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@Someone here Also, a big part of quitting smoking is just about growing up. You really don’t want to be the guy that dies because of self-inflicted smoking. Sounds harsh, I’m sorry

Simply never buy cigarettes ever again. Stop hanging around people that smoke. Think about yourself as a non-smoker. Also think about what its doing to your body. Have some compassion for your lungs. Thats what helped me anyway.

@Thestarguitarist14 We all have different personalities. And yeah, if you aren't too creepy and have a mountain of trauma, then approaching girls shouldn't be too much of a problem. Some men do it for different reasons, I would do it to make myself stronger and more resilient, but a lot of guys do it to sleep with 1000 girls. The latter would take up so much time and effort, I don't know how any man actually achieves it.

@Max_V I'm in exactly the same situation, bro. Desperate to talk to the opposite sex but not really being able to because of the virus going around, with numbers of infections rising each day. Not to playtime victim though! I know if I really wanted to, I could go out and talk to girls, but it feels like a bad time to do it. That being said, I don't think the inner game stuff works without taking ACTION. It seems the more girls you talk to and realise it isn't actually that difficult, the inner game fixes itself. But you have to go out and do it, there isn't any way around it. For me right now, I'm focusing on getting my body into shape, keeping fit, and getting more sleep. In a way, this is taking action, and it is giving me more confidence, but I know in the back of my head that the rubber really meets the road when you are out in the field talking to girls.

Hahahaha I love how many Sv3rige videos came up after I put mine on here. That guy is like the King of conspiracy theories, along with Alex Jones. Fascinating that there are people like them out there...

This guy is a gigantic conspiracy nutcase. Be warned, you're in for a treat when you watch these... The comment sections of his videos are even worse. So many people blindly believing his shit.

Self-Actualization work is life long. Am I right?

Keep active after eating anything. Sitting down after food will cause you to be sleepy. Also, quit caffeine if you are consuming any, it just makes you crash.

Lately I have been thinking that this is one of the things that is holding me back in life - my own grudges I have towards old friends and other people. I don’t like to admit I have these grudges but I know I have them and I feel that if I don’t address them then they will always be there to haunt me. I have been doing the 18:6 fast for the past week and in the mornings my mind has been going back to the past, and I’ve thought of all the times people have wronged me and pissed me off, and thus I’ve held grudges, without solving the problems there and then. I never said anything back, which I regret not doing. So now it’s haunting me every other day. Not sure if it is the fasting but I haven’t had these thoughts before fasting... I don’t particularly want to go back because the things I have grudges about were years ago, and the grudges themselves are really silly. If I told them to you, you’d probably laugh and say ‘fuck it and move on, everything’s fine and they won’t remember’ Its eating me up. And I feel I can’t move on until I solve it. I’m not a bad guy and I have grown up massively in the past couple of years. Does anyone know how to go about doing this in the best way possible? I know the best way might be the worst way haha.

@GroovyGuru I always wonder this too. The guys that are really into pickup or teach it have LOADS of free time. For those who teach it, it is their job to do pickup. And yeah, it looks like a crazy rollercoaster of a life and I reckon these guys burnout a lot but never talk about it. The days where I have done daygame, I'm excited and talkative at the start and then at the end I'm exhausted and can't think straight. Daygame is like a fucking gym workout. I'm also in the same position as you describe, I'm trying to figure out how to work for myself whilst also wanting to do more pickup. But during the pandemic this probably isn't the best time for pickup and the best time to figure out career or LP. Although that doesn't mean don't bother with pickup. I'll be doing a lot more daygame at the weekends. Have you done much pickup before?

This is why it isn't wise to spend thousands on a pickup course. The courses are great and give you plenty of tips, but there's loads of videos on YouTube about pickup now, all for free. My advice to anyone new to pickup: Just go out with an experienced wingman, learn from him and take action yourself. You can do this for free too. And like Leo has said, just move to/live near a big city with loads of hot girls.

@electroBeam Nothing weird about that at all. If you look at this from the girls eyes you can see why she likes the fun guy. If I was a girl I would wanna be around the fun guy all the time. Why would she wanna hang around a boring guy that doesn't do anything...?

@Leo Gura What about if you are already 50% a confident guy. Would it still take a few years to get good at this stuff?

@electroBeam Naturalist? Do you mean 'just be yourself'? Ha!

@Bazooka Jesus Amazing post, thank you. I'm happy that you found what you love doing! I won't be pissing away the rest of my twenties, although I have pissed away my early twenties. Glad I found actualised.org when I did... I don't know if I'll ever 'make something of myself'. But I'm not so anxious as I was when I made the original post on this thread. Some days I wanna make something of myself and other days I just wanna relax and do nothing... LIFE IS FUCKING CRAZY! I don't want it to end...