Where Have You Had Sex?

[LordFall]

14 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Enough drama. Stop it.

You locked it at the best part without reading the character development we all went through!

Everyone apologized and we reached a cathartic bonding moment. The next thread is gonna be about looksmaxxing again now 

Edited 1 hour ago by LordFall

[Ulax]

@Inliytened1 Come on man. Its Leo's forum

[Inliytened1]

Just now, LordFall said:

You locked it at the best part! Everyone apologized and we reached a cathartic bonding moment. The next thread is gonna be about looksmaxxing again now 

He's not even paying attention.  He's probably got 3 girls on his mind right now.

[LordFall]

2 minutes ago, Ulax said:

@Inliytened1 Come on man. Its Leo's forum

Truth stands above authority in the values hierarchy.

That's Leo's own principle. 

Edited 1 hour ago by LordFall

[Inliytened1]

@Leo Gura we worked everything out the problem has been solved, so no need to lock bro.

[Yimpa]

35 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

one of my biggest triggers is being misunderstood. Probably my largest trigger.

 GIRL same 😭 

On 7/31/2026 at 2:53 PM, Yimpa said:

I do not have a fear of being seen. I have a fear of being misunderstood.

[LordFall]

Just now, Yimpa said:

 GIRL same 😭 

Tell us about you then, I think you're an interesting person but I don't know much about you apart from the rebellion against Trumpism tidbit you shared the other day. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

9 minutes ago, LordFall said:

You locked it at the best part! Everyone apologized and we reached a cathartic bonding moment. The next thread is gonna be about looksmaxxing again now 

A lot of karma was resolved.

Claiming and owning our poor behaviour stops us resisting the truth, and the feeling of shame dissolves very rapidly. In a flash.

Resist or deny that behaviour and we create a bad relationship to it/our emotions - this is where Ralston's unnecessary suffering comes into it. How we relate to emotions, feelings and thoughts. That's the unnecessary suffering we can affect.

Your forum use has let you sit in more of your authenticity, in my opinion. Just from reading your interactions over time. Your expression is evolving.

4 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

 GIRL same 😭 

I know. It is so difficult too because others are snap quick to psychologically profile (it is actually magical thinking this "mind reading"). People never stop to ask more questions "what exactly do you mean by this and this?" they reply to what they think they understand and then... TRIGGER RAGE

Just ask more questions before thinking you know - half the problem!

Edited 58 minutes ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[LordFall]

3 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

A lot of karma was resolved.Your forum use has let you sit in more of your authenticity, in my opinion. Just from reading your interactions over time. Your expression is evolving.

I'm learning to be more effective in my rhetoric and not as aggressive. I'm an aggressive person by nature but I think it needs to be transmuted to a higher form of energy to be effective.

[Inliytened1]

1 minute ago, LordFall said:

I'm learning to be more effective in my rhetoric and not as aggressive. I'm an aggressive person by nature but I think it needs to be transmuted to a higher form of energy to be effective.

 

1 minute ago, LordFall said:

I'm learning to be more effective in my rhetoric and not as aggressive. I'm an aggressive person by nature but I think it needs to be transmuted to a higher form of energy to be effective.

You have to keep in mind there is a lot of culture here that aren't used to this, so we have to break them in slowly, if it all

[LordFall]

8 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

 

You have to keep in mind there is a lot of culture here that aren't used to this, so we have to break them in slowly, if it all

I used to be a semi pro gamer so trash talking is natural to me and destroying your opponent both in game and in the game chat was the culture. What I learned from that has helped me a lot in understanding reality but I fall back into competition over collaboration a lot of times.

Putting one of the forum threads through Gemini helped me a lot to figure this out. It taught me game theory.

In game theory you start off with a collaborative framework and only switch to antagonism if your opponent has demonstrated multiple times that they are unwilling to be collaborative and thus further collaboration is a losing move . You then switch to a tit for tat strategy and use ruthlessness against your opponent until they learn their lesson and switch back to collaboration.

Makes so much fucking sense. A lot of times I was stuck being a nice guy to a troll instead of ignoring them or being more ruthless in what I'm saying to break their frame and switch them back to honesty or at least get them to fuck off. 

Understanding these principles is very helpful in achieving goals. Same reason I love 48 laws of power by Robert Greene so much. Only by understanding the shadow or if you wanna dramatize it EVIL can you combat it effectively. 

Edited 43 minutes ago by LordFall

[Jordan of the Shire]

@Natasha Tori Maru I appreciate your breakdown of the logic in this thread, observations of patterns, effort to uplift, be relatable, and debatable. 

Re: being misunderstood

 I had a conversation with someone the other day, and the opportunity to test out the relational vs logistical logic you proposed arose. It turned out this relational issue with someone was being interpreted as logistical, and that lead to a conversation of getting on the same page. It was a insight into how relational problems can be misunderstood by the face value logic we ascribe to them. Leading to the sensation of not being understood, which can lead one to acting in emotional ways, or feeling like the connection is null. When someone says, "that's right, that's what I mean" that's when they feel validated and people become more open to viewing things from different perspectives. Easier said than done. Especially when you're trying to get someone else to understand what you mean haha. 

In some ways it can be easier to try and figure out what others mean than it is to have others understand what you mean. At the same time, the knee jerk reaction and triggering is also very powerful and it goes deeper than what thinking is happening. There can be somatic blocks. Often in the heart which messes up the mind. 
 

