How to improve my empathy?

[SageMind]

I think I have realized that sometimes my empathy is not optimal. This may be due to multiple experiences of people rejecting me because of my introversion—often, they say I'm boring because I don't drink or go to parties. I often don't care about those situations anymore; I simply remove myself from those social circles. However, I believe I have built a psychological barrier that makes it difficult to empathize deeply with people I care about, as it becomes hard for me to feel interested in their lives.

[Leo Gura]

Being interested in the lives of mediocre conformist normies is not empathy. That's something else.

You shouldn't fake interest in things you aren't interested in. You probably aren't interested because you are interested in much higher, deeper things.

Maybe normie people and things just aren't for you.

Edited 6 hours ago by Leo Gura

[enchanted]

4 hours ago, SageMind said:

IHowever, I believe I have built a psychological barrier that makes it difficult to empathize deeply with people I care about, as it becomes hard for me to feel interested in their lives.

Yes it's good you are ignoring the alcoholic partiers but I have a similar problem with people I care about. What can help is reading fiction. This is backed by science as studies show that reading fiction improves empathy. By reading fiction you are spending hours seeing the world through another person's point of view. Whether that's the author or the characters in the book. 

Reading books on people skills is great too. I found The advice trap, Dare to Lead, Talk so kids Will Listen and listen so kids will talk were great. 

 

Edited 3 hours ago by enchanted