Men of the forum - Respect / Love

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Tell me.

If you could choose what you want to hear more from a partner:

"I deeply respect you"

or

"I deeply love you"

I do think there will be overlap depending on how we define romantic love - this is about what you want to hear more from a woman.

 

[LordFall]

Definitely love. Respect is too intellectual. I'm sure some women respect certain authors or people whose professional work they admire, but love or lust is completely different—and that's what you want if you desire a passionate relationship with women. Respect doesn't have much sexual polarity to it. It's important as well but secondary. 

Edited 15 hours ago by LordFall

[aurum]

I would choose respect, because there's nothing that resembles love from a woman without respect.

[Hojo]

Love probably.

I couldnt tell the difference, I ask AI the difference and i came up with that loving is personal and respect is inpersonal.

Love has a chance to become toxic where as respect dosent

However someone respecting me is completely useless to me as I dont give a fuck.

Love gets messy and thats why its good it makes you feel insane. Respect is boring.

My cat respect me. Love is something humans can do cause they are insane.

If you live your life as a human never going insane from love you didnt human right.

Love can make you  feel lost in a repeating simulation you cant get lost in, what a wonder of God.

Edited 14 hours ago by Hojo

[Joshe]

The thought "she loves me" never did anything for me. Engagement or connection is love expressed, as opposed to stated. 

Some men want to be reminded they're loved, some want to be shown respect, and some want proof. IDK. 

It seems like happiness. The moment you start thinking about it, it's not there. 

Edited 14 hours ago by Joshe

[Joshe]

11 minutes ago, Hojo said:

My cat respect me.

That's because you whip its ass, lol. 

Edited 14 hours ago by Joshe

[Hojo]

@Joshe I can do that to my lover too

[Joshe]

lol

[Joseph Maynor]

Love because respect would prompt me to ask why haha.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Thank you for the replies - the question is about spoken words regarding expressing affection. Not actions.

I found the question interesting because it provoked a lot of thought for myself in my business relationships (95% men). The contractors I ask more frequently report they want to hear they are respected. I have a strange, biased sample size so I am interested to hear what the men who engage in consciousness work replied with.

Edited 14 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[Rishabh R]

@Natasha Tori Maru Sorry for a late reply. I would want to hear from a woman - I deeply respect you . Since, I have got a huge amount of disrespect from women in the past. So I would prioritize respect more than love even though I still crave love . 

[StaraX]

When my GF tells me, "I deeply love you," that already includes deep respect. "I deeply respect you" sounds more like a polite way of initiating a breakup. So yeah, the former gives a much bigger dopamine hit.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Rishabh R @StaraX thank you - and thanks to the rest of the men who replied! Appreciated 

Interested to hear what @CARDOZZO @Valach @BlessedLion @Zenterus might say 

[Jirh]

I think of respect as a prerequisite for love. You can't truly love something or someone without respecting them.

Respect + Care = Love

Absence of respect turns love into utility, or even worse, an addiction. And absence of care turns the relationship mechanical.

Personally, I could accept the lack of care temporarily if my partner is going through difficulties, because I can take care of myself and of her too.

But I could never tolerance disrespect. If respect isn't there, I'm not there either. Simply. Disrespect is the worst experience a man can have.

However, to your question, what I want to hear romantically is love. Respect is not a word I want to hear. It's a tangible behavior I want to see.

Edited 13 hours ago by Jirh

[Ulax]

@Natasha Tori Maru Respect

[Hojo]

@Jirh i ask ai and i came to conclusion that love is personal the person can become toxic but they like you more, respect you more in place of themselves. They can become obsessive and possessive.

Where respect is impersonal it won't become toxic and when it gets fucked the worst thing that will happen is the person will not talk to you but still respect you. But its also boring as fuck without love cause it dosent do anything. Maybe they will help you more or something.

Without love we all respect eachother but we don't have fun. There isn't the wild aspect of shit flipping on its head and thats where the fun is.

Love is crazy but it make us human.

It let you get lost in drama that no other animal can do. Having heartbroken is just as powerful as falling in love no animal can do this.

Edited 12 hours ago by Hojo

[Leo Gura]

How can you love a man you don't respect?

If you go with love, the respect is assumed.

[Hojo]

@Leo Gura Im gunna take a guess and think the people that want respect want the woman to do what they say.

A contractor or manly man would want a woman to listen to him so they choose respect.

Like your dog respects you.

[Leo Gura]

If a woman doesn't respect a man, she is not going to stay with him.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

How can you love a man you don't respect?

If you go with love, the respect is assumed.

What WORDS do you want to hear?