 

Edited 44 minutes ago by Jordan of the Shire

[Natasha Tori Maru]

5 minutes ago, LordFall said:

I'm learning to be more effective in my rhetoric and not as aggressive. I'm an aggressive person by nature but I think it needs to be transmuted to a higher form of energy to be effective.

Same for me. I am aggressive with my reasoning and pushing it onto others.

I can be very INSISTENT when I think I am right. I engage in a lot of absolute language that leaves no room for nuance. It can transmit that I have not thought something through critically (ie I am stating THIS IS THE THING, rather than "this could be a reason, and given this, it is likely to be").

I think by softening my rhetoric I not only have the message land better, but I actually stop more often and inspect other possibilities. So it sharpens my critical thinking at the same time. The forum is good for these skills.

Maybe you are doing what I am doing above - altering rhetoric to have it transmuted to a clearer and more precise critical thinking assessment/ability? This appears to be the effect it has on me. It is a way of raising consciousness if you think about it

[LordFall]

6 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Same for me. I am aggressive with my reasoning and pushing it onto others.

I can be very INSISTENT when I think I am right. I engage in a lot of absolute language that leaves no room for nuance. It can transmit that I have not thought something through critically (ie I am stating THIS IS THE THING, rather than "this could be a reason, and given this, it is likely to be").

I think by softening my rhetoric I not only have the message land better, but I actually stop more often and inspect other possibilities. So it sharpens my critical thinking at the same time. The forum is good for these skills.

Maybe you are doing what I am doing above - altering rhetoric to have it transmuted to a clearer and more precise critical thinking assessment/ability? This appears to be the effect it has on me. It is a way of raising consciousness if you think about it

Well we are manifestations of God right? God seems to have made a reality built on conflict so makes sense that it's one of the main mechanisms for growth.

I like debates, if we aren't fighting then it must mean we have reached the pinnacle of our power and there is nothing left to fight for. Looking at the state of the world that's far from the case. A debate is just the intellectual form of fighting and if you do it in good faith then you're bound to learn something.

I learned a lot from watching Destiny debates on Youtube. He would do 18 hours of research on a topic and then have his opponent say gibberish nonsense but use social dynamics to appear confident and right. The only way to win against someone who's bad faith is to ignore them or to ruthlessly demolish their points and make them look foolish. So I sometimes adopt that strategy and clearly so does everyone else, DESTRUCTION OF OUR ENEMIES IS BAKED INTO HUMAN DNA.

Are you reading this, white knights? Humans are not helpless victims; we are the apex predator of this realm, and we will conquer the whole universe sooner rather than later!

 Amen

Edited 36 minutes ago by LordFall

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Jordan of the Shire The dynamic you describe is so so similar to how I have been experiencing drilling down into a relational understanding of others. I didn't foresee the function you describe - it leading to more receptivity from the person who feels understood. It is can effectively make them feel safe I guess! This ties into why I suspect relational understanding is key to women - and when men apply logical/analytical understanding it can lead to misunderstanding. Thinking the mechanism explains the person. Thinking we can understand someone's psychology via inference. 

Map (analytical understanding) vs territory (relational understanding). Explanation doesn't equate to understanding.

It's really gathering more datapoints to work with  (logical view haha)

It has been a big recognition to me, as of late, that I was failing in this arena of relational understanding.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

2 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Are you reading this, white knights? Humans are not helpless victims; we are the apex predator of this realm, and we will conquer the whole universe sooner rather than later!

 Amen

Haha - if conflict is an accepted certainty, then we have to make sure we increase our skills at effectively resolution! 

[r0ckyreed]

50 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

I honestly have no idea.

Dude please tell me. You have motivated me and have given me hope that even a 50 year old is still in the game. I’m about 30 and haven’t had any results. Did you meet them on Tinder or what? Where are you meeting them? How do you initiate sex and all that? Are you cold approach or what?

Edit: I appreciated you sharing your stories. It was motivating.

Edited 29 minutes ago by r0ckyreed

[sda]

2 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

in the forest?  No blanket? more details please.

I'm gonna wanna hear a bit about the warehouse orgy too.

When I had sex in the forest, I did not use a blanket and it was in a pond which is in nature with my girlfriend. It was one of the most profound moments in my life when I have first felt like open in nature. Their was no one around in the forest because I was so deep and isolated in the forest.

As for the warehouse orgy, I purchased a ticket in Japan where 50 to 100 people come together to have sex. I tried this to have sex in public collectively with people. I wanted to experiment and get experience of having sex with people collectively. 

In my experience, sex done collectively like in the public warehouse orgy is more deep than sex done individually like in forest.

[Carl-Richard]

So let's put this straight: a guy used piggish language to describe women and sexual relationships and it spawned 700 posts of copium. That's what you're spending time and attention on.

Edited 26 minutes ago by Carl-Richard

[Inliytened1]

1 minute ago, r0ckyreed said:

Dude please tell me. You have motivated me and have given me hope that even a 50 year old is still in the game. I’m about 30 and haven’t had any results. Did you meet them on Tinder or what? Where are you meeting them? How do you initiate sex and all that? Are you cold approach or what?

I just go with my gut.  Like I said, she slips me the eye, And if she doesn't I'm coming in anyway.  You just gotta push your way in.