I have a child

[JJfromSwitzerland]

I became a father almost two years ago because the contraception didn't work. 

I've known that woman for a short time and then the pregnancy happened.

She is from a different continent.

My life has completely changed since my daughter is here.

Ask me anything!

[Butters]

Congratulations. 

How has your life changed? How do you do the travel? Did your kid get your Swiss passport or where are you raising your kid? 

[JJfromSwitzerland]

@Butters thanks!

 

25 minutes ago, Butters said:

Congratulations. 

How has your life changed? How do you do the travel? Did your kid get your Swiss passport or where are you raising your kid? 

Everything has changed. I moved back to Switzerland for a better future for the child. I don't travel at the moment (I used to travel a lot), I convinced the mother to move to Switzerland with the child. I work full time so I can take care of the family and when I get home after work, I help around the house and change nappies, put the little one to bed etc. so the mother has a break or can do her German classes. Before that, I used to go to the gym after work or met friends etc. Yes, I was able to get a Swiss passport for my kid. It was lots of admin and required a lot of patience, perseverance (because in the country that the mother is from, things don't work as smoothly as in Switzerland) but we managed.
Financially it's challenging but I have more hope here in Switzerland for the financial future.

[Leo Gura]

Sounds like you're doing the responsible thing so this should grow you a lot.

Welcome to maturity.

[JJfromSwitzerland]

26 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Sounds like you're doing the responsible thing so this should grow you a lot.

Welcome to maturity.

thank you! it definitely has changed everything. also the relationship with me and the mother remains challenging but we work on it with a therapist

[How to be wise]

@JJfromSwitzerland I'm guessing she is from Thailand... 

[JJfromSwitzerland]

@How to be wise no, not from Asia

Edited 11 hours ago by JJfromSwitzerland

[CARDOZZO]

Great. 

Do you live in Switzerland? 

[JJfromSwitzerland]

8 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

Great. 

Do you live in Switzerland? 

yes, I am from Switzerland, lived in Cape Town for 3.5 years and now back in Switzerland trying to build a life for my little family as I lost all my money in a business investment that fail

[CARDOZZO]

1 hour ago, JJfromSwitzerland said:

yes, I am from Switzerland, lived in Cape Town for 3.5 years and now back in Switzerland trying to build a life for my little family as I lost all my money in a business investment that fail

Really?

Switzerland looks like a dream.

Make a thread about your new life situation, past, life lessons.

[Yimpa]

8 hours ago, JJfromSwitzerland said:

She is from a different continent.

Which continent is she from? 

[meta_male]

@JJfromSwitzerland Welcome back ir Schwiz! What are you planning to do work-wise?

[Butters]

1 hour ago, Yimpa said:

Which continent is she from? 

He already said South Africa I believe.  

My question (only if you want to answer of course): is the tension in your relationship caused by cultural differences you think? 

[Butters]

6 hours ago, How to be wise said:

@JJfromSwitzerland I'm guessing she is from Thailand... 

Why does it have to be Thailand? But yeah my first intuition also said Asia. Saw a documentary once about kids in the Philippines growing up with a single mom and no dad cause the guy just went back to Europe and didn't take responsibility. So op is doing a much better job. 

[How to be wise]

2 hours ago, Butters said:

Why does it have to be Thailand? But yeah my first intuition also said Asia. Saw a documentary once about kids in the Philippines growing up with a single mom and no dad cause the guy just went back to Europe and didn't take responsibility. So op is doing a much better job. 

Yeah, I watched that documentary as well. I am pretty sure the man in that documentary was from Switzerland, so it's a common pattern.