Why are people attracted to jerks?

[Zeroguy]

3 minutes ago, Proserpina said:

If he wished well he wouldn't boycott her, ignore her in his journals and threaten to slap her.

Ignoring her toxic waste ain't noone's punching bag or will allow disrespect when I do indeed wish her best. To all of you too. 

[Hulia]

3 minutes ago, Proserpina said:

If he wished well he wouldn't boycott her, ignore her in his journals and talk of slapping her.

He wrote slapp with "". Nothing insulting about it. "Slapp" with "" means to wake, bring to awareness

[Hulia]

3 minutes ago, Zeroguy said:

I love you, lets cuddle. 

Nothing special about me. It´s just this forum, they get insulted over every single word. What is wrong with these guys??? I don´t get it. 

[CultivateLove]

1 minute ago, Zeroguy said:

I completed it all. Literally. 

[Zeroguy]

[Zeroguy]

8 minutes ago, Hulia said:

Nothing special about me. It´s just this forum, they get insulted over every single word. What is wrong with these guys??? I don´t get it. 

Spoiled or cowards. That's it,that simple. 

No theory or much philosophy behind it. 

Edited May 6, 2021 by Zeroguy

[JosephKnecht]

2 hours ago, Preety_India said:

You got the question all wrong. 

What I meant is people with a massive ego, being very condescending and selfish. Rude. Not showing humility. Showing a lot of attitude. And how they enjoy more respect than those who are pleasant kind and humble. 

You are attracted to people with a massive ego because you have tried hard to repress your own ego.

Your deepest desire is to be authentic, and the Ego people are authentically selfish. You are attracted to their authenticity, not the Ego. 

You have disowned your ego, and have created a shadow out of it. Instead of disowning, you have to integrate, then transcend.

Nice guys(opposite of Jerks  ) are not attractive because they have also disowned their Ego, and they use their "niceness" in an attempt to fulfill their desires. Since niceness is just a coping mechanism, it is unauthentic and thus unattractive. 

If you find an authentic nice guy, it is probably the Buddha, so you must kill him.  

[Shin]

This isn't Facebook guys, stay on topic.

[Zeroguy]

@Hulia Since it bruises their ego even spiritual one so hard they don't want to hear that. 

That's why they react. It unsettles foam bubble they made for themselves to feel comfortable in. Including spiritual folks. 

Edited May 6, 2021 by Zeroguy

[Inva]

@Shin he wakes up in the morning, talks shit, walks in it, puts his footprints all over here. 

doesn't stop all the way to bed

@Nahm i believe this is ur clown you're meant to be taking care of? he keeps callin out to u like his ur dad or somethin is all

[Nahm]

@Inva

Weird how we favor compassion, isn’t it?  Well, then again, you might not know what that is.

[Hulia]

7 minutes ago, JosephKnecht said:

You are attracted to people with a massive ego because you have tried hard to repress your own ego.

Your deepest desire is to be authentic, and the Ego people are authentically selfish. You are attracted to their authenticity, not the Ego. 

You have disowned your ego, and have created a shadow out of it. Instead of disowning, you have to integrate, then transcend.

Nice guys(opposite of Jerks  ) are not attractive because they have also disowned their Ego, and they use their "niceness" in an attempt to fulfill their desires. Since niceness is just a coping mechanism, it is unauthentic and thus unattractive. 

If you find an authentic nice guy, it is probably the Buddha, so you must kill him.  

 

1 minute ago, Zeroguy said:

@Hulia Since it bruises their ego even spiritual one so hard they don't want to hear that. 

It´s all about ego, right? All. "To do the work" means to get the ego out of shadow, integrate and transcend it. And not tell each other´s egos pleasant things. 

[Zeroguy]

@Inva I am just you man. Not some other. 

Easy for me to play knowing all workings of the mind including very well masked ones. 

[Zeroguy]

4 minutes ago, Inva said:

@Zeroguy I wish you actually knew you what u were talkin bout. Like, can you explain just one, like 1 single working of the mind in detail?

It's alright. we know you're just special. im not going to make u. much love  

Can you now finally see why jerks are attractive? 

Thank you, really rest my case. 

Edited May 6, 2021 by Zeroguy

[Nahm]

10 hours ago, Preety_India said:

I'm not talking about romantic attraction

Just in a general sense in terms of self actualization. 

Ive often made this observation that when you are rude and strict and a bit dickish with people (read Narcissist ) they tend to respect you and value you much more. 

Whereas if you were being humble, nice and pleasant, they give you zero value and treat you like shit. 

It's almost as if you want to earn the respect of maximum people, you have to be this egotistical egomaniac narcissist and only then you're taken seriously. 

Why can't people see that such behaviors are deeply rooted in ego and ego stroking and there is no humility there?

Why does humility sell so cheap?

You’re ignoring your intuition. Stop stifling yourself so much when you’re feeling the true nature. Listen to it, so to speak. 

[Proserpina]

23 minutes ago, Shin said:

This isn't Facebook guys, stay on topic.

Apologies. 

@Zeroguy love u. 

[Shin]

18 minutes ago, Inva said:

@Shin he wakes up in the morning, talks shit, walks in it, puts his footprints all over here. 

doesn't stop all the way to bed

@Nahm i believe this is ur clown you're meant to be taking care of? he keeps callin out to u like his ur dad or somethin is all

The last 2 pages is just several guys talking shit about each other, again, there is Facebook or Tweeter if that's their thing.

[Zeroguy]

6 minutes ago, Inva said:

@Zeroguy ..... not gettin involved. U know whats false (but not what's true), you're good at falseness. 

you're just going to get seen more & more as the special kid the less real u r man seriously 

6 minutes ago, Inva said:

@Zeroguy 

Listen. I do understand need you guys have for someone like me to plug you out of shells. 

Same advice to you as I gave Preety. C'mon. 

Whatever you think at the very end is just a belief. 

[hyruga]

2 hours ago, Roy said:

Although he is being a pest about it he is right, there is quite a bit of spinning tires in the mud going on here on these forums.

I know I'm guilty of it for sure.............

I agree with Roy. Though Zero sounds harsh, what he say is right.

2 hours ago, Roy said:

Although he is being a pest about it he is right, there is quite a bit of spinning tires in the mud going on here on these forums.

I know I'm guilty of it for sure............

[Leo Gura]

@Zeroguy Do not inflame threads into needless conflict. People here grow at their pace, not your pace. Be respectful and understanding of that rather than pouncing on them.

Truth does not give you license to be an asshole here.