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  1. Posted

    For me it's weed. I still smoke now and then, as it's a jarring way to alter consciousness. But anyways, for two years (Jr & Sr year of college) I smoked 5-6 days per week. After a year and a half of doing it intensely, I became disgusted by it. But I made friends over it, so giving it up took a clever strategy. In the end I was happy to go through the journey as it taught good lessons that eventually lead to self-actualization. In fact weening off weed was one of the first changes I made in Oct 2019 at the beginning of this work. Then came the spiritual rabbit hole starting in Feb 2020 just before COVID slammed us. I began to meditate a lot due to lockdown. Then became inspired to take a journey toward Truth--whatever the hell that is--at the year progressed. Then...

    Jan 2021: first glimpse of "nothing" on LSD (was terrified yet excited).
    Mar 2021: Sober awakening that lasted several moments.

    Since then I've been working with a coach on seduction/dating and showing up to the world in a more authentic way. To be honest this part of my life is more important than a direct spiritual path, even though I tried that. I can't speak for everyone, but I think this was Leo's best video yet. It addresses the human condition of being animalistic. I especially appreciate Leo's vulnerability and honesty about not being fully 'there' yet; I think sometimes we as students of self-actualization tend to delude ourselves into thinking that Leo is above it all, as silly as this sounds.

    Anyways, I burned through all of my weed. (Craving resolved!)

    What's a craving you've burned? 

     

  2. Posted

    @SamC Hey man, I can relate quite a bit actually. I'd peg myself up at green/yellow with some big-time shadow material in the 'belongingness' rung of Maslow's hierarchy, as I got bullied for about five years straight as a kid. I don't know how old you are but I'm 23. Some of these other comments seem wise--I think part of our predicament is a matter of age. (Another way of putting it is relative lack of experience.) Remember to keep the long-term game in mind when you have your setbacks.

    2 hours ago, SamC said:

    Something tells me this is due to that some people have a security wound which is tied to their world view while others like me have a " big ego wound" which makes one scared of not living up the very fixed identity towards others.

    I'm not sure that I totally understand this, but it sounds like you were hurt when you were younger and this has stunted some of your development. PM me if you'd like. Peace

  3. Posted

    @Godishere Okay, so you're scared shitless. So what? You're fucking God, you can handle it.

    Look, going through what you did is one of the risks associated with this work. Really, some degree of horror and freight is mandatory upon pursuing consciousness. I know this sounds harsh, but just hang in there. You will develop one hell of a character over the coming months and years. 

    On 10/23/2021 at 0:39 AM, Godishere said:

    I would seriously question your intentions with awakening and ask why you are doing it in the first place. Your life is already perfection in every sense of the word and I mean that. Awakening is not this glamorous thing as it's portrayed. It's actually the last thing you want.

    I don't blame you for saying this.

    On 10/23/2021 at 2:42 AM, Godishere said:

    It's the alone part that gets me. It's too much my ego to handle. I don't know how others have dealt with it. I see alot of people of this forum playing hide and seek with themselves. Awakened. Asleep. Awakened. Asleep. It's just so backwards though. 

    Or this especially, lol. To this I would say that in the long-term awakening is cool. But in the short-term it is torturous (especially if you take a strong psychedelic which blasts you there rather quickly). Much love.

    P.S. What psychedelic did you take?

  4. Posted

    1960's USA

    Blue & Orange: *yawns* We are bored, what's next?
    Green: Wussup wussup, want a hit of this J? You'll chill the heck out

    Blue & Orange: FUCK NO GO TO HELL
    Green: Ok, maybe next century :'(

                               

    But in all seriousness, basically what Leo said. It's not something you can put a date tag on, but rather society is going to drag itself into Green slowly over time. Orange's demise is going to be manyfold, including, just as an example, privacy problems. Isn't it interesting that under the principle of libertarian freedom, we create business systems that end up owning data on each of our subconscious consumption habits (thereby making us less free)?

