Spence94

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    I feel like theres no duality between the different sections of the forum. I do have the sections and topics I gravitate towards most but all of them interconnect with one another in terms of perspectives and the impact they will have on your growth. I am also regretting not taking advantage of the forum earlier. 

    As for specific topics, which ever I feel intuitively drawn to start, read of comment on.

    "Study the principals of life, immersing in such principals allows for genius flashes of insight" A quote from Leo's video on how to be a strategic motherfucker.

    Using this forum daily over the past few weeks has allowed for genius flashes of insight that didn't just come from one topic, they came from using using the forum as a whole, starting topics, journaling, commenting on others topics and responding to comments. 

    That said, one person's comment can also major a huge effect on me so I am very grateful for even one tiny comment, it's all useful.

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    @ValiantSalvatore Thanks for your wishes! Yep, Chinese food is amazing and never seen so many restaurants in one place. I live in Sichuan, Chengdu. If you ever fly back for a visit, holla at me. Sichuan province is gorgeous and Chengdu is dope. It's super chill, Tibet close by, so there's spiritual vibration. Lots of nature, daoist mountains and Buddhist temples. I studied Taichi and qigong for 2 months in the summer down in Guangxi too.

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    10 hours ago, JonasVE12 said:

    When you are taking the information/experience in through your senses, letting it go into the body and touch those sensitive parts, you can choose to identify with those sensations and be reactive, or channel them down into the earth in order to ground yourself. Grounding means that you literally energetically center yourself into your spine and legs in order for the energy to pass through you into earth instead of becoming contracted. As well as unwinding all energetic knots that manifest when being triggered. It is a conscious process first but then it because unconscious competence if done systematically and goal orientated. Things you read, hear or experience in any other way can never touch you if you let it pass through you instead of absorbing it. Identify more with your energetic body instead of your physical one. What you energetically model, you bring into your physical reality. If you energetically model relaxation and acceptance, you will bring that into your physical body as a result if done correctly. 

    This is great. Sensitivity is your friend if cultivated.

  7. Posted · Edited by Spence94

    @ValiantSalvatore Thank you for sharing your experience of China. Foreigners who come here whilst they have a great time, all struggle with integration to various degrees. I'm going harder on the language now, it will definitely help me break some of those barriers once I'm proficiently fluent enough. 

    Most of it is in my head and just trying to become aware of the ego, identity, attachment and illusions that I am falling prey too that are specifically manifesting under the context of me living in this country and culture and with the people here. If that makes sense. 

    Struggle to articulate it but I just sensed it was mainly some kind of attachment issue causing me to see reality in a warped perception which was therefore leading me to engage with the country and people in an unresourceful manner that was creating suffering as well just not able to get the most juice of my time here in this amazing country.

    All happening along with the realities of living and working here day to day which can be challenging to say the least

    It's also just my own level of overall self development and actualization, the more I mature and evolve, the better my relationships and interactions with the country and people around me.

     

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    I've lived in China for 5 years. I'm not fully fluent in the language but getting there slowly but surely. I will be living here for a few more years to come. Still after 5 years, it can be hard to feel at home here, in myself and with other people. As you can imagine its 99.9%Chinese and 0.1% foreigners. I am well and truly in the minority.

    Particularly in the last 3 years since the relations with the US and west have declined and with covid raging abroad much more than it did in China and now the Ukraine crisis; attitudes towards westerners in this country are to put it lightly, at a low point. 

    On one level, I'm aware that no matter how fluent my Chinese and how much I understand the culture, I will always be an outsider to the Chinese, and that's fine. Also, I'm aware that I grew up in the UK and that my psychology and worldview is heavily influenced by the society and culture I was raised in and that on an ethnic level I am not Asian, therefore will always feel some level of disconnect in that regard.

    I guess I'm after a spiritual perspective on the issue, so that I can accept reality, think about the situation in a more optimistic way, and be at peace with the context that I am living in. I want to more deeply enjoy my time and experience in China, with Chinese culture,  with the Chinese language and the Chinese people, who are more often than not kind hearted, lovely, beautiful and wonderful wise souls. I want to engage with those souls in a way that make them feel more safe and comfortable, because it seems they often have all kinds of fears, judgements, projections, pre conceived ideas and stereotypes of foreigners/ westerners during the rare time they meet/ interact with one. 

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    6 minutes ago, Adodd said:

    I would have to say no.

    But only because the qualities I was looking for in a woman were things that were very conceited, neurotic and slefish. I think this is common when people have an idea of their "perfect" partner.

    Having the urge and willingness to grow together, I think is one of the main qualities of my relationship and before the relationship that was not a specific quality I was searching for. I don't think it ever goes how its imagined.

    Interesting.

  14. Posted · Edited by Spence94

    @Adodd

    6 minutes ago, Adodd said:

    I'm with the woman of my dreams. We met randomly on accident. Have been together for going on 6 years and have wonderful children. Tons of great family time and trips. It is really a beautiful thing.

    Only YOU can do that. Sorry but that's the truth.

    Nice. Happy for you.

    I meant did the person live upto the qualities you were looking for in a romantic partner. I didn't mean finding fulfillment through the other person. 

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    Insights from contemplative nature walk

     

    Insecurities are illusions fabricated by your self-agenda and self-survival mechanism.

    Ultimate solution to needing approval and validation is being grounded in your own internal being and having your external life grounded in passion and purpose. With this in place, you simply won't give a fuck about approval and validation, it will have no value to you. You will validated your Self internally.

    Even if you're consciously contemplating something in nature, 'you' aren't doing anything, nature is still working on you, you are just BEING nature. It just happening. Enjoy it.

    Walks in nature are healing, insightful, nourishing and fulfilling. Do it often.

    Nature has the answers!