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  2. Posted

    1 hour ago, Marten said:

    @Martin123  Feels more in alignment... beautiful way of looking at it... lately the universe is asking for patience and this message resonates very well. When Nothing is driving miracles happen frequently... unbelivable, marvelous, so very beautiful... brings tears of joy unspeakable... ?❤️

    Sounds like it's a good thing the transmission has found you! Very glad you've been impacted in such positive way!! :) 

  7. Posted · Edited by Martin123

    It seems to be an eternal trend that all individuals on a spiritual and healing journey feel and know that surrender is a 'thing that should be done'. However as to why, how and when to surrender often eludes everyone's awareness.

    Should we surrender our thoughts and limiting beliefs? Or perhaps it is to surrender into the present moment. All such things can be said and known, but the effect isn't often tangible at all, nor does it provide the quality of spiritual expansion that we crave for. Before we engage in any surrendering, it is absolutely pivotal to answer the following question.

    What does it mean to surrender?
     

    To surrender is to acknowledge and anchor the realization, that everything that ever happens, only happens for the purpose of evolving me into my highest consciousness. Nothing is ever wrong, I can't mess anything up, and any perception of doing something wrong, is simply a part of me that I am capable of doing it wrong being healed.

    Now that we know what it means to surrender, the next step is to acknowledge how and when we surrender. This is simply because the ego will use any spiritual tool as a mechanism to keep itself in control and in charge. But surrender is the one thing the ego cannot do, the ego can only 'be surrendered'. And if it is being surrendered, the when, how, and why is never up to the ego, as it could never comprehend the cosmic eternal reality of its immaculate surrendered destiny.

     


     

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    To say 'I surrender.' Is perhaps the greatest delusion we can ever utter. Instead of saying 'I surrender', perhaps what works much better is saying 'I allow the universe to surrender me on its own divine timing and according to its own divine will, and nothing in accordance with the will of my own.'

     

    When we are trying to surrender, we are saying to the universe 'I wanna be in charge of this.' The better alternative is saying 'I surrender the idea of needing of having to surrender in any way, and therefore even my surrender is in the hands of the universe.'


    To anchor the energy of surrender in your nervous system, please read the following words (preferably out loud). It is simply through reading through all of this post that you will leave more surrendered than you were before, without anything about you or your experience needing to be different, simply because the energy within these words is channeled to do the surrendering on your behalf, which is the only way it can be done.

                                           

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    ‘I acknowledge that when and how I surrender is not up to me, and therefore I surrender the idea that it is I who has to surrender, and instead let go into the knowing that it is the universe surrendering me, and not me surrendering anything. This means that even when I say ‘I surrender my need to be in charge of surrender’, it may not change anything, because I am not even in charge of that. And so instead I allow the deepest vibration of surrender that has always been awake within me to be brought forward and remembered on its own divine timing, and not in accordance with what I want, need and desire.

    I am not surrendering, I am being surrendered, and I am being surrendered by the surrender that I am. Therefore the only control I can ever hand over to the universe, is being handed over to my own hands, because the universe and I are one.’

     

    Have a wonderful weekend, and as always let me know how you felt :) !

  12. Posted

    1 minute ago, Leo Gura said:

    There is an entire therapy method called Cognitive Behavior Therapy which dealing with stuff like anxiety through thinking.

    There is an emotional and body sensation component in CBT as well, to say it deals with anxiety 'through thinking' is way too oversimplified and untrue, I'm also not too much fan of CBT as the entire concept is too technical, and doesn't give enough room for emotionality.

    Anxiety is never 'rooted in thinking', it is actually a symptom of 'too much thinking', and not enough feeling.

    Anxiety says 'there are things you need to feel, please be mindful of that'.

  14. Posted

    On 9/22/2020 at 0:28 AM, paradiseengineering said:

    I want to have a good relationship with her as an adult and I want to set boundaries. Telling her to let go of the mother role seems too abstract and hard for her since it´s basically her identity. 

    Hey Paradise!

    When setting boundaries there is only one rule, make sure you're making it about what you feel and need, and not necessarily about trying to change the other person.

    An example of a boundary for your situation would be 'Dear mom, my entire life I have felt like a substitution for a man who would fulfill your emotional needs, in this way you made me take on the role of your caretaker and 'pretend partner', that I am absolutely not comfortable with, and thus I am setting this boundary with you. Please allow me to have a life independent of your influence, as a way of repairing the damage I have experienced in our relationship. Thank you. Goodbye!'

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    @FortisFortunaAdiuvat you’re right.

