theleelajoker

Yeah that was some funny timing 😂

Happy the experiment idea has some use. Have to give 100% credit for this to Joe Hudson, though. Learned a lot from him, lots of free online material from him. I get you with the "sharing positive/ negative stuff" and people potentially not caring, or feeling weird because it's unusual. But isn't it crazy? Looks at news, radio, stories we talk about with friends, family, work. How much focus is on the NEGATIVE? Things going wrong? How much time and energy do we actually spent on enjoying life, appreciating the nice things, little moments? One idea is that if you think more and more about the good stuff in your life, you maybe post less or eventually not at all here about your parents? Because you're more content, you have more self love, nervous system more regulated, and you take your parents as they are with less and less resistance to what is. I'm not saying "all is great, no problems in the world, positive thinking yeah!!!!" Life's real, challenges are real, feelings are real. IMO It's about consciously accepting and constructively building on what's there. Glas is not full because I think positive, but it's always half full and never half empty. Hope I could make that distinction clear... What song you played today on the piano? 🎹 Me, I had a great 20 min walk with nice colleague in beautiful sunshine today. Loved it.

Since you're so invested in therapists, and since you sent to know then all - who's the funniest one of all? Not that I would be interested in talking to these enemies of yours..no, no. Simply asking for a friend...

My previous post doesn't make sense anymore after your edit Doesn't matter I understand your POV and intent

Please, this is good advice? Better, more balanced ways of doing that. "When are you getting your degree?" "Thanks for your interest in me and my life. For caring enough about to ask. Appreciate it. I don't know and you know I don't know when I will get my degree. Now, fuck off"

Resonates, especially the bold part. I get the idea of life purpose. Has its charme, but also its limitations. And sometimes it seems to me that the whole chaos, drama and evil in the world is simply the universes attempt to make life meaningful. Let's assume you're "it" and let's assume you're invincible, you can never die, you cannot not exist...so how can you make it interesting for you? To take some pressure of the whole thing re OP: a japanese women once talked about ikigai, and she said: "in the West, you take it so serious, you make it so big, this purpose thing. In Japan, we sometimes just use the model in a way of "what gets me out of bed TODAY?

1) Generalizations about "how life works" or "how one should do XYZ" based on the sample size of one 2) The sometimes compulsive behavior to explain the world to others instead of being interested and engaging in an exchange of subjective experiences 3) The need to put "teachers" or "gurus" or "coaches" on a pedestal instead of thinking for yourself 4) The lack of good parmesan in the buffet section

Don't know final answers, but some questions and pointers that might be helpful: You're working on yourself, on your family relationships, you're reflecting and looking for ways to improve your life quality and that if others --> hope you already gave yourself some credit for this if not, hope you're considering doing this now. "Weird and horrible person acting weird for no reason" --> I would let go of this thought completely. IMO there are always logical reasons, and your reaction makes 100% sense given whatever life experiences you had. Doesn't mean that is constructive or beneficial. But it's never weird. Can't be. It's just systemic reactions and adaptation. Psychology is in some ways like math: you don't put 1+1 into a calculator and then say the result = 2 is weird. It's just cause and effect. "Are you bypassing? Can you achieve things together? Healthy to reduce contact?" ---> maybe instead of looking for black/white answer, see it more as an experiment. Or better, as many small experiments. How would you know what's good for you? What small experiences would give you evidence towards the one or the other? How can you test it as easy and fun as possible? Small real life tests to validate your ideas. Start more contact with a phone call, or just 30 minutes visit for coffee. Then evaluate. Or stay away for time X, then see what happens. Be open to change, as others as well as you are in constant flux. Be aware where you put your attention. As an idea, in your next post name at least one thing you are proud of, one thing you're happy about re your actions. I'm saying this because I have the impression that this is something you don't do naturally a lot?

@Someone here Yeah, I forgot what it wanted to write. Did that not become obvious by the statement "I forgot" ?

Second time you write short statements and posts that lack depth, reasons and context in this thread. Zero value added for me.

Yes, fully agree. My impression that abstraction is often mistaken as experiential. First comes the experience, then the concept. Not vice versa.

Hm don't see it as trolling. In my POV, there is the intention to create value. If my hypothesis is right - > others can learn. If my hypothesis is wrong -> I can learn. It's just my way of doing that.

Because.....?

That theses "big life changing insights" are close to useless in real life application. Even if they were, they are not transferable to other people's real life behavior. Go ask any AI for the most important insights in life or any domain. Chances are, most people will agree to most of those insights presented. It's no rocket science to come up with an order of some clever sounding words, aka "insight". I can buy a new age calendar for that. Many posts here suggest that having this or that insight it what it's about. I wholeheartedly disagree. Yeah mind calms down for a while, but that's it. Finding, becoming aware, announcing, reading about big insights doesn't change much, if at all. So from time to time, I'm making fun about this kind of stuff.

+1 And capitalism as it is often expressed. This idea that it's desirable or even beneficial for individuals or society that a single person accumulates a huge, basically unlimited amount of wealth.