How do you deal with the stupidity of other people?

[Aaron p]

I am, by no means, excluding myself from being able to qualify on stupidity scale at times and I hope this post doesn't sound arrogant but I'm developed enough to know that overall I'm noticeably less stupid than people who don't conduct spiritual/epistemic/ philosophical/existential enquiries and investigations. The reason I feel I can identifying the stupidity and seemingly profound lack of epistemic depth and rigor in other people, is because I myself was verrrry unintelligent as a younger person. I was a religious moron.

The difficulty that I didn't see coming with this work is that it's actually super super irritating having to deal with the clear moronicisism of other people who I've advanced past. I mean like people in society, religious ideologues, dumb asses in power and generally people doing damage to themselves and others.

It's kinda like I have to see the world through what I suppose I could call the "intelligence lense." There are many lenses and different forms of unintelligence is also something I've realised.

I've essentially gleaned from my practise in Buddhism that patient acceptance is one really good method. But it doesn't really get to the root. The root of: how do I effectively deal with the people in my life (who I can't yet move away from) who exercise an impressive amount of incredible stupidity? I've tried telling myself "if they knew better they'd do better" and "hate the sin not the sinner," but it's limited. I still get super irritated around people like this.

Anyone care to share any methods or practises they use or favourites from this video:

 

 

Edited May 8 by Aaron p

[rudirotbart]

Your words carry a lot of truth.

You are right that most people don’t look deeply.

And it’s understandable to feel isolated because of that.

 

But maybe — just maybe — the real pain is not their stupidity.

Maybe the real pain is the loneliness that comes from not being seen and deeply connected.

 

You don’t have to fight against them.

You can feel your longing for connection.

You can let your own heart soften — not for them, but for yourself.

 

Because deep down, what you truly crave is not smarter people —

but love, presence, and real understanding.

 

[Aaron p]

@rudirotbart

 

[aurum]

5 hours ago, Aaron p said:

The difficulty that I didn't see coming with this work is that it's actually super super irritating having to deal with the clear moronicisism of other people who I've advanced past. I mean like people in society, religious ideologues, dumb asses in power and generally people doing damage to themselves and others.

Become conscious that they are your own mind.

That will humble you a lot.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Think of it like you broke your arm.

You can't and shouldn't avoid healing and helping it, regardless of the source of the low state it is in. 

It needs care and some help to get back to full functioning.

Beware just ignoring the arm hoping to avoid pain.

Because, in the end, its part of you. 

If you heal that arm, you will be able to enjoy its full functioning again with new appreciation

[Yimpa]

@Natasha Tori Maru That was legit my last ketamine IV trip. The needle was inserted in the "wrong" way, slightly painful, and I started to panic. Once I realized I was panicking, I shifted my attention to giving my arm gentle kindness and compassion. Then the pain melted away 10 mins later.

30 mins into the trip, I start doing qigong movements with my arms and it felt so fluid and alien-like. Like exploring my body for the very first time (shoutout to the qi gong master, you know who you are lol )

Had I chosen fear that trip would have definitely have gone south very fast.

Edited May 9 by Yimpa
my grammar sucks cus i'm so dumb hehehehe hahahaha

[Natasha Tori Maru]

1 minute ago, Yimpa said:

@Natasha Tori Maru That was legit my last ketamine IV trip. The needle was inserted in the "wrong" way, slightly painful, and I started to panic. Once I realized I was panicking, I shifted my attention to giving my arm gentle kindness and compassion. Then the pain melted away 10 mins later.

30 mins into the trip, I start doing qigong movements with my arms and it felt so fluid and alien-like. Like exploring my body for the very first time (shoutout to the qi gong master, you know who you are lol )

A confluence!

It is a great example though - of how letting situations cause an 'upset' in you, inhibits your ability to take the correct action to remedy it.

Imagine if you had ended up thrashing around in panic with an IV bag in your arm >.<

I've had a few IVs inserted wrong and I grit my teeth even now at recalling it!

 

[Princess Arabia]

There's nothing to deal with. Do we go around asking how to deal with bums, with smart people, with confident people, with whatever.....only stupid people. Why are the stupid such a problem. They're only stupid because you say they're stupid, then you ask how to deal with your own categorization of people. It's lens, btw and practice.

[Aaron p]

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DGV6spMOPN2/?igsh=MWF5dGRnZzZocnIwdw==

 

[Salvijus]

You don't have to deal with anyone except yoruself. 

[gettoefl]

God is simple, childish, playful, silly and without agendas or opinions.

And the smart, intellectual, resourceful, strategic, hot-shot is the devil.

Moreover only the uneducated can be honest.

All learning is merely trying to survive better, to improve ones nest.

Learning is the opposite of loving.

The gettoefl rule of thumb: If it's not easy elegant effortless, it's not God.

Give me the one who knows nothing going nowhere.

Harsh truth is, I am happy being the dumbest person I know.

And I am.

The depths of my stupidity will fill the library of Alexandria haha.

Edited May 10 by gettoefl

[Sugarcoat]

You don’t have to deal with people.. why you think they’re yours to deal with…

[Breakingthewall]

People is so dumb that they can make a city of 20 million run like a Swiss watch. Or write novels, make satellites, create art....

Edited May 10 by Breakingthewall

[ExploringReality]

Forgive them father, for they know not what they do.   -Jesus.

[Yimpa]

39 minutes ago, ExploringReality said:

Forgive them father, for they know not what they do.

On 3/18/2025 at 3:24 PM, Yimpa said:

 

[integral]

You get super rich. That's how you do it

[Carl-Richard]

Think of them like they're retarded children who don't know any better. When someone hits so far below your expectations (or you just don't have many expectations of them), it no longer becomes a thing you react negatively to but simply "I understand why that is". But it sort of requires that you understand why they act the way they do, but it doesn't take a genius to do that, it's usually just about reminding yourself whenever the emotions kick in.

I talked about exactly the same thing in this thread:

I recently talked to a friend of mine about watching Destiny, and he said he really doesn't like him at all; he thinks he is too robotic and detached from his emotions, a psycho, etc. And I agree with that, but I still watch him, because it's a shitshow and it's entertaining (and he does say interesting things from time to time). What I didn't get to tell him is that I think that most people (and most of life) are a shitshow, so it doesn't make much of a difference (i.e. my expectations are already low).

 

In a sense, getting angry at stupid people is a reflection of your own stupidity, because if you can't deal with stupid people, then how stupid are you? 😝 On the other hand, if you don't feel quite well (due to stress or other things), and you don't have the vigilance, vitality or frame to step back and think, it's natural to let the emotions take over. It takes resilience and good fortune to take the meta-perspective in any situation. But then it's simply about increasing your resilience and getting your emotions well-regulated. And of course, some things trigger you more than others, especially people who in many ways are actively working against your values. But the same things apply, it's only a bit more challenging.

Edited May 11 by Carl-Richard

[Atb210201]

You don't.

[ivarmaya]

Whenever I feel overwhelmed by the stupidity of others, it’s usually because I’m not grounded in presence. There’s a subtle, unconscious story running…some form of resistance, or a hidden need to feel superior. In that moment, the ego is active. It needs someone to dominate, to reinforce its fragile identity… all while deluding me into thinking that will bring happiness or fulfillment. So I ask myself, who is being the idiot here?

And if you’ve had a no self awakening, you can ask to whom is this stupidity appearing?

Edited May 11 by ivarmaya

[Aaron p]

Quite a variety of answers here...

 

😂

 

I like your answer @integral