    I live in a relatively green city (Bernie Sanders lives here) and it's still pretty damn orange. I think that it's going to start in the cities and then spend outward (already is, of course). What's also interesting is that even Red/Blue/Orange people seem to have caught some Green aspects that 'true' Green people embody; it's fascinating how dominant psychological stages are like a collective flu if you live in a place where it's quite prevalent.

    I think the countries that are already at the apex will continue to lead. Iceland is very sustainable with its geothermal energy grid. As a geologist, and this is just from the theoretical side (I don't actually know the nuances of processing geothermal energy); that nation can basically just coast off of the fact that their power needs are taken care of. They are also the healthiest nation in the world according to Bloomberg health index (U.S. is 34th). But the thing that the U.S. has is population size (which might or might not help). Who's to say? I'm just riffing out my butt...

    Let's see what comes of the technology race and climate change. The world changes so non-linearly and unexpectedly that I always feel that 'anything' can happen!

  5. Posted

    Mother earth, planet earth, the blue marble, Gaia, la terre. This rocky, dirty, dusty, lush ball of magic that we live on ... It's. Just. Beautiful. So complex, yet so simple. It's simply delightful.

    Take to the forest and grab some soil. Touch and inspect fucking rocks. Maybe you think I'm kidding, but this is actually the most absurdly wonderful gift of existence to me. 

    This why I became a geologist. And with the help of resources like Actualized, I hope to take humankind's understanding of what the earth is doing and our relationship with it to the next level. :x

  7. Posted

    @JohnnyAb Yeah, I get fatigued pretty often. I'll give C a shot. For the breathing, I have had asthma for most of my life and usually it's because my throat gets quite mucussy. It's just really annoying because it fucks with baseline consciousness in my day-to-day (especially combined with fatigue) so I'm looking into supplements as a possible way to help it. Frankly ripping the asthma inhaler doesn't work anymore and is only a quick fix.

  8. Posted

    So I just began part-time work at a health-foods store. They have a gigantic array of supplementary options I've been browsing lately. I already take B12 as I'm a vegan and D3 because I'm in those elevated latitudes.

    But lately I've been considering respiratory health. In various web searches, I've found that Vitamin-C and NAC (N-Athytl Cystine) have come up repeatedly. Have any of you tried these and if so did you notice better immune health ± less mucus in the lungs?

    Cheers!

  10. Posted

    On 10/5/2021 at 6:44 PM, Tyler Durden said:

    Biologicaly speaking breathing, drinking, eating and sleeping are crucial for our survival. Without any of them, we would die really soon. But having in mind that death is an illusion, does that make all of these things illusions as well? Do they only exist so this dream seems more realistic but without any use in keeping us alive?

    Who said that death is an illusion? Do you know this for yourself? Personally, I don't (although I'm expecting it to be the case, as I've realized other facets of awakening like "everything is nothing," "no free will," and so on). I'd say that until you know personally that death is an illusion, you cannot have a satisfying answer to your question. 

    In the relative sense, yeah: survival is important. I wasn't sure if "survival is bad because it's ultimately an illusion" was an implicit assumption you have based on your post. If it is, I'd drop it, as I used to carry it around myself and it stunted my development for a little while. What's so hard about this work is that many of the ideas that Leo and other gurus talk about are just too advanced to 'get' without proper experience. The mind will not understand the higher mind/spirit ideas without some semblance of mastery in the gross, material domain first. 

  11. Posted

    Facebook is aware of the negativity bias that is hardwired in the human organism (see Jon Haidt's Happiness Hypothesis). Their algorithm is a function of the content you engage in with the most, and because our brains can't help but look for the negative, we end up engaging with such content the most. This then tells the algorithm to show us more divisive, low-consciousness content like before, which compounds over time makes us cynical. 

    Facebook knows that these tactics have a negative ripple effect on on society at large, yet they put business first. The interview below highlights exactly that:

    Personally I don't deal with Facebook (or Instagram) anymore. It's so toxic that anything is better than it at this point. For all of you "no-fappers": if you think NoFap is great, try going without social media. Once you do, you will have more time to focus on life-purpose and you will feel so much more alive!

