[Did that girl had poor choice of a guy ?]

@meta_male thank you. Yeah I must focus on finding a girlfriend rather than getting a girlfriend cause dating is enjoyment not an achievement.

[Did that girl had poor choice of a guy ?]

I have been in this situation before but the same is happening with me in college. I talked to a girl , gave her a compliment she said thank you and laughed. I tried to made an eye contact with her but she turned her face away on( other day). Then I again talked to her but this time a boy came to me and started talking to me - he said that you like her ? I said yes. But later he told that ask her if she has a boyfriend and if she does then you have to move on. I later found out that the boy who said me this is dating her. One day in lab I saw that when another guy was talking to her , the  boy who manipulated me was carefully looking at her from a little away and to the another boy who was talking to her. I fear that tomorrow I will see them again and again feel jealous that the guy achieved in getting a girlfriend whereas I failed. I applied Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to the situation and my anger and got a reframe that - She had a poor choice of a guy, I have never done this with anyone so I am more attractive than that guy. I am currently moving on and I must stop thinking about her. Another reframe- I will have better oppurtunities with better/secure girls in the future. Is this a good reframe ?

[Is screening away girls who treat you badly or whom you don't like the key ?]

@Leo Gura ,@Yimpa thank you.

[Is screening away girls who treat you badly or whom you don't like the key ?]

    @meta_male thank you .

[Is screening away girls who treat you badly or whom you don't like the key ?]

I read some articles on dating few days ago about dating and I put it to test. I found myself rather than desperately trying to talk to girls I started to screen away girls who aren't compatible/ authentically connected to me and eventually I found a tiny amount of girl who is interested in talking to me. Am I doing it right?

The article :

  https://markmanson.net/fuck-yes

[What makes a good life ?Share insights.]

Further answers from contemplation :

To be not discouraged by obstacles.

Few minutes before now I also realised that without action into a particular direction self help is useless 

[What makes a good life ?Share insights.]

Here are my insights through contemplation :

Alignment with immediately important things.

Why ?

Because it improves life

Why it improves life ?

Because it remove unnecessary distractions

Why?

Because it pulls the person in one direction

[Is rejection and heartbreak are process for getting better with girls ?]

44 minutes ago, Hojo said:

@Rishabh R there is sadhguru quote that you need to thank someone who broke your heart cause they started you on the spiritual journey. Its a forced dis identification where you feel like you are dying and you can use it to awaken.

Right now I contemplated -What is the truth about my personal life ?

Answers are counterintutive :

I am attractive

I have attracted many people

That I have overcome bullshitty situations 

Why?

Because I took action and moved on

[Is rejection and heartbreak are process for getting better with girls ?]

@SeaMonster ok The girls whom I hit on after a while either I come to know that they already have a boyfriend or they reject me and become someone else's girlfriends. This is the problem and I am responsible for solving this problem.

[Is rejection and heartbreak are process for getting better with girls ?]

@Hojo awaken to truth ?

[Is rejection and heartbreak are process for getting better with girls ?]

@Schizophoniaok.

[Is rejection and heartbreak are process for getting better with girls ?]

@Schizophonia maybe that's what is happening to me from years of heartbreak,rejection ,insult from girls etc.

[Is rejection and heartbreak are process for getting better with girls ?]

@Schizophonia yeah but suffering from pain longer than usual is unhealthy.

[Is rejection and heartbreak are process for getting better with girls ?]

@Yimpa thank you.

[Is rejection and heartbreak are process for getting better with girls ?]

@nhoktinvt thank you . What about heartbreak ?

[Books on the counter- intuitive nature of life ?]

@SamC The Subtle art of not giving a ------- by Mark manson.

[Is rejection and heartbreak are process for getting better with girls ?]

Since, I am getting heartbroken over and over in college it taught me lesson like - either I will connect/enjoy the conversation with a girl or the girl is not for me, if a girl to whom I am talking has a boyfriend then she is not good for me .Is it the process ?Am I doing it right? What mistakes am I making? Feedback's are appreciated.

[Difference between insight hitting and awakening ?]

@Galyna yeah I love contemplation and asking questions to myself.

[Difference between insight hitting and awakening ?]

@Galyna ok ok but with every single contemplation my understanding increases and Leo said in his video what is an insight ---one way to generate insight is serious contemplation and questioning which I do everyday.Yeah you also are correct as Insight transforms the one who has it.

 

[Difference between insight hitting and awakening ?]

@Galyna yeah but when I contemplate then non-obvious/counterintuitive answers come like - Reality is counterintuitive,Materialism is illusion (insight from the question---What is the most wisest way to live life). To remember them I believe in them despite what my friends tell me.

 

[Difference between insight hitting and awakening ?]

@Yimpa I am just checking wether I am contemplating correctly but I believe in my insights after I have generated them by contemplation. So that they stick with me 

[Difference between insight hitting and awakening ?]

@Galyna thanks that is why I believe them to my heart and some of my friends laugh at my insights cause they are counterintuitive.Thank you @Leo Gura by the way what's your opinion?

[Difference between insight hitting and awakening ?]

@Yimpa thank you.

[Difference between insight hitting and awakening ?]

@Galyna ok . 

Contemplation Question--- What is the most wisest way to live life ?

-Reasearch and experimentation of everything

-Thoughts are preceded and succeeded by emotions

-Universe is a bigger surrounding and it is an unknown surrounding

-There is no one  wisest way to live life 

-To question everything

-I am in boundary withing boundary

-People act according to their emotions

And many others.

[Difference between insight hitting and awakening ?]

@Galyna Sorry you misunderstood me  I mean a total insight I generated by contemplating daily are more than 250(2 years of daily contemplation). Are those conceptual thinking as well ? I highly suspect that they are not.