Where do you go to meet women now that you're in your 40s, Leo?

[Joshe]

11 hours ago, meta_male said:

@Joshe I mostly agree, but I’d still argue: some people see through the BS early. Not everyone needs 40 years to know what doesn’t feel real. The risk of developing complexes goes both ways...faking extroversion just to earn solitude can leave you just as miserable.

For me, the sweet spot is social exposure to stay grounded and connected, without bending myself to fit in. 

I'd never recommend changing who you are just to fit in. Introverts don't have to fake extroversion. There's really no faking what's inside. Just that they should expose themselves to social situations and learn how to endure them and exist inside them with relative comfort.

If you seclude yourself too early, you're cutting yourself off from many important life lessons. 

These days, I basically don't socialize at all, other than this forum. But I spent 30 years getting more than my fill, and I've consciously decided I don't want it because I now know what it entails and what the rewards and costs are. I think I'll likely return to being social when I'm done with my serious work. 

[OrangeOak]

Just a few things in response to what people have said:

You can’t fuck yourself up totally.

You can live an extroverted life that isn’t shallow or unspiritual. You don’t have to just go to clubs and bars, you can create an amazing, rich, social circle that provides you with all your social needs, including sex. 

The key is to let go of your own thoughts, such as “socialising is bs” or “I’m weird” etc. and be playful. Self-absorbtion kills your vibe. Other absorbtion is the key. 

I don’t think it’s possible to be happy living a secluded life unless you have met a certain amount of your social and sexual needs. 

People think socialising is hard. It’s only hard for the ego, but once you’re out of your head, notice how effortless it becomes.

I struggle with being self-absorbed, which makes it hard to connect, but I used to be very social, and it is the most joyous thing! 

Be outrageous, people. Out. RAGEOUS! 

Edited Saturday at 01:19 PM by OrangeOak
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[Basman]

On 23/07/2025 at 10:53 PM, zazen said:

Like a narcissistic dog you say .. 😂

Awkward way to stand and hold a hand while the mics in the other.. homie just trying to establish 45sec of kino contact to unlock cosmic levels of attraction and free love.

This hurts to watch.

How can someone possibly be this American and loud?

[Jannes]

On 23.7.2025 at 10:53 PM, zazen said:

 

 

It wasnt that stupid imo. Owen asked what the name of her favourite pet is and answering dog is so unexpectitly unoriginal that it opens up some 'adorable energy' is in the air and if you are in the right state of mind and sensitive enough you can use and cherish this opportunity. Owen did it in a way where he made fun of it, but not from above but also by making fun of himself. 

Edited 3 hours ago by Jannes