theleelajoker

I agree. That's how I experienced it, even if I didn't understand it back then. But not as total dissolution, a partial one for me I would say. And over time the dissolved part got modified/ replaced by sth else. Did not view it as picking at people. I think you just expressed information and your POV. In the end, the process so far as been definitely led to sth better. There was a phase where this was not the case, the dark night of the soul was kinda real for me. But now I feel my more integrated, and my quality of life - among other things - increased significantly. I can begin to sense how much more potential there is as I still hold a lot of tension in my body (and thus, limits in my mind /self structure)

+1 Took time for me to rebuild a stable self after my awakenings

Ok. So serious answer: I talk more about what truly matters to me. I wear less masks. I listen more. I judge less. Take people as they are as best as I can. I pay attention to act aligned and with integrity towards myself and others. Etc etc And if I do that, stuff happens that gives the chance for meaningful experiences and thus connections. In end, that's the key. A) spending time together and B) all parties are authentic, so that you can be yourself. That gives IME the chance for that meaningful connection you're asking

Best make two plans. If the first one fails. Or three, to have a backup for the backup. Nothing more satisfying and fulfilling than making plans and using them to try to control reality in a 1:1 setting of a date. Since reality is totally foreseeable and the magic of life - especially the magic of flirting and love making - is following plans, that's my favorite hobby! Making plans on how to interact, and describing reality with words - all to not be present and in the moment! Genius! When I was inexperienced in sex I had plans for which positions in which order, how deep I put my dick inside and how many thrusts. I even made plans re the power or my thrusts! Got a whole box of charts and concepts if someone is interested!

Yes. I think that's one of the reason why eastern philosophies (Buddhist teaching, yoga) include morals guidelines, integrity, e.g Yama and nyama. It just slowly sinks in for me how deep this affects my personal experience of life in every action and choice...

Thanks! I really got confused. How was it with introducing the idea of sex? Do I do it after the third negging and the sixth body contact? Or the sixth negging and the third body contact? Ah shit how was the rating again? Touching hand 0.5 points, touching hip 0.85 points and touching ass 1.5 point? And after a total of 5 points I can go for sex, but only if I hide my true intent to a degree of at least 6/10 right? So saying "let's have coffee at my place" is a ok? Or should I it be a more subtle "I live close by and I forget [ ....] and I really need it?" Guys, I'm so happy that there are all this dating coaches and videos nowadays! Really, without these instructions I would not know how to do ANYTHING. Must have been really super hard for people in the last centuries! How did they ever get some flirting and even sex going AT ALL?

Wtf WTF? What game teaches you? Are you a robot? 🤖 Are you also making plans how to kiss her? 💋 Ok this is my plan: First slight touch upper lip, the I use tip of my tongue, only tip to gently search her tongue, then I make a 0.65 second break, then left half of her lower lip, while I use my left hand - LEFT only - to touch her head and take a 0.64 step towards her, but only if her left foot is closer then her right. Again a break to swallow my saliva, and... then.... shit, do I use tongue or lips? What was the plan again???

Yeah and I think it goes even further when I start to think about it in practical terms of every life: Everyone knows everything about you anytime. What varies is how much you are aware of this knowledge. You can lie, but you're just hiding the truth from yourself. No matter what you do, think, say - universal mind knows. You talk bad on the phones about someone? It knows. You pretend not to be attracted by this man/woman? It know the truth. You pretend to like a person that you actually despise? It knows. As of know it seems to be that you can somehow influence how much you tap into the UM, and how much you stay "ignorant", playing the game of just the individual that is constraint to local phenomenas. So I guess that's what Shakespeare meant with "the world is a stage and we are merely players.."

Wow. Love that

" If you’re at Yellow or above (or late Green), do you experience this as well? No. I experience the opposite. It's getting easier to connect. How do you solve it?" 1) I don't categorize myself or people in stages or colours 2) I am as curious as I can be. And if I see that something bothers me in others, I check where I can find this part within me and integrate it as best as I can. 3) I wear purple sock on my left, and yellow - green sock on my right foot. I switch the colours every three days, except the third day falls on a Thursday. In that case, I buy a cat instead 😺

They got it all wrong. I think what really happened is that he ate the toe nails from his left foot. Only from the left one, however. The ones from the right foot he soaked in urine, added his semen and then gave them to his disciples

Simple solution: Drink, smoke weed AND THEN play D&D

Uhh I like that one. My favorite isn't the same in English, but it comes down to: "It is what it is."

Everyone is unique. But if you still want to compare - why not compare with someone that doesn't have date? Someone that is sick? Someone that is lieing in the trenches of Eastern Ukraine right now, alone, slowly bleeding to death? Every expectation towards the date will create pressure and takesaways joy. If I was you, I would maximizing presence in the date without any further goal. That's it. Be as present as you can, in the moment. Rest will come as it happens.

What the purpose is to forget? What if the purpose of reality is exactly to forget why you're doing it. That would be quite a bummer