Robi Steel

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  1. I did not, Im sry. I hope you still consider some of my points reasonably. Most of them are based on my real-life experiences and intuitions. Video games are a nice retreating place for a child when everything else doesnt work out. Video games are a nice place to sent off your son when you're constantly at work and dont have the energy to play with him because youve been working all day. Video games are a nice place to keep hanging when nobody is teaching you duties/responsibility/social norms because your parents think that is all traditional and has no value for the child at all. All of the boys that I knew in school came into contact with video games, you know which ones became nerds and gamers? The ones with the shitty parenting, the ones that needed a world that actually worked for them. And there alot of shitty parenting at the moment for boys and girls. I kinda made an absolutist statement there and I should say that most women have real reasons to advocate for equality. Im not gonna avoid facing my own feminine site and becoming more feminine by retreating into some boys club. Sometimes I just need a place where I can have fun with my boys, where we can make inappropriate jokes, be politically incorrect, be rough, be tough, be competitive. That isnt enabling any toxic masculinity, that is actually helping me pretty goodly containing that site of me around other people where it would be out of place nowadays. Men need to control the dragon that is inside of them and the only way to do that is to acknowledge that there is a dragon and actually looking what that dragon looks like and how to beast it. Men need to be taught about their masculine nature first before they can be softened. A good way to create alot of immature, juvenile men who think gangster-rap is oh-so-cool is to completely deny their masculine nature, pretend like its a disease and toxic. Pretend like theres nothing even different between him and a girl. Pretend like there are only bad sides to being tough, leading and dominant. Throughout his entire childhood. What happens to these confused young boys? Because they were never taught how to handle the beast of masculinity, its gonna come bubbling up to the surface earlier or later. They will turn into dangerous people, because they were never told about that they can be dangerous. They turn into the men of 4chan, PUAs, MGTOW, etc. That is where actual toxic masculinity comes from, men not knowing themselves. I know those roles were stifling. God, im not talking about going back to stage blue, dont be so black and white, seriously dude. Its not either "Abondan everything traditional" against "Going back to spiral dynamics stage blue". There is obviously a lot of information about us as a species in looking at how our gender roles developed. Obviously, we were made a certain way to fit different roles in the play of survival. And of course should technology give now everyone the freedom to take on the role they desire. What does this mean? It means that traditional roles are a product of evolution which lasted millions and billions of years and liberation is a product of evolution that lasted some hundred years. Yes, men and woman are gonna become more the same. They are gonna overlap more. There have always been women who fit a leader position better than a man, there have always been men who fit a caring position better than a woman. These people can now actualize themselves, thats wonderful But what about the majority or tendency of men and women to be different. Its gonna be stable at least for some time. It is almost undeniable that women seem to be people-oriented and men tend to be things-oriented in way that is inherent. Inherently different means that there is something ingrained in our minds that just alters our perception. So many women will enjoy family, friends and emotions more than men and they will admit to this if you ask them. But what is our society doing at the moment to fix the problem of gender roles, it is proposing more and more that every behavior which is opposite to traditional gender roles must be automatically good. Id say, this setting many people up against themselves. Women are pushed to have bigger and bigger careers so they have less and less time with their kids Women are demonized for not working and wanting a traditional lifestyle Parenting is swept under the rug with daycare centers Women are told to chase money and success which backfires for alot of women who have a natural tendency for people (Realizing how much time you wasted on something, you find out, you dont actually care about). What worse than limiting dogmatically enforced gender roles, limiting dogmatically enforced gender anti-roles that dont even match the biological make-up of most people. I disagree Leo, I actually like chilling with girls more than with boys and I always had a huge feminine site that I was always proud of. My ideal way of being is sensitive and peaceful but still my male friends showed me a lot that only boys can teach you. I actually talked with a lot of girls about this topic in particular, some of them being wholehearted feminists. But still, I would come to a lot of agreements with them and you would be suprised how many girls are also critical of feminism and how many feel that the mainstream version of feminism does not fit their description and feeling of truly feminine values and efforts. When I say to a girl that she has got to look out for how she spends the majority of her life and should be careful about just following the crowd or doing what youre told, its not because I want to reinforce the patriarchal norm or because it suits me as a man when she decides to be a stay-at-home mum, its because I can tell her an important piece of information that could be key to her happiness later in life. I know this because my mom tells me endless stories of her coworkers who all regret spending less time with their children now that they are 40 or 50 years old. They just weren't told that that could be the thing missing in their life, they were after a dead-end job that suddenly doesnt mean anything anymore. I think there are many people who fall prey to "let's do everything the other way around, just because" and suffer as a consequence and dont find to themselves. Feminist talking points and policies need to be checked meticulously. Just because feminism goes in the right direction doesnt mean it´s always good. It can go 180 just as everything else. Sup
