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Surely the content he has already put out is enough for years?

I’m in the UK and I’m thinking of moving to London purely to meet more people and date. I’m currently in a small town and there isn’t anyone new to meet. But at the same time I do think it is a bit desperate. If I told anyone I was going purely to date then it does sound a bit silly. I would say I was going for more job opportunities.

I’m in the exact same position. Literally just working a job I kind of like but am a bit bored of, with a lot of money saved. I was originally saving for a house, but now I think a mortgage is a terrible idea. I’d love to need new people and do other stuff but my job takes a lot of energy out of my weekdays and even weekends. Now I feel stuck and I don’t really know what to do. Tempted to go travelling or change jobs. I get the regular suicidal thoughts too but they always fade away. It sucks, and the future doesn’t look good especially here in the UK. The worst feeling in the world is feeling stuck but also having freedom to do something about it. I’ve asked for help on here before for the exact same question you have so you could give that a look if you want, it could help.

There’s a lot of group think on this forum. I’m guilty of that. And is anyone actually doing the work? I highly doubt it. If you’re working a job or career then I can guarantee nobody is sitting there meditating or doing psychedelics.

I feel the same way sometimes. I always wonder if I was fine as I was before I found ‘self help’.

I know people aren’t gonna like this but… most people are born by accident. The parents didn’t plan it at all. And you can tell who the people are that are born by accident. If you do the family thing then you MUST plan it, especially in this day and age. And there are some guys out there that are made to be fathers. They have the father instinct in them built in to their DNA. Other men do not have this in them, and they probably shouldn’t be fathers. But what do I know? Life is so complicated that there isn’t a size fits all.

We only need a few friends. It’s really important to set boundaries though, because if you don’t know how or when to say no - people can just walk all over you. Friends that can understand that are the best friends ever. And being available all the time is not good. You definitely need parts of your day on your own to gather your thoughts.

If you do marriage with the right person - absolutely fine. Nothing wrong with it. If you do it with the wrong person - then God bless you.

@Schizophonia maybe not overanalyse everything dude.

I was thinking that. Deconstructing music isn’t even worth it. Deconstruct anything else but not music. lol!

Absolutely. Especially for alcoholics and serious drug addicts. I’m addicted to caffeine and nicotine. I know they’re both causing problems but my god it’s hard to quit them both. There’s nobody to blame but caffeine and nicotine is everywhere. People offer me coffee for free all the time, so you have to constantly be on your guard if you want to quit caffeine for good.

I’ve found that if your life is shit, being sober is really hard. But if your life is amazing, being sober is easy. And forget about ‘dopamine’. Forget that word altogether. Chances are you saw the word dopamine on YouTube and you didn’t know it existed when you were a kid. We’re all addicts. I don’t know anyone that doesn’t have an addiction to something.

I can’t believe any young dudes think that strategy would work in the first place. The amount of manipulation you have to keep up in order to make it work is frightening. The women are gullible for doing it in the first place. Onlyfans exists to help these women sell their bodies on their own terms, and the guy that created onlyfans is basically a legal pimp. Imagine the amount of money he’s made from creating onlyfans! Incredible!

Beetroot powder is the solution. You’ll be waking up with a boner every morning without fail.

There’s no doubt that this forum helps. But I’ve noticed in my own life - you have to get off the forum and YouTube to absorb what’s being said. A lot of this forum is American politics, which is important. But it isn’t about you sitting there meditating or reading a book.