egoeimai

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    @Preety_India Yes, thank you preety. It absolutely helps! Ofc

    It's that we need to realize that we're not rude or bad people for letting these people go! They're doing bad rather than good in our lives and our precious time. And of course healing is a long road so we should be thinking about this when communicating with a toxic person. I'm glad my cousin is sooooo egotistical that will not come back to me and make me suffer in her way. She values her miserable life and even then she thinks she will not waste her time getting me back in some way. I'm glad because I didn't want her attention or anything, I just wanted this to be over and slowly get her out of my life. And that's what I did. I feel better and that's only the beginning. Getting  her out of my life will remove most of my lowself esteem triggers that she provokes and a lot of other petty things like ego games. I'm so glad I will have the time to get my shit together and not having her ruining my progress. I really need to build my self esteem and slowly believe that I actually can do some things, and not having her compare all the time and make me feel less. Also, I'm so glad she will not sabotage my progress in any way because while I'm growing emotionally and mentally she will not be able to take away my happiness. Oh, poor her, she will realize she's not on top of the world! 

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    @Preety_India Karma will absolutely make him pay. Have this in mind. This applies to everyone. 

    The above thought helps so much and is not illusion. It's actually true. 

    Other thoughts are everything that is positive about yourself 

    "I'm worthy of love and respect

    I deserve good people in my life 

    What happened was an opportunity for me to grow and I did. 

    I became a stronger person from this 

    Now I know even more what I deserve. I deeply believe it. 

    There's not a bad person that in some way doesn't get hit by karma. 

    The universe is fair and you give what you get. You get what you give. "

     

    Always try to think positive because you deserve to be happy. By loving yourself you remove most of the negative thoughts in your mind, because you know, it's because you're worth it. You being happy is number 1 priority. Knowing that you'll not let yourself fall into the negative cycle as easy as you would if you didn't know that. Being mindful helps you remember this. 

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    @Raphael I just quoted you. Can't erase that now. I would like to say thank you to all members who took the time to reply to me. 

    Anyways, @Raphael I wish I could help her but she doesn't accept help. Her attitude doesn't let you help her. Her idea of herself is something I can't cope with.

    If she was a person that could at least see the problem, mmediately I would help. Anyways, as I'm moving far from her, I wish her to be free of her misery for her own life. As I won't be in hers. 

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    Just now, Preety_India said:

    @egoeimai  keep doing it. Keep doing it. You deserve much better people in your life. You deserve respect, love and positive energy. 

    You're on the right track. Keep blocking all negative toxic people. 

    You'll feel like a huge burden is taken off your shoulders. You will feel free.

     

    Exactly what I'm thinking. I deserve good people in my life. Otherwise I would keep them. But I recognize it. I do deserve better. I want to be treated equally. I don't want people that are shadowing my path.I want my path to be brighter. What's the point if I keep them in my life? What's the purpose if they make me feel unhappier? We have one life (even tho I believe we have more) but why not make the best of it? 

    In the end, if I let them, I will not earn anything, only lose my precious time. 

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    1 hour ago, Preety_India said:

    @egoeimai good. That's exactly what you should do! Cut her off from your life. 

     

    Thank you preety. You've been very helpful. It was exactly what I needed to hear. You understand exactly the situation. I just blocked her from all social (Instagram and viber) and I already feel better. Next step is to avoid her physically when we are with other people (cousins etc). By blocking her from social media gives her the opportunity to not talk to me ever again, lol, so this makes it so much easier for me. Good job! Thank you ?

    Ps I have blocked so many people this year. All toxic. This makes the year brighter even though it is a very difficult year for all of us ❤️

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    @Preety_Indiathank u so much. I will completely erase her from my life. I'm worthy of good people, kind, understanding. No need to be around her. I must let her go. First thing I will do is to block her from social media. Since she is so obsessed with media flexing her looks, it will destroy her me deleting her. That's the first step. Second step is I will be avoiding any contact with her such as meeting with my other cousins. I will particularly set meeting with others, even individually and the aim would be to not see her again. She is such a cancer that spreads and I have no time for her. I want to focus on my life and I want to improve myself and she is an obstacle standing in my way to my happy life. I'm super serious about it. I'm tired of these people who want to be the center of attention all the time. 

