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I have no idea what point you’re even trying to make here. This reads like an acid trip ramble

What in the fuck are you smoking Most of the cringiest corniest things I have heard or saw have all been from US people. Are you seriously trying to suggest that your average American is less corny than your average German?

I think women typically prefer balanced men. It is not really correct to say they prefer betas or alphas. The ideal is a man who is masculine, but not so masculine that they become scary. Confident, but not arrogant. Physically strong, but not obscene looking. You get the idea. The flawed thinking here is that these balanced men (who women really do prefer) are 'beta'. Or in other words that not being hyper-masculine makes you a beta. This just isn't true. The men who are well balanced overall don't fit the stereotypical definition of a beta, nor the definition of an alpha. Generally a beta is a dude who lacks confidence, is kinda boring, doesn't have anything particularly unique or interesting about him. Not many women are going to look for a man like that.

This is so judgy

I‘m surprised you’ve made out with 10 women in a night and not got laid with any then. Because in my experience at least 50% of the women I’ve kissed in clubs have ended up sleeping with me

I’m guessing that because you’re in a conservative Muslim city, hooking up is a lot more frowned upon? You’re probably making the right call to move. Logistics wise, I got laid the most in my life when I lived a 30 second walk from the door to a nightclub. Fun times.

I don’t need alcohol to socialise anymore because I drank alcohol and used it to gain massive social experience, despite being very socially anxious. Although I do still enjoy it occasionally if I want a really fun night. Alcohol basically cured my social anxiety by giving me the confidence to go and find out that socialising is actually really fun and not something to be scared of. I have so many crazy experiences, stories, and friends that I just would not have if I didn’t drink. These experiences would actually be worth sacrificing 10 years off the end of my life for me, although I don’t think I’ve actually drank enough to do that.

It’ll probably get you laid. Or at least make it much easier. If you’re socially anxious and you need a way to relax when you’re out partying or whatever, a bit of alcohol goes a long way. The risk to reward ratio is very favourable if you drink in moderation. I’ve tried cocaine a few times and it’s not worth it. Some people seem to really enjoy it but it just felt like I’d drank a few red bulls. And it cost me like $80. For the price tag and the health/addiction risks it’s not remotely close to being worth it. It’s not going to ruin your life instantly like the other two drugs you mentioned but it’s just a terrible risk to reward ratio. It’s kind of obvious that taking heroin or meth is a terrible idea. That can actually destroy your life just by taking it once or twice. So don’t.

He seems pretty certain these have no side effects, but I really doubt that.

I think you may be overthinking this

@Princess Arabia Women enjoy interesting men, there is no doubt about that. A big part of being interesting is having some depth/intrigue about you. Men who find a healthy balance between being open + direct and interesting + mysterious are usually the ideal. Obviously it depends on the woman but in general I find that tends to hold true.

Thanks for the links. Looking at the actual numbers from these studies, the correlations between number of sexual partners and relationship stability are there, but they're very small. There's typically a negative correlation of around -0.1 to -0.2 between no. of partners and things like relationship satisfaction and stability. That's very much in the weak correlation category. For reference I think 0.3 to 0.5 would be considered moderate and above that would be considered strong. You can see that correlation between many of the other categories (e.g. communication, sexual quality) in the chart below sit around 0.6, showing that they are far more important qualities. My statistics is a bit rusty, but I'm pretty sure you can calculate the estimated percentage effect of the no. of sexual partners on relationship stability by squaring the R value. So in this case the correlation between no. of partners and relationship stability is -0.17, so that works out at (-0.17**2) * 100 = ~2.8%. That means no. of sexual partners accounts for around 2.8% of the total variance in relationship stability. While for communication, this works out at around 35%. So this kind of shows the same thing as what I've seen in other studies. There is a correlation there, but it's definitely weak.

What issues that these people care about do we focus 50% of our political bandwidth on?

You made good points in this comment. However on this point in particular, the studies I've seen are never particularly convincing. IIRC there is a massive jump in divorce rate between 0 and 1 premarital partners and a minor but not especially significant jump between 1 premarital partner and 10+ The issue is that a majority of people with 0 premarital partners are heavily religious and would be prevented or discouraged from getting divorced even if it was the right decision.

Jesus dude, I missed your reply. Calm down I just assumed that by referring to 'the wokes' you were talking about left leaning people in general. That's typically how the word 'woke' is used nowadays. I guess what you meant by it was extremely left people, bordering on hippies—and sure—I guess they are not particularly focused on practical solutions. I can't say I've met many of these people though. Usually left leaning people of all degrees are very much aware of the issues you listed.