Muslim family wants to find me a wife.

[Husseinisdoingfine]

So a while ago, I posted this.

 

Welp, they're back.

My Aunt has been insistent on finding me a "nice Lebanese wife", because she wants for me to marry a woman who is a practicing Shia Muslim, as well as is Lebanese. I received a phone call from my Uncle that apparently they found a woman for me. She's a 100% Lebanese woman who works at some sort of health clinic. 

This woman's parents and family are very strict about religion and so my Uncle said that I was not allowed to "do anything" (have sex, kiss, etc...) until marriage. But they want to set me up and schedule with her family (not with her, her family) to have me meet with her with the supervision of her parents. We are both in our 20's.

Of course I declined and said I was not romantically interested, but I later agreed to meet with her as friends.

I'm sharing this because for you westerners, white people, and Americans, this is completely out of the ordinary for you all. 

[Someone here]

35 minutes ago, Husseinisdoingfine said:

but I later agreed to meet with her as friends.

great . Meet her and screen her up and down and find out if you are interested in her.   Be very careful here because marriage is a big responsibility and commitment .

What is your mindset ? What kind of relationship you are interested in ? Do you want to marry or just have a fuckBuddy or have multiple partners?

do you speak Lebanese yourself habibi ? I mean “nice Lebanese wife “ like Nancy Ajram drop dead gorgeous? lol

 

[Oppositionless]

Reminds me of my Vietnamese friend. I don't think he ever introduced his parents to his white girlfriend, or even mentioned her to them. They were together almost 2 years .

Edited 23 hours ago by Oppositionless

[Husseinisdoingfine]

46 minutes ago, Someone here said:

great . Meet her and screen her up and down and find out if you are interested in her.   Be very careful here because marriage is a big responsibility and commitment .

I will never even consider being in a romantic relationship or marriage with a religious Muslim because Spiral Dynamics Blue strict religious people are not too smart. Not at all. 

Their values fundamentally contradict mine, and so it will never happen. 

[Someone here]

9 minutes ago, Husseinisdoingfine said:

I will never even consider being in a romantic relationship or marriage with a religious Muslim because Spiral Dynamics Blue strict religious people are not too smart. Not at all. 

Their values fundamentally contradict mine, and so it will never happen. 

Okay so you’ve made up your mind ? A no? Then what do you want? 

[Carl-Richard]

Good to have a Plan B I guess.

 

50 minutes ago, Husseinisdoingfine said:

I will never even consider being in a romantic relationship or marriage with a religious Muslim because Spiral Dynamics Blue strict religious people are not too smart. Not at all. 

Their values fundamentally contradict mine, and so it will never happen. 

"I can fix her".

[Raze]

1 hour ago, Husseinisdoingfine said:

I will never even consider being in a romantic relationship or marriage with a religious Muslim because Spiral Dynamics Blue strict religious people are not too smart. Not at all. 

Their values fundamentally contradict mine, and so it will never happen. 

Try finding one that’s a closeted atheist like yourself 

[cistanche_enjoyer]

Oh no, my steak is too juicy, my lobster is too buttery

[Jannes]

11 hours ago, Husseinisdoingfine said:

I will never even consider being in a romantic relationship or marriage with a religious Muslim because Spiral Dynamics Blue strict religious people are not too smart. Not at all. 

Their values fundamentally contradict mine, and so it will never happen. 

Great that you have your values straight. 

Yeah you are probably too developed for this marriage to work, if values dont align its doomed to fail. 

Do you have other dating options available? 

[Leo Gura]

Tell them you already found you a nice girl on OnlyFans.

[Nemra]

5 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Tell them you already found you a nice girl on OnlyFans.

Instant disown. 

Genius move. 

Edited 6 hours ago by Nemra

[Majed]

@Husseinisdoingfine lmaoo, you're cooked. 

[Ulax]

16 hours ago, Husseinisdoingfine said:

But they want to set me up and schedule with her family (not with her, her family) to have me meet with her with the supervision of her parents.

damn that's veteran level amoging

[LordFall]

It's interesting to think about how much of human relationships were handled like this throughout history. The whole finding someone you like out and about is a really crazy and modern concept. People always complain that we are in the dark ages of dating but we are really blessed and the most free generation in that regard. With freedom comes a lot of chaos though. 

[Valach]

9 minutes ago, LordFall said:

It's interesting to think about how much of human relationships were handled like this throughout history. The whole finding someone you like out and about is a really crazy and modern concept. People always complain that we are in the dark ages of dating but we are really blessed and the most free generation in that regard. With freedom comes a lot of chaos though. 

In some ways it was way easier for the people in the past. As you said, freedom creates a lot of chaos.

I like what one modern philosopher said: "We still have arranged relationships, they are now just emotionally arranged." And our emotions can play a lot of tricks on us. 

Edited 4 hours ago by Valach

[Carl-Richard]

1 hour ago, Valach said:

In some ways it was way easier for the people in the past. As you said, freedom creates a lot of chaos.

I like what one modern philosopher said: "We still have arranged relationships, they are now just emotionally arranged." And our emotions can play a lot of tricks on us. 

And at one point you realize you can't go purely by emotions so you create an arranged marriage/relationship for yourself. For a relationship to work, you can't expect them to be completely like you or reflect your desires and wants perfectly. And ironically, traditional arranged marriages partially solve this by marriaging somebody together when they're young so that they grow up together and become more like each other.

Edited 2 hours ago by Carl-Richard