When you look at any behavior that might trigger you or somebody else, where you would ask "why are you doing this?", "why are you like this?", "why can't you stop doing it?", one perspective to have and that increases emotional intelligence is: it should be expected, it should come as no surprise. Why are you expecting anything else? Of course people are arrogant, selfish, "stupid", etc. This is how people are, and also how you are. If you get triggered by something, it's because they are failing to meet some standard you impose on them. But if you don't expect them to meet that standard, you getting triggered might happen initially as a small impulse, but then you remember the fact that yes this is all to be expected, and it's no longer a big deal. Also, if you get particularly triggered by something, it's likely because it's something in yourself that you don't like. If you tend to squirm at your own arrogance when it happens, which you also should allow yourself to do, but if you squirm at it so much that you can't accept that you are in fact sometimes arrogant, if it's just too unacceptable to even bring to the surface, you will have a very strong reaction to it when you see it in somebody else. So if you expect that people will be arrogant, it will come as no surprise when they are. And if you expect that you will sometimes be arrogant, you will not react so strongly when other people are. Now, this is not a suggestion to become a doormat or not dealing with people or not standing up for yourself. I'm talking about the cases of being triggered about things that are really not affecting you that much but for the fact that you are triggered (e.g. reading a forum post). Tl;dr: Come to expect people's behavior. Don't be surprised every time it happens. You should know how people tend to act by now. And you are not that different.