  9. Posted · Edited by egoeimai

    @No Self YES she has a broken family, lots of insecurities, yes questionable parenting etc etc 

    What would u diagnose her with ? Adhd? Arrogance and low self esteem. Why is that? Is that common? 

    I see there are many people with low self esteem and I get it. But what is that annoying combination with arrogance? Wtf and who is she trying to fool? 

    What do you think is in me that triggers me so much other than low self esteem?

    @aurum  I don't know, maybe help me to find out 

     

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    This pos, my little brat cousin. (18)What a pain she is?! Wtf seriously. 

    She's annoying af. Can't describe. I'm thinking of expressing all of my emotions to her and never talk to her again. Ever. I absolutely hate her. There's no way to fix this. She's bragging every minute of her pathetic little life. Since the day she was born. I never felt such emotions for a person out there. In my whole life. Everything she does annoys me, irritates me or makes me cringe. I cannot stand this anymore. 

    1.she is bragging all the time even for the smallest things in her life. 

    2. Turning failures into successes. (NOT IN THIS POSITIVE OUTLOOK) Pretending she's happy with her life. She failed at final exams and she was crying all day. Two months later not only she is liking her new uni-life but also she pretends she is in- studying and caring for her studies. Two months earlier? She was super angry/sad for the particular studies. She was crying and saying she failed and failed and that she feels useless. But now she seems so happy and on top of that pretending she has an amazing successful uni life. 

    3.bragging bragging bragging. Do you think that the smallest achievement in your life is worthy of bragging? No? Well she does. Pretending your life is amazing and on top of everyone's? That's  my annoying cousin and i hate her. 

    4. She always seem to like arguing. She always wants to have the last word in a convo. That's super annoying. Always insists on having the right pov. She's giving u that bitch look. Hate her.

    5.shes annoyingly competitive for the smallest non significant things 

    6.she screams insecurity by all the above but I insist on hating her. She's a pos. 

    7.she lways manages to be the center of attention even if we are a circle of 10+ people. Talking way too much about herself, sharing experiences, over exaggeration about things and drama is her best friend. Always catching attention and not failing at this. If 1% she doesn't get the attention, she is getting annoyed and leaves the room. 

    I'm to the point everything she does annoys me. I try to be polite kind and a cool gal,but can't. 

    All I want is to make her feel like she's nothing important than she thinks she is, make her feel like she's one of us. She thinks she is unique and I hate it. Hahaha on top of that she's making me and others feel bad about themselves in a way she only knows. 

    So competitive. Omg. She wants to make you feel like trash about your life and own achievements. 

    These are not in my imagination (other people have approved of that also) 

    The thing is I want to speak up, talk about all that and tell her a final goodbye. I can't with her ego anymore. That's too much. And I can't let her live like she's everything and we all are trash. Either I let her know about all that and let her go or compete with the ego beast. 

     

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    2 hours ago, Consept said:

    Thanks for your response x. Im definitely not perfect, im under no illusion about that, but none of us are and i think we're always works in progress. I feel a lot of compassion for her because a lot of these behaviors are automatic, through her very blue upbringing and now (i would say) shes in orange, shes very hardworking and achievement orientated, which is a positive for her, its just when she puts that on other people, mainly me, i think it causes problems. I, as you say to do, try and bring out the best in her which she recognises but i think she feels frustration in that she cant do the same for me, she wants to hence the nagging but the method is not great, she knows and she says in this respect she wants to be more like me (probably the only aspect of me she wants to be like lol). I have told her many times how it makes me feel etc and i feel like the intention is there to not do it so much, but at this point it just seems so hard wired in her, and she is probably even harsher on herself, which is why ive been encouraging her with meditation etc. 

    Nice, so she's aware of it and maybe is trying to change it. Although, this is not gonna change overnight. Until then, she is gonna keep doing it. If it doesn't bother u or change you overtime (aka u can control how u feel and behave) then keep it as is it. But if you think it's gonna influence u in a bad way then let her go. You're just on different levels.

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    It is too much. Not saying that you're perfect or don't need to change (no one is perfect, we all have room to improve) but this behavior doesn't make you feel happy about yourself and it brings out not the best parts of yourself. So that's not something you should aim for in life. People that bring the best out of us make us feel the best and do more and more and improve. Not the people who are trying to manipulate us in such way.