Sex Work as Life Purpose?

[Lila9]

@Nate I think that it might be very individual. In my opinion you should start from asking yourself honestly why you are specifically attracted to the idea of being a sex worker and check if you have any idealization of it because the reality is much more complex. You don't need others validation that sex work is "spiritual" or not. If you see meaning in it and some high purpose why not try it? Before you try that, why not talk directly to people who do that already and judge by yourself? 

The same as you do with any profession you want to have; you do some research and talk to people who are already in that profession for some period of time. You ask them why they chose that and what pros and cons it has and then compare it with your reasons, the advantages you want to gain by that and the price you are ready to pay for doing that. Better to create a list of good questions to ask.

Many people idealize sex work because it's both sex + money, the things that we all love and attached to but they are not aware that doing sex all the time as a duty, with strangers that you have to please (sometimes at the expense of your sexual needs) in exchange of money it's not the same as doing sex with a loved one that you are attracted to and choose to be with, someone who also pleases you. Perhaps after a while of doing sex work you might create a conditioning in your mind that sex equals labor/task and you might not want to have sex outside of the work or might not enjoy sex that much with the people that you have a romantic relationship with.

 

My question is, if you are interested in both sex and spirituality, why not considering being a sexual therapist? Or some tantric mentor? The idea is being someone who is not only doing unconscious sex with people and have not much effect on them except of their temporary and immediate satisfaction, but someone who promotes healthier and more spiritual, high-quality sex, who improves people's lives, helps to heal their sexual wounds, strengthen their confidence in bed and help them create some deep intimate and spiritual connection with themselves and other people.

 

 

[Scholar]

2 hours ago, Lila9 said:

I considered it at some desperate moments in my life and came to the conclusion that I prefer to clean toilets for the rest of my life (or doing any low wage job) rather than having OF or doing SW. I might sound primitive but I don't feel like it's natural for me to share my body with strangers no matter how much money is involved. I would feel like I'm betraying myself and I can't live with that. 

I'm sure that some women see it as a decent way to earn money and it's somehow connecting with their personality and lifestyle or with some psychological trauma that they are trying unconsciously to heal by doing that. I'm sure there are men who specifically attracted to this kind of women, but I'm not sure they are the healthiest ones.

I think that's a wise attitude to hold. It's also a bad idea to jump on a bandwagon that by now might make it difficult for you to compete in the first place. You run the risk of no reward while compromising some of your core values.

 

I also feel like people just don't realize the potential there is in this kind of market. OnlyFans is like the fast food of porn, you could easily pioneer some more sophisticated form of "sex-entertainment", that might not even necessitate compromising yourself in the way that you might feel is betraying yourself. But it would most likely involve more work than just taking pictures of yourself and uploading them.

In my view, to not live a miserable life, your work has to be more than just effortless money generation. It has to involve creativity, artistry, vision, passion and love.

People do not even understand what they are missing, because of the developmental stage we are at currently. Everything you see in sex-entertainment is stage orange, the McDonald's of sexuality. Everything is reduced to pure sexual pleasure. But to those who are more developed, a sexual experience is so much more than just this narrow spectrum of emotion we have reduced it to in the 21st century.

It really is like fast food, people's palates are so desensitized, so overstimulated, that if you gave them a meal prepared by a world class cook, they would call it bland.

 

There is a growing market in "audio erotica" for example, and I do feel it is atleast somewhat less degrading than things like OnlyFans. I would imagine, atleast if one has a passion and joy for the production of such things, that it is more fullfilling than doing something where everything is basically just centered around visual stimulation. And of course a more conscious person could probably nudge their own product in the direction that they would want to, rather than playing into the sexual reductionism we are observing everywhere.