  12. Posted

    Not gonna lie, the positive support for this post has increased my forum use. Check out bullet points #3 and 4:

    On 9/24/2021 at 10:28 AM, WonderSeeker said:

    "Traps one may fall into on the forum:

    • Wanting to have a high post-count (I'm not saying that people with high post-counts actually want this, just pointing out this as a general, natural tendency)
    • Posting just to get self-esteem boosts."

    Isn't it stunning the lengths the ego will go to bask in empty glory? :D

    I've come to realize that a ton of us on this forum act like enlightened stoic battle soldiers with philosophy PhDs, but we forget to show our human-ness. We are afraid to let others see that we haven't got it figured out. I'm personally many hail-marys behind some of y'all.

    Here's an idea: Let's try to be students in a classroom, collaborating with and encouraging each other. I think that's how we can reap the maximum possible benefits of this forum.

  14. Posted

    4 hours ago, lmfao said:

    guilt guilt guilt. hmmmm
    Okay I can feel something in my experience, maybe try to hold some space for it before thinking about it- yeah nope, not possible because the mind always moves. 
    If you don't reject that it's impossible to view something independent of thinking you'll reach a standstill of no variation, see this and you'll be in no man's land  

    Now I've got to find a way to carry this through, 

    Bring up past experiences where others were appearing to be doing wrong to you. Notice how there's a flip side to this: you judged and blamed, thus contributing to their behavior OR the way that they were acting was out of innocent ignorance and you just couldn't see this.

    If you realize that, then the next step would be to forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for not knowing better, for being so blind to your devilish behavior. But don't put the cart before the horse (forgiveness before admitting your devilry). ;) Cheers!

  15. Posted

    On 9/25/2021 at 10:05 PM, vizual said:

    I think the emotion of shame comes up when we are in a situation where the person we think we are - or we think we should be - does not align with the reality of the situation.

    Precisely, it's a break in integrity. Having integrity is all about alignment.

    13 hours ago, Gianna said:

    what does it feel like to you in your body? for me it happens in the gut. I think. it's so elusive

    For me I get a sensation in my heart and throat areas. I was bullied much during my belongingness (heart chakra) & self-esteem (throat chakra) stages of development. 

    11 hours ago, PurpleTree said:

    yea i think so, it's also accompanied by a feeling of  "awkwardness" like not knowing how to act or what to do

    Yo I get that too! It's so sneaky, because you feel like something is off, but you don't know what it is. 

    9 hours ago, Preety_India said:

    Have you tried shadow work? 

    Try it and get to the root of it 

    Yep, that's the plan.

  17. Posted

    22 hours ago, Gianna said:

    Does feeling your devilry make you feel shameful? Or does the understanding negate that? 

    I was confronted with the devilry to such a high degree through a sort of psycho-physical suffering that there was no avoiding it; it was as if I was FORCED to admit it. Hell, I was having dreams of past girlfriends in the nights leading up to the experince. The funny part is I relived devilish acts in the dreams!

    22 hours ago, Gianna said:

    I guess I'm asking because I assume a lot of devilry in myself "just in case" I'm hurting someone but then this turns into self-blame which feels shameful I think. idk! what does shame feel like in your body? 

    I huge insight that I had in reflecting on the experience is this: you know when you're being devilish because you will feel like you're doing something wrong in the moment, even though you usually can't logically deduce what it is. Like, you'll literally get this 'dirty' feeling in your body or mind that says "I think I'm doing something wrong." Watch out for it!

    21 hours ago, PurpleTree said:

    it's so useless  :P 

    I'd say it's only useless if you don't learn from it! 

    4 hours ago, Thought Art said:

    Healing The Shame That Binds You

    Wonderful, thanks.

    3 hours ago, Late Boomer said:

    I think what you need to do is grieve. Shame from past trauma that derailed your life is a bit like death. It's something unfair that you can't go back and change. Grieve over it then put it behind you. Then it's just part of your history, something you can use to grow. Getting bullied in school was a gift. It made me independent, gave me an outside perspective. If they had accepted me I would be one of them today. Asleep. 

