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If true, he didn't just sleep with 200 women, he slept with 200 labels he imposed on reality. Reality bends to his words, but he literally pays the price with his own bones. And instead of money, these women accept his looks as payment...selling part of themselves for emptiness that's just as hollow as cash. What young men observe isn't that deep. It's only the surface of a profound and self destructive law at work.

You're mixing up flirting with tactics like negging and other strategies. Techniques can still be objectifying, even if socially acceptable. When the frame is "how do I manipulate her emotions to get validation/sex" that comes from insecurity and women feel it immediately. First tongue, then lips. Depending on the length of your tongue, you can also skip the step toward her.

"You have no game." – NoSelfSelf

It's a matter of perspective. For some guy going on a date feels impossible. And someone else reading this is probably thinking: I can’t even say I’ve ever slept with a girl. There's always someone ahead and someone behind.

Looks obviously do matter, but they're not fixed. It's more nuanced than that. You get a "base look", but what really matters is what you do with it. Grooming, fitness, style, confidence and status can change how you look to others.

What does that actually mean? Are you talking about individual self defense or some kind of resistance? Against trained forces with intelligence, logistics, drones, vehicles etc. How would this realistically play out without you ending up dead or imprisoned?

You can't know whether you're wasting time by analyzing how often she texts, smiles or waves. The only way to find out is by setting a date (day, place, time) and then if you like her you kiss her. You don't know if you're wasting time before that, it's speculation. Yeah that's one perspective. Another is that you're ahead of a lot of men because you're actually risking rejection instead of avoiding it. Don't measure yourself against someone else's timeline, just take the next step in front of you.

It looks like the guy in front of the car shot.

Hard to tell, since my beliefs changed multiple times over the past ten years, with IFS being part of the last two. It mainly shifted beliefs about myself. Yes, I had started identifying with being more emotional, soft and a victim of my past. Yeah, definitely increased my body awareness and my attention turned inwards. It also led to a lot of crying. In one session, suppressed anger surfaced all at once, more than my nervous system could integrate. What was your experience, if you don't mind?

Sparklers on champagne bottles set the ceiling panels on fire, which might explain why it spread so fast. Content warning (not graphic): eyewitness photo

I once tried to buy festival tickets...only had a one day pass, the rest was sold out. I was pretty desperate to get back in so I went looking online and bought the ticket from someone. Hours passed without receiving anything so in the meantime I went looking elsewhere and bought another one. Again, hours passed until I realised I got scammed. Twice. The shame was unreal. Desperation makes you easy to exploit.

I've had some experiences with IFS therapy, still go from time to time. Overall, it helped me gain clarity and understand my inner world better. At the same time, at one point for me, the work became destabilising and contributed to panic attacks and suicidal thoughts. I don't think this means it's "bad", but it shows me how important pacing and a skilled therapist is. It's definitely not lightweight in any sense, it's heavy work that can open up intense content.

Late to the party. I live with a constant underlying sadness, loneliness and deep attachment to love. 2026 marks ten years since my life changed completely and a long road to healing began. Instead of fading, emotions only get deeper and on most days it's hard not to lose hope that things will improve. Still, there's so much to realise and learn. Wishing everyone all the best for this year 🙏

You basically communicated: I don't know what I want with you and it may keep shifting. From what you wrote, there were real reasons for that. I wouldn't frame this as something to blame yourself for.