What to tell someone who is about to Die?

[integral]

My uncle is about to die, he has spiritual education Deepak level, so for the last few weeks of his life hes going to be contemplating death.

Im going to see him soon and likely go into a conversation about spirituality.

I figured id explain to him that hes already immortal and so on. But im inexperienced with dealling with people who are about to die and id like to be prepared for this talk.

What do you guys recommend?

Edited 21 hours ago by integral

[Jannes]

Do you have direct insight about death or only theory?

Is your uncle open to psychedelics?

[Hojo]

I told my grandma I don't think we die and that was good enough. Said thank you for being my grandma.

[Ramasta9]

Don't ask people such questions on the internet, go there, be with him, hold nothing back, express yourself honestly. 

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q9xTQRfvX1o

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDeMbojj8-E

 

[Someone here]

Sorry to hear man. Wish you well. 

Whatever you gonna tell him just tell him good things that will help him feel peace and surrender instead of fear and existential dread .

[kavaris]

ive had the most weird experiences w/ ppl dying, which could be relieving to hear since it contrasts from these like, dark hospital things (or so it is for me, as my hospital stays have been hellish), as my second hand deaths are soo unusual and funny in a weird sense of it. first my grandfather dies, out of the blue while sitting on the toilet. He was technically sortve *on his way out*, but he wasnt like, hospital-ready or anything, he just had bad lungs or somethin (i was like 5). Okay then theres my grandfather on my dads side, the week he died he had thrown a party, right outback of my house/or where i was staying—almost like him and all his work friends were on some inside joke, and me being significantly younger, wasnt gonna understand. But i went outback to the restaurant, said hi... aand.. Dead next week. My grandmom died not too long after. We had been living with her, taking care of her at her house. She hallucinated like crazy for the last 6 months prior, so like... That was a very different exp that i saw from her vs everyone else who passed. Point being, ive never seen someone die the same way twice, and it rarely involved hospitals or pain, it was just flat out weird. yous may be relieved to know for now this sortve thing—that its just weird from my second hand perspective. so thats something you could say. Everyone dies and its always weird, and no one even understands, so its like a surprise.

[Snader]

I'm sorry to hear about your uncle.

Someone very dear to me died some years ago after fighting cancer for 2 years. She overcame the cancer at first, but it suddenly came back very hard and instantly took her to terminal care.

I went to see her one last time. Didn't prepare a speech or anything, assuming I will find the right words. But there I was, next to her, completely speechless. There was absolutely nothing to be said. She was tired and I could see in her eyes that she was ready for death. 

She did give me a single advice for life, but that's pretty much all we spoke. That experience really put me contemplating death.

[cetus]

@integral Ram Dass approached sitting with terminally ill people as a "loving rock" - simply being present without needing to explain or fix things. But "if" your uncle so happens to bring up the topic of spirituality and death, I would suggest just listening to what he has to say. Death is a very personal thing to each of us so each approach's death in their own way. And if he says something profound on the subject, I would simply answer "That is beautiful". 

[UnbornTao]

Not sure. Be with them, love them. No need to tell them anything particularly "special," in my view.

Edited 50 minutes ago by UnbornTao

[LastThursday]

My father could easily have died recently when he was hospitalised. The thing he appreciated the most was just my constant daily presence throughout the whole ordeal. Yes I spoke to him, and asked him how he felt and what he was thinking, and I gave him some advice, and joked around with him about the hospital food and about doing laps around the ward with his movement therapist. But just being present and having that connection there is the most important thing, everything else is a bonus.