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How can I reset my sexual fantacies?

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55 minutes ago, mandyjw said:

@ElhamMaybe it's not about the fantasy, it's about the focus the fantasy allows you to have? 

Nicely said!

Exactly. It leads me to focus better

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52 minutes ago, Nahm said:

This is a funny application of teamwork making the dream work.  “We got you, you can totally do this!”

xD

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1 hour ago, Elham said:

 

 you mean shouldn't I expect to get to orgasm every time I have sex?

Hell No. The female genital is capable of multiple orgasm so it is possible to have orgasm every time you have sex.

But as stated in the above comments your partner should also play an important role in making you comfortable and be vulnerable. 

Watch How to make a girl squirt video. 

 

 

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59 minutes ago, Elham said:

Nicely said!

Exactly. It leads me to focus better

Is it a fantasy or a visualization? Explore what feeling it evokes or why exactly it leads you to focus, or let go. 


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It's 50% the guy personality (if it makes you feel girly) and 50% you being able to open yourself psychologically and relax.

The problem is not to learn a special secret technique for the guy or the girl for the girl to have orgasms, that pretty much counts for nothing.

Edited by Shin

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1 hour ago, TRUTHWITHCAPITALT said:

your partner should also play an important role in making you comfortable and be vulnerable. 

Watch How to make a girl squirt video. 

Yup... I should count on my partner as well. 

I have watched and I am studying about sex alot butas you said my partner should know stuff as well.

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@Shin I was actually looking for a technique from yoi guys such as do meditation or don't have sex for a long time or its your partner's fault xD

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@Elham

It's really easy, at least in theory. You are probably an overthinker. If that is the case, you need to drop the thoughts and flow with your emotions. Meditation can help a lot! Also, exercise, healthy and enough food, hydrated body, massage, and other stuff can make a difference. Avoid exhaustive work, fasting, not sleeping enough, not resting enough, bad postures, etc... Really, just basic adjustments.

This will not reset your sexual fantasies, but rather will ignite your libido. Don't make resetting your fantasies a priority or even a goal. Instead, aim at sparking that sexy sensation that you are looking for, by any means.

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7 hours ago, Elham said:

 or don't have sex for a long time 

Actually, if I don't orgasm for 5 or more days, then I'm very capable of at least 3 orgasms in a row:D


“You don’t have problems; you are the problem.”

– Swami Chinmayananda

Namaste ? ?

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4 hours ago, Anna1 said:

Actually, if I don't orgasm for 5 or more days, then I'm very capable of at least 3 orgasms in a row:D

I was planning to go 4 months without sex and fix the issue xD

Imagine how I would turned out after thatxD

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@Elham It can also do quite the opposite, probably not, who knows. If i don't masturbate for long enough a woman's body doesnt arouse me at all and i will think about sex less than 10 minutes a day with almost no attachment to it at the age of 23, with all the hormones. (Ofc sex is much different than masturbation). By the way i heard some girls just do that ro get orgasm faster.

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Actually I think masturbation may result in not getting to orgasm with guys!

 

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8 hours ago, Elham said:

I was planning to go 4 months without sex and fix the issue xD

Imagine how I would turned out after thatxD

This is too long, imo, you may turn into mother Teresa and kill your sex drive.


“You don’t have problems; you are the problem.”

– Swami Chinmayananda

Namaste ? ?

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8 hours ago, Elham said:

Actually I think masturbation may result in not getting to orgasm with guys!

 

Masturbation is the most beautiful thing in the world. It has no toxic effects. 

It has never impacted my sex life, rather it has helped my sex life a great deal. 

Masturbation is the king of orgasms. Maybe you and your guy should do it. 

I do experience multiple orgasms and masturbation has helped me a lot with that early on in my life. The earlier the better. 

 

 

 

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1 minute ago, Preety_India said:

Masturbation is the most beautiful thing in the world. It has no toxic effects. 

It has never impacted my sex life, rather it has helped my sex life a great deal. 

Masturbation is the king of orgasms. Maybe you and your guy should do it. 

 

I actually agree.


“You don’t have problems; you are the problem.”

– Swami Chinmayananda

Namaste ? ?

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IF you are watching porn. I would recommend eliminating that. For more info: yourbrainonporn.com . Could also look into Karezza: "The goal of Karezza, unlike most kinds of sexual intercourse, is not orgasm but reaching a relaxed state of union with your sexual partner." - Quote from online. I've heard a lot of good things about it from couples.  

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