Talked to my ex after 12-15years....

[blackchair]

I just talked to my ex, He has bpd and his mother is schizophrenic. We ended at good terms at break up 12y ago. He's green, I'm coral now. Basically he called me psycho and blocked me. I just wanted little bit of connection bc I'm very lonely and it backfired badly. Dear reddit am I asshole and/or psycho? 

[Hojo]

You gave 0 details. How could we know.

[Spiral]

Do not reach out to your ex and exploit them like that

[Xonas Pitfall]

Dude, respectfully, you are nowhere near 'coral' if this is your behavior 

[thierry]

2 minutes ago, Xonas Pitfall said:

Dude, respectfully, you are nowhere near 'coral' if this is your behavior 

All spiral dynamics u guys are creating is bs anyway. 
 

@blackchair what do you really want? If you just texted him cause you felt lonely at the moment, it does not seem very respectful of him yes. 
better starting taking long term action(dating app, social evenings..) to fix the loneliness than contacting an ex.

[Thought Art]

Your coral? And you are having this issue 😂

[Sugarcoat]

3 hours ago, Xonas Pitfall said:

Dude, respectfully, you are nowhere near 'coral' if this is your behavior 

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA I was gonna write something like that😭 He’s as much coral as the oceans today after all climate destruction 😂😂

[Yimpa]

It’s like horror movie sequels… only downhill from there.

There are rare exceptions, though. But it’ll never be like the original. 

[Schizophonia]

No but we should have expected it wouldn't work.

Edited 17 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Bando]

People who refer to themselves according to spiral dynamics colors will always be funny to me, this perspective is best used for populations, not individuals.