toth7

how to last longer in bed and have harder erections?

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Hello to all, I´m doing big changes in my life like starting to eat healthy, avoiding suggar and stuff. Also I quitted watching porn for a week (I have been masturbating  almost for a decade).

 Im starting to do a routine based on pushups and flexions at home cause I dont practice any sport at all.

I´m doing all this beacuse I want to feel better about myself and work in my life, but also becuase I last like 3 minutes in bed. Its very frustrating to se the girls faces when I have sex.  I think Im not alone in this journey to last longer in bed and have harder erections, I know Is a Ego issue but I think this is crippling my self confidence and with women in general.

So please any advice or experiece about this problem would be very helpfull ,for me and for all the ones who struggle with this problem.

thanks to all have a good day!

ps: Im not a native speaker but I do my best ;)

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Good for you! Congrats ! ❤?

I think erection issues are more linked to mind -rather than physical issues. It has to do with how you feel,what you expect from your body,you just stressed out and you need to find someone who can relax you. ?

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You could take a look on The Multi-Orgasmic Man.

It requires a lot of exercise of the pubococcygeus muscle, but you will be very generously rewarded for your efforts.

Not only because you'll last longer and have more pleasure than ever, but also because you'll heal your body and gain a lot of energy with this non-ejaculatory orgasms.

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7 hours ago, toth7 said:

Also I quitted watching porn for a week

^^ Nah, this will not cut it. This is your problem. 

My suggestion is to not use your willpower, ban porn completely then deal with the underlying causes (relationships, emotional, health etc 

1. Ban with this device http://www.safesurfer.co.nz/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI0OSrx-ap3AIVEwoqCh30pAo9EAAYASAAEgIgl_D_BwE

2. Use www.freedom.to to control the way you use the internet 

3. Improve your health, emotions, goals and relationships. There is plenty of this stuff in the forum 

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Spend more time in nature and or doing activities that allow you to be more "in the moment" this in turn will be your meditation, find what you enjoy that is not on screens or devices or similar things that stimulate the mind too much and creates unnatural excessive thinking.

The more you live in the moment the less thoughts will arise and the more you can be in the body/mind as a whole and enjoy yourself without thoughts/thinking ruining your fun. When the moment arises, Practice being with it instead of thinking with it.

Healthier diet/lifestyle choices will help too. Ginkgo Biloba is also a great herb for assisting to achieve more of this mind/body balance.


B R E A T H E

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@toth7, you gotta learn how to relax and breath deeply during sex. The problem is that you are probably very tense so you build up a lot of energy at your penis very quickly. Then it becomes too much for you and you come. So learn to breath deeply, relax your perineum and relax. Also, ironically enough, it really helps if you start caring less about cumming early. This just adds to the tension in your body and thus adds to the energy becoming too much. You can practice this deep breathing and relaxing the perineum during masturbation. 

this problem will probably take some time to go away, so also find some work arounds. If you're almost cumming maybe stop and start eating some pussy or start fingering. And while you're doing that, practice deep breathing.

 

Good luck!

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I got you. I have been suffering for this since last year(as some replies above, it is not necessarily a physical problem, i think your problem is more related with a psychological issue). I have a girlfriend and she said me at the past things like what you're facing now, so i took the decision to go to a psychologist. Like me, and other various men, probably it is an anxiety problem. You think so much what the girl you're will think about you/your performance or that you aren't enough for her and this is big fucking shit. Going to talk with a professional about it made me think about the issues in my mind, and how i could be a better person and not worry about it while I am naked with my girlfriend. It has helped me a lot. I have been feeling more confident about this since the first sessions, and my dick is very hard every time we have sex.

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Check out this thread, this technique worked really well for me in the past, both against premature ejaculation and erectile issues:

 

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It's fucking porn that fucks up ur brain and desensitizes you from real girls.Just keep on doin NoFap and ur erection problems will eventually go away.

Edited by Evil Raccoon

I'm not friendly.

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10 hours ago, Dumuzzi said:

Check out this thread, this technique worked really well for me in the past, both against premature ejaculation and erectile issues:

 

One time i was able to hold my ejaculation throughout an orgasm but i lost my erection :/ 

I saw in one video Mantak Chia teaching guys to rub their penis vigorously with baby oil (like 500 times per day) in order to desensitize it to last longer in bed, but i never saw it anywhere else, some thoughts on it?

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@Recursoinominado you need to strengthen the muscle that holds back urine by clenching and releasing it several times a day. Then, you need to hold back ejaculation for a few days at least to achieve the desired effect. You can practice on your own.

I guess there are various traditional practices to desensitize the penis, but I've never tried them.

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17 hours ago, VerballyHazardous said:

@Evil Raccoon

Here, take my gun and go kill all of those evil porn makers.

I'm as evil as them.


I'm not friendly.

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If you have tried all other options with no results then it means your health is not right so you need to adjust your diet and use herbs like

Damiana Leaf

Tongkat Ali

Korean Ginseng

There is a site i found lots of information about herbs for improved sexual health, i cannot copy the content here, but i will provide a link below

Go here to learn about the herbs that can help you last longer in bed and give you harder erections. Source

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For anybody who might be looking at this - learn to finger/eat out your girl. She can have an orgasm without your dick.

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On 5/19/2020 at 7:58 PM, Evil Raccoon said:

It's fucking porn that fucks up ur brain and desensitizes you from real girls.Just keep on doin NoFap and ur erection problems will eventually go away.

That's one possible reason out of dozens.

This idea of a magic pill that solves everyone in one particular situation is extremist and ideological.


Spirituality is not the renunciation of life

It is the art of living fully

 

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Another reason may be an inhibition of your male agression. From personal experience I found that connecting deeper to my agression has made sex more enjoyable and allowed me to step deeper in my masculine essence. I want to make something clear, when I mean agression I mean the raw power of it. Agression is neither good nor bad. How we use it makes all the difference. By learning to relax my body and slow things down while simultaniously feeling the inner feeling of ravishing her I am able to last longer. For me sex has now become more than the simple pressure release of ejaculation. Often times I have sex without ejaculation or even penetration all together. I have learned to enjoy the progress more and allow myself to feel the turn on fully!

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