to show you where the water is. Because you have a lot of false beliefs about it. 

[Zenterus]

Brother, what you're experiencing is a result of you being attached to the outcome rather than the process.

Let's talk facts:

If you interacted with a 100 attractive women in a direct, flirtatious manner, at the very least a couple of them would reciprocate.

That is a fact.

So you can find love in the process of going out there and sifting through to find those girls or you can get attached to little crushes and get crushed.

And believe me, brother, there is a deep love that you can find for the number's game of dating. Im a veteran in this shit so I am indifferent to it now, but I can remember how I felt about it back in the day..

There's a beauty in going out there, interacting with various women, expressing yourself to them, connecting with them, handling lack of compatibility, the texting, the lessons, the grit that the process puts you through at times, etc.

I used to have a deep love for that shit and if you trust the process and believe in your ability to get amazing results at the end of it all, then it might spark a love for it in you too.

Good luck out there.

 

[Jirh]

Let alone women.

I'm done with humanity.

Can't connect with anyone.

I'm just lonely wherever I go.

[Olaf]

@Meeksauce When I was around 20 or so, I used to feel the same way as you. I was angry at women instead of working on myself. I thought I was doing everything right, I thought that it was the woman's problem. Looking back on it, I was a bit immature. It was easy to feel like a victim instead of taking accountability. It was easy to feel hurt and pain, instead of gaining confidence over time.

When you start to understand what works, which is to gain confidence. You start to see that I can either bitch about why woman are not choosing me OR I can actually do something about it and start approaching woman. Also delayed gratification is important, like you might have to work on your confidence for a few years, depending on how bad it is right now.

Being angry at woman only helps you to get more angry at woman, it won´t help you get to have good connections with woman. This desperation for woman to acknowledge you will all go away, it is just a question of when you will start to do the actual work. Which is to approach, talk to many woman, learn how to attract woman and not be focused on one single crush, there are much better woman out there then just your crush, trust me. 

[Schizophonia]

Cosmetic surgery if you're unattractive .

[Majed]

@Meeksauce Dude you shouldn't wait months on end to talk to a woman. That's improper game. Talk to her immediately. 

[Miguel1]

The truth also is that getting good at game is brutal, we should remember to remain sympathetic to OJ.

And the reward is not often a great GF.

[Terell Kirby]

10 hours ago, Meeksauce said:

I don't hate women, I love them, but when you face so many rejections without any success it turns you spiteful and bitter.

Gotta reframe rejections.

Think of getting 1000 no’s before you get your first yes and it’ll completely change your approach. It’ll all be well worth it in the end. Don’t give up hope

[Joshe]

If you’re average or above average in looks, erase “game” from your mind. It puts you at a psychological disadvantage and takes the fun out of it. Trying to run some system as opposed to relying on your own intuition in the flow is artificial and robotic. 

Game tells you to be imposing. And sure, if you approach 100 girls, you’ll increase your odds of sex, but this isn’t always the goal. Also, there’s nothing wrong with having a crush. In fact, that’s organic attraction, not some desperate ploy to get your dick wet. Nothing wrong with the latter, but crushes are more fun, especially when you actually do get your dick wet. To finally get that piece you’ve been working on and dreaming about for the last few months is much more fun than sexing some random you don’t even really know.

Anyway, back to being imposing. “Be assertive” “Be direct” “Make a move”. My tact was always the exact opposite of this because I noticed it didn’t work. Of course, there might come a time for these, but IME, usually not. Usually, attraction leads to getting the dick wet without ever having to be direct at all. 

Rather than approaching 100 girls, run a long-form seduction on 20 girls at the same time. Hard to not get pussy when you’re swimming in chummed waters. 

They key is to spend time around women in loose social environments and to be unimposing, yet a bit mysterious and interesting. You might let the attraction build over a dozen encounters, or even more if you detect no interest at all. It’s all about subtlety and calibration. 

Long-form seduction might be a good name for it. After many interactions, there’s nothing quite like the moment she looks at you and finally let’s you know it’s time to kiss her. All without ever being talked about or you asking for her number. 

This doesn’t work for recluses. I mean, it can, but it’s hard to seduce your barista behind the counter. Loose social environments are the waters to swim in.

There is a reason why in the movies, 99% of sex scenes don’t culminate from a guy having asked for a number or making his attraction explicit in some other way. 

For the love of God, just put yourselves around women and learn how to calibrate your shit. This is how getting laid has worked for centuries. 

Edited 4 minutes ago by Joshe