     

    Rationalization is a childhood coping strategy. The way it is adapted is by child seeing how bad it feels around it’s parents and how neglected and abandoned it gets, and to cope with the pain it starts rationalising why it is right that this had happened to them, they deserve the treatment they are receiving, and their parents are perfect who are doing everything right, therefore they ‘rationalize’ all misdeeds as if those were the right things to do.

     

    its a way of using the mind to emotionally manipulate yourself.

    the way out of this is admitting how deeply in pain you are and feel, and allowing yourself to feel through the complete powerlessness of it. Rationalising is merely there to avoid the feeling of helplessness. To make it somehow ‘right’, instead of cruel, unjust and unfair.

     

    the next step is to look at your childhood family dynamic and stop rationalising that, and confront all the toxic, emotionally neglectful and manipulative tendencies you’ve experienced and were ultimately traumatised by into somewhat disregarding and dismissing your emotions. Once you no longer dismiss your feelings through your mind, you become different then the past that had damaged you, and you allow healing to take place. We feel our way through the healing, and never think our way into or out of anything.

  16. Posted

    @Radament Hi Radament.


    What you're experiencing is simply a transition where you're moving from relying on an energetic or psychic phenomenon to be more of yourself, to being more of yourself without the 'crutch' of feeling your wings.

    While raising your angelic wings and moving them around is always a powerful practice, it is always to compliment the journey of evolution of becoming more of your infinite and expansive self in a human body. This means that instead of focusing on the 'lack of wings' you feel, merely bring to your awareness that your focus is always on becoming more of yourself, being more open and more relaxed and safe in your body than the moment before.

    Once you have aligned to this new intention, you can still try to move your wings around as a way of complimenting your journey of being yourself.

    You can anchor this newfound awareness by meeting any moment of an 'energetic low' or stress by saying to yourself

    'I allow myself to be who I was born to be, without needing anything to be different.'

    This mantra stops the need to be reliant on seemingly external things for the permission of personal and emotional self-expression.

    Just be you, and all will come into place. Don't wait for the world or your spiritual experiences to give you this permission.

  17. Posted

    @SaaraSabina I'm very glad you've found value in knowing your attachment style. It's one of the most impactful things we can learn about regarding our growth that doesn't only affect our relatoinships, but allows us to be better and thrive in all areas of our lives as we become more emotionally free, healed and fulfilled! :)

    PS: If you do find it meaningful to work on your attachment style, I highly recommend sticking with the channel I sent you, she is probably by far the most helpful and advanced attachment style resource there is, even if you just go by her youtube channel and don't purchase any of the courses, the value she offers is incredible!

  18. Posted

    @TeaMasterDrinker Hi TeaMasterDrinker!

    Sexual problems tend to be related to how emotionally open and vulnerable we are able to be with ourselves and with others.

    This means that the solution to your sexual satisfaction is actually the best appraoched backwards. Find how to introduce deeply beautiful and intimate moments into your relationship.

    Go on a romantic walk holding hands and talking with each other about how you feel and how deeply you appreciate one another.
    Practice eye gazing with each other, and allow yourselves to be lost in your partners eyes.
    Do intimate massages and/or foootrubs.
    Take intimate and relaxing baths together.

    Introduce more vulnerability into the relationship, and allow the sex to be vulnerable. Once that becomes a new norm, your relationship will be transformed and will allow your girlfriend to be emotionally relaxed with you enough to actually be open during sex and allow herself to orgasm and to be pleasured by herself and in your presence.

    It is not a sexual problem, it is an intimacy issue.

  19. Posted

    To all the people here who are promoting DPD as a spiritual experience...

    I’m gently asking everyone not to do so, I’m speaking from personal experience where I’ve experienced 2+ years of depersonalisations, and I’m also someone who in my current awareness lives in a state of self-realisation and what many here call enlightenment.

     

    The two experiences have nothing in common.

    DPD should never be glorified as a spiritual experience, it should be seen as a symptom of resurfacing of trauma or intense emotional experiences. It can happen during spiritual awakening but it is a symptom of healing trauma, not a state of higher consciousness.

     

    saying DPD is a spiritual experience is misinformed at best, please take responsibility for the things you speak of just so individuals who experience the real terror of DPD don’t get confused and aren’t damaged in the process.

     

    If a mainstream therapist saw this they would probably flip out about the misinformation being conveyed here. 
     

    Thank you kindly.