    Yes, I actually whole-heartedly agree with everything you wrote.

    2 hours ago, Yeah Yeah said:

    "[V]icious circle between guilt and shame, guilty because of the shame."

    Yep, there was definitely a "meta-" quality to the experience I had. For example, I texted somebody local, letting them know I was having this psychotic experience. I felt so guilty about sending the text, because I knew they were going out to have fun that night and I didn't want to take away from that, that it took me 30 minutes just to send the text. 

    2 hours ago, Yeah Yeah said:

    Yes, and I think this feeling also has a low vibration to it, so its not exactly the highest and most vitalizing energy one could potentially experience, and if others feel guilt or shame the way I myself do on peculiar occasions, is it sort of common for humans during our day and age, I'm unsure about how others deal with it if at all; hence sharing insights in this thread will help clear up such questions ...

    Yeah, the experience sucked, but I applied lots of mindfulness and non-judgement to it. I also introspected on it the day after, and now I feel amazing. Take the view that if tended to properly, anti-blissful, low-vibe experiences can be a good thing in the long-run :) 

  18. Posted

    @Egzoset You're a poetic writer.

    No, after contemplating today I realized that the shame-fest I endured was directly connected to long-standing interpersonal issues in me. I accrued tons of social traumas as a child (including literally YEARS of bullying at school, which I hid from my family). Since then (over the past 10 years) I've been working on getting better at seduction/dating and social life. It's been a super painful journey, and today I came to the conclusion that I psychologically wronged many people (especially women) in the past 10 years. 

    I have prided myself on integrity all the while, but last night's sudden experience forced me to admit that I wasn't being as saintly as I thought I was. I AM the devil. 

    When I first watched this episode over a year ago, I could sort of intellectually get it.

    Now, I REALLY get it. For those of you reading, actually seeing and especially feeling your very own devilry is a whole different game. You never would have thought that it was you all along!

  19. Posted

    Have any of you ever had a state of feeling deep shameful feelings that just smacked you out of the blue? 

    Last night I was about to go out with friends but took a detour away from the venue, as I began feeling paranoid and submissive towards people. I felt shame about who I was, and this came with feelings of division with other people to the point where I couldn't even look people in the eye. Since I've done lots of meditation, psychedelic trips, and binaural beats in the past couple of years, this state was imbued with a sense of no-self. Honestly, the no-self was less scary than the shame, because the shame is a part of this deep interpersonal shadow that I have due to traumas I accrued as a kid, mainly through bullying.

    Has anyone had a similar experience? This was really scary and I'm still trying to make sense of what this was and why it happened so suddenly.

  21. Posted

    1 hour ago, The0Self said:

    1. Put yourself out there.

    2. Forget you ever even heard the term Chad/Stacy... Like the concept never existed.

    Yes. Also @Yeah Yeah drop the word approach if you haven't already. It has negative connotations associated with it. Focus on talking to and connecting with women. Seduction is a step-by-step process, and it will naturally lead to sex. Some years from now when you've got it, you'll look back at *right now*  and laugh, as if this were actually an issue!

  22. Posted · Edited by WonderSeeker

    Ever since I joined this forum in March 2020, I've had very mixed feelings about it. On the one hand, it's a blessing that this exists. I'm awfully thankful for the golden nuggets that people drop, be it practical-resource posts, or interesting advice/feedback/conversations.

    However, there are tons of flipsides to this place. Most of it depends on you, but some of it is pre-given, as forums are open to all players. There's no way I'm going to touch on everything here + some of you may disagree with these points. So please, feel free to add your own thoughts! 

