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How can I stop this mentality?? And how can I stop being so needy and silly with women?? and most important how can I start accepting my self and grow a pair?? If you can share with me some tips, I will be very helpfull. I started doing some breathing excercices yesterday and help me a little, thank you

To tell the truth when I was with my ex girlfriend two years ago. I know that is wrong but thanks to that I realize that I´m needy as hell

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Hello everyone, my name is Andrés and I am 28 years old on November 11, Sorry for my writing, I am Bolivian not native speaker. My life went numb over time, due to my low self-esteem and dissatisfaction with everything I did. In the professional part I left at 27 years of university, I dedicated myself to being at home masturbating, playing ps4 or smoking marijuana. I live with my parents who give me comfort but I have nothing on my part, I got a temporary job of 9 months and I feel useless. It is very difficult for me to start conversations with people, I feel inferior when I talk to people, I feel anxious every time I talk to people, even when I walk down the street I am afraid to see people in the eyes. In the love part, it is worse for me, I had a girlfriend 7 years younger than me, who fell in love with her and left me broke. Thanks to that immense pain I could see that really without lying to me I subconsciously seek a woman who loves me and approves me. I think the need for love is because my mother never accepted me as a child and often beat me. When I am close to a pretty woman or not, I always end up looking like an idiot, an old infant, and it makes me very sad, so I prefer to ignore women since I have them on the highest pedestal because nobody is interested in me. Friends I don't have, I managed to isolate myself from everything and everyone, I don't have hobbies, I'm not interesting and I have a bad mood and abundant sadness. I do not think I am the ugliest in the world, I am 1.83m tall, I am relatively attractive, but I feel horrible and I have very bad results with women and people in general. I feel sad to know that I don't need anyone to be happy, but my being longs for love and the stupid idea of having a woman who loves me and endures the shit of the person I am. It is a useless battle but every time I pass the street and see all those couples, or successful people it makes me very bad. Anyway I am a complacent beta male, in need of affection, weak and without any vision for my life, I do not know if it will be too late for me, I do not know what, or how to change my nightmare of life, if someone had any advice or Some similar experience would greatly appreciate it, thanks for reading.

Sorry for publishing the title in capital letters this is another video that has subtitles

Hi to all!!! my native languaje is spanish I'm from Bolivia. Anyway, I've sufferd constantly for about 4 years and Im still suffering, But I never give up. So I read books and watch all kind of videos on youtube of personal development( oviously Actualized.org) and others, But I think I've found a gold mine on an Spanish Chanel of REAL personal development that Inspired and help me to understand myself a lot! Sadly all their videos are in spanish languaje, but This to links that I will post here are with english subtitles. I recomend all people to watch this videos the chanel is called Borja Vilaseca and I hope it helps in your personal development journey ps: sorry for my writting and thanks Leo for all your efford!

Hello to all, I´m doing big changes in my life like starting to eat healthy, avoiding suggar and stuff. Also I quitted watching porn for a week (I have been masturbating almost for a decade). Im starting to do a routine based on pushups and flexions at home cause I dont practice any sport at all. I´m doing all this beacuse I want to feel better about myself and work in my life, but also becuase I last like 3 minutes in bed. Its very frustrating to se the girls faces when I have sex. I think Im not alone in this journey to last longer in bed and have harder erections, I know Is a Ego issue but I think this is crippling my self confidence and with women in general. So please any advice or experiece about this problem would be very helpfull ,for me and for all the ones who struggle with this problem. thanks to all have a good day! ps: Im not a native speaker but I do my best

Hi Dan behm, Im very very interested in your method, but as a studen of english( Not a native speaker) I got a little bit confussed quite easily. Can you please please give me an example on how to do it step by step, so I can aply it in my life?. I would really tank you men ps. Sorry for my english writting hope you understad

@egoeimai thanks for your advice men, I really apreciate it! I was overwhelmend the last year, now Im more focused. BUt what do you think is the best strategy to overcome the thougths on my first ex ever that replaced me for being with a funnier, extroverted, younger and more experienced guy. And the dumb thougths about somebody f.ing her and me sucking at sex

Hello everyone, I'm from Bolivia and my writing in English is not so good, I hope you understand. To make it simple I am 26 years old, my ex-girlfriend who is 6 years younger than me ended up with me an almost 3 year relationship, because she cheated on me with another dud and surely now she is with him. I also cheated on her with impunity with several women, but that she does not know. I know I was wrong and that is something wrong to do but I did it that way. The point is that after my ex-girlfriend told me that she cheated on me with another person, was the strongest blow my ego received, I wanted to die. Realizing that princesses do not exist and that people can also cheat on you was something very hard to assimilate. But at that moment reality began to hit harder when I realized that: **Do not finish college **I smoke a lot of marijuana philosophizing about a simple life but yearning for an extroverted life full of people, applause and recognition **I am a shy and introverted man who has no real hobbies **My ex is about to finish college at age 22 and I can not stop comparing myself to her and feeling like a loser **It was my first sexual relationship and serious relationship. **My schoolmates are with promising jobs and I dont work at all **I do not have friends **I have many issues to fix in my psychology **Low self-esteem **My self-image in the sexual field is depressing Then the relationship kept me happy for some time but it was only a mask to put on a very high pedestal a woman and not to do the work necessary to improve my life. I listened to Leo when I was "happy" with my ex but I did not really understand it since a state of "happiness" seemed only "pretty philosophy", but now I realize that my beloved relationship was a lie to stay stuck in this limbo of failure and painful comfort. And all this I understood when I saw my harsh reality and that's where I really could see the immense and valuable help that LEO provides. I know that it is already very long, but I would like you to give me advice on how I can change the aspects of my list, because I really feel like a failure and a total loser. Greetings to all, a thousand thanks to Leo for his work and thanks for your time.