  20. Posted

    @Nate0068 @Vittorio

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    Depersonalization disorder (DPD), also known as depersonalization/derealization disorder (DPDR),[3] is a mental disorder in which the person has persistent or recurrent feelings of depersonalization or derealization. Depersonalization is described as feeling disconnected or detached from one's self. Individuals experiencing depersonalization may report feeling as if they are an outside observer of their own thoughts or body, and often report feeling a loss of control over their thoughts or actions.


    Depersonalization is NOT enlightenment, it is an anxiety disorder and a response to intense trauma being processed within the nervous system.
    Please be careful when in such states, it is not a matter of keeping yourself depersonalized, but grounding back into the body. It has nothing to do with 'higher states of consciousness', it is a response to trauma.

  21. Posted

    1 hour ago, aklacor727 said:

    Also I saw him comment once saying he wouldnt touch 99% of women with a 10 foot pole.

    Yeah... that sounds like a very harsh judgement.

    Ive also saw him say the advice of men struggling with dating and his go to statement tends to or used to be ‘Did you fuck her right’?

     

    ... all props to Leo for setting up a platform for self-development and creating a community based on spirituality and self-actualisation but I wouldn’t be taking his relationship advice to heart too much... It doesn’t sound the healthiest and in my personal opinion, it feels like Leo kinda tends to avoid that area of his life pretty extensively... 

  23. Posted

    @aklacor727 Of course it will never work out.
    But not for the reason that they're in a different stage, it is because you've taken someone's individuality and intellectualized and compartmentalized it into a mind based system that actually because its so rooted in thinking and conceptualization kills the intimacy within that relationship.

    It is the eternal truth about relationships that true genuine and authentic relationships is where we go to allow our egos to dissolve. If we are insisting that a relationship won't work out because of some 'conceptual stage', we are actually not doing our part in the relationship, and not allowing our 'ego' (in this instance probably a spiritual ego) to be dissolved.

    Therefore saying 'it won't work out because we're at a different stage' is just a fear of intimacy pretending to be insightful. True intimacy says 'We may only grow as a result of this experience together, and no artificial stage could ever define the connection between us. May it come and go as we both grow and change as individuals, even if it means growing together, or growing apart, both are equally valid for our journey ahead, and in knowing this to be so, I can only thank you for the gifts of healing and expansion that I have and will receive in our relationship'.

  24. Posted

    @allyo2003 Hi ALlyo!

    The best sure way to deal with heartbreak of any kind is realising that the love you feel for another person can only purify and amplify whatever is within you and needs to be healed.

    Therefore, the promise of this is 'no matter the heartbreak I feel right now, I will not shutdown the love within my heart, and whether that is towards the person who broke my heart, or towards someone completely different, I will remain with an open heart, no matter anyone's rejection or anyone's experience of me. Simply because it is the will of my highest consciousness to awaken a love within me that is so powerful and unconditional, that cannot be stopped by any amount of heartbreak, and this love will be counter intuitively awakened, by being heartbroken all over again, but still not shutting own and remaining open in the aftermath of all the pain.

    Sending waves of love and compassionate support right into your heart! <3 

  25. Posted

    7 hours ago, SaaraSabina said:

    So it’s like be alone or do what others want you to to. And yes, mostly I do relate and connect with “damaged” people the other once don’t seem to want or need other people in their life’s. Their pleased as it is. 

    Hi SaaraSabina. I would encourage you to look deeply into this belief.

    'I'ts like be alone or do what others want you to do.'... 

    You are suggesting here that what people experience a relationship with you is only what they want from you, and you get nothing from it. Therefore you are going to feel like you're always doing something for them, but since your expectation and belief is that you don't personally get anything from relationships, they will be  one-sided.

    So i'ts kinda like this - you get into a relationship, you don't allow yourself to communicate or even have emotional needs within that relationship, and when other people start communicating their needs (no matter how justifiable or trauma based they may be), it feels like an assault on you, because you will never ask for anything, and so when someone asks something of you it is an imbalance. Therefore the issue is that you deny yourself the privellege and pleasure of having your needs for connection, love and safety met from other people.

    Here is a healing mantra if you'd like, that will help you make peace with this.

    'I let go of denying myself,
    because the only thing that results in self-denial,
    is the denial of others.

    The more I deny myself, 
    the more I can only expect others to do the same,
    and therefore can I see that self expression and communication
    of my needs and emotions
    is what ends self-denial within me and within others.

    The more open and generous with my emotions, desires and feelings I allow myself to be with others,
    the better I will feel,
    and the greater relationships I will build and attract.'

    One more thing.

    Look into 'dismissive avoidant attachment style'.