Talked to my ex after 12-15years....

[blackchair]

I just talked to my ex, He has bpd and his mother is schizophrenic. We ended at good terms at break up 12y ago. He's green, I'm coral now. Basically he called me psycho and blocked me. I just wanted little bit of connection bc I'm very lonely and it backfired badly. Dear reddit am I asshole and/or psycho? 

[Hojo]

You gave 0 details. How could we know.

[Spiral]

Do not reach out to your ex and exploit them like that

[Xonas Pitfall]

Dude, respectfully, you are nowhere near 'coral' if this is your behavior 

[thierry]

2 minutes ago, Xonas Pitfall said:

Dude, respectfully, you are nowhere near 'coral' if this is your behavior 

All spiral dynamics u guys are creating is bs anyway. 
 

@blackchair what do you really want? If you just texted him cause you felt lonely at the moment, it does not seem very respectful of him yes. 
better starting taking long term action(dating app, social evenings..) to fix the loneliness than contacting an ex.

[Thought Art]

Your coral? And you are having this issue 😂

[Sugarcoat]

3 hours ago, Xonas Pitfall said:

Dude, respectfully, you are nowhere near 'coral' if this is your behavior 

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA I was gonna write something like that😭 He’s as much coral as the oceans today after all climate destruction 😂😂

[Yimpa]

It’s like horror movie sequels… only downhill from there.

There are rare exceptions, though. But it’ll never be like the original. 

[Schizophonia]

No but we should have expected it wouldn't work.

Edited yesterday at 07:34 PM by Schizophonia

[Bando]

People who refer to themselves according to spiral dynamics colors will always be funny to me, this perspective is best used for populations, not individuals.

[Kid A]

5 hours ago, Bando said:

People who refer to themselves according to spiral dynamics colors will always be funny to me, this perspective is best used for populations, not individuals.

Preach! 

[UnbornTao]

6 hours ago, Bando said:

People who refer to themselves according to spiral dynamics colors will always be funny to me, this perspective is best used for populations, not individuals.

Such a stage-brown perspective.

Seriously, though, I think people sometimes overestimate the importance of these models.

[Someone here]

I'm stage gold right now . Ask me anything. 

[Eskilon]

9 minutes ago, UnbornTao said:

Such a stage-brown perspective.

[Sugarcoat]

I think it’s fine to categorize yourself and people according to models as long as you don’t lock yourself into that particular paradigm and remain open minded and combine your assessments with your intuition and not only your logical brain 🙂‍↔️

[UnbornTao]

39 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

I think it’s fine to categorize yourself and people according to models as long as you don’t lock yourself into that particular paradigm and remain open minded and combine your assessments with your intuition and not only your logical brain 🙂‍↔️

Definitely, but it runs the risk of us "moving with the map." It can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. 

Also, why did OP say Reddit? This is Tumblr. 

Edited 4 hours ago by UnbornTao

[UnbornTao]

@Eskilon First color that came to mind that isn't depicted in the model.