    Traps one may fall into on the forum:

    • The #1 trap: wasting time, compounding into hours, days, and even weeks of lost time
    • Getting triggered and more importantly, not being aware of one's own triggered-ness
    • Trolling, debating, or defending pet-theories out of spite/pride
    • Wanting to have a high post-count (I'm not saying that people with high post-counts actually want this, just pointing out this as a general, natural tendency)
    • Posting just to get self-esteem boosts or to shoot-the-shit, as if this is social media or therapy
    • Worrying about whether or not people will respond to your comments/posts; if you have this fear then don't even post (for your own sake), just observe

    How to use the forum to get the most out of it:

    • Only use this forum because you are choosing to use it, not out of an unconscious, reactionary habit (I used to have this page bookmarked but dropped it so now I have to consciously decide when to hop on)
    • Stay away from toxic threads (don't let chimp-ery appeal to your lower self; seek that which you want, not what you don't want)
    • Actually learn from those who are wiser than you, do not idol-worship others
    • Detach your heart from the 'outcome' of posts
    • Delete your expectations
    • Dive into new perspectives, even if it's a bit uncomfortable
    • When in doubt about somebody's advice, ask "does this feel right?" (even if their advice is 'objectively good', if it doesn't feel right to you, than maybe you're not ready for it, and that's okay)
    • Give encouragement to others, so long as they're being genuine and not looking for attention (it really makes a difference to people when they feel seen in this work: self-actualization is challenging!)
    • If you feel some connection with another user, PM them! Sometimes you'll make fruitful 1-on-1 conversations and learn even more that way vs. a post
    • Don't take the forum too too seriously, have some fun sometimes! But don't overdo it and become a clown ;) 

     

  23. Posted

    Thank you all for the feedback. Your experience and reflection of this industry has clarified a lot of questions/concerns/doubts. @Leo Gura you said you're making a video about "Life Traps/Scams" soon, right? Will self-help industries be a part of this? It seems like there's a lot to be said there.

    9 hours ago, something_else said:

    I realised most of them were making me feel inferior and basically like total shit

    Okay thank you. I really dislike the over-the-top obnoxious attitude that, for instance, Tyler pushes. Sure, he's an amazing human, has an incredible life-story, and is hyper-qualified as a social skills coach, bar none. But damn some aspects of him rub me the wrong way (e.g., the mansion, ramblings about his business, his hyper-stimulated state, etc.). Same thing for some of the other RSD coaches it seems.

     

    13 hours ago, mmKay said:

    But if you want a terrific experience, go for the 4 week natural Bootcamp. Its about 2k euro for 4 weeks. You basically live with Alex for 4 weeks and the other students and you hit it hard every day.

    And he worked with Owen for years but left their company because of their shady business habits. He openly calls himself the most experienced pick up coach in the world. Very genuine and authentic guy. Have a look:

    Old but gold. Look at his new stuff and contact for a bootcamp if that's what you want. Good luck ?

    Dope, this looks great - thanks.

    . . .

    Personally, I'm already working with a dating coach but was checking out other sources for the future when my current program ends. The coach I'm working with is Jad T Jones, and his way of facilitating is online (very similar to the video calls @Nahm does, where he points out blindspots). He's a very down-to-earth and trustworthy guy overall. He has somewhat of an obsession over the notion of "success," but besides that he's compassionate and well-balanced. Never talks you down and his coaching is quite personalized.

  25. Posted

    On 8/28/2021 at 4:59 AM, Aaron p said:

    Does Leo have any videos about how to make sure your partner is the right one? 

    He doesn't, but here's something powerful I learned from a dating coach recently. 

    In seduction, you need to ask her qualifying questions when you're getting to know her for the first time. Qualify her. You want a certain girl, so show them that through your inquisitive interest.

    You say you're into philosophy and spirituality, right? That probably means you read a lot. Maybe say something like "Hey, you seem intelligent. What books do you read." Or maybe "Hey, you have a chill vibe; are you spiritual." By qualifying her early, you can rate her on your own personal scale and then decide if you want to date or not.

    On 8/28/2021 at 4:59 AM, Aaron p said:

    [W]ould it be safe to assume that my very first serious relationship should be seen as a testing ground?

    Of course!