  2. I think alot of people on here are pretty aware and think through the stuff that leo says. Thats, why it shouldnt be a problem to honestly address some attitudes that Leo has that I think, are really damaging to young men. Leo, just because your past includes getting away from the image of the nerd and the 4chan troll, doesnt mean you have to constantly demonize them and act as like they are just pathetic man-children who cant get their act together. There is a real reason more and more men feel disenfranchised and completely helpless. Many of them were never given any help and even told the opposite of what is true about girls. Many of them did not grow up with a father and therefore suffer under completely one-sided, overly sensitive and overly nurturing parenting. They were given no proper tools whatsoever to be a successful man, I dont blame them for feeling anger. They have no connections to society whatsoever, thats why they dont care to shoot it up. I think men and women always had it shitty. The only reason we called it "emancipation of women" is because we defined the good life by male standarts (pretty sexist). I dont think men really have been emancipated, especially not when I see the heavy double standarts everywhere. Majority of CEOs male (problem) vs. majority of coal miners male (not a problem) Men only care about looks (problem) vs. women only care about money (not a problem) Sport is male-dominated (problem) vs. Caregivers are female dominated (not a problem) Not only do feminists try to destroy any kind of positive male image or positive male space, it is also obvious that this whole thing is not about equality anymore. Equality has become a tool for many womens egotism. One day "Yes, women are so beautiful and we need to celebrate femininity!" the other day "Why do care so much about treating girls and boys different, for me, everybody is just human and should be raised the same(assuming that her feminine way of upbringing is the human way)" . This is both said by feminists in the name of equality but it clearly has a double standart when it comes to masculinity and why it is good and should be celebrated. Then suddenly, traditional roles should be abandoned and are a thing of the past even though they will clearly always be a part of our behavior as it is highly influenced by our biological setup. I know many women who have a good heart and dont intent to supress a positive male image but they just dont know any better. If nothing is done, women and men will drift further apart which is bad because we want to aim towards unity, especially masculine and feminine need to come together because they are by nature intended to be complimentary and two sides of the same coin. Gender politics should not drive men and women further apart and should solely focus and bringing stuff together and working out differences which have to be accepted beforehand. Where men understand women and where women understand men (first one is rare at the moment as well as the second one) I hope this doesnt come about as too anti-feminist. I want to be a feminist, it just that many people who call themselves feminists at the moment often miss the mark in how they could actually help women become stronger, actually independent, actually grounded in themselves, actually knowledgeable and equal to men. Equal but different but together as one the same.
  3. @Leo Gura damn
  4. @Gili Trawangan I definitely can go several weeks without human interaction, I dont feel like there is anything that Im missing or anything that I have to say to them. But connecting with other people spontaneously, always being open for a conversation, connecting with people from all places and kinds, building immense trust and flow with a person or group is a beauty of its own
  5. @Shiva Yes youre right. Im not lecturing anyone and I shouldnt. This truth can never be pushed onto anyone ever, I know. I usually just focus on retaining my own awareness during conversations and giving the most truthful answers when people come up to me. The vision for my life is to become a master communicator. And I know that communicating the truth is one of the most counter-intuitive things. Im inspired by all the masters of the past who have actually awakened significant amounts of people. Im only 19, I know my own foolishness too well. There is no real grind in my words yet. My gravitas is just starting to develop as a man. There is nothing in other people that I cant find in myself. You have bad days sometimes with the folks, I just needed an outlet. I felt caged. I dont want to undermine all the deep and loving moments I had with people due to this truth.
  6. I really feel like, the more conscious I become in my conversations and with other people, the more they are gonna feel like something is seriously wrong with me. People want to hear the truth when they like it, not when they actually need it. People want comfort and security, without making sacrifices. Im not talking about enlightenment here or the spiritual path or that they have to give up their ego. But, just simply, being honest with oneself and others EVEN if it hurts. Simply, creating more love in your life, being able to receive and being open towards something new EVEN if its unknown. Simply, for once, overthink when you judge someone. ACTUALLY think about if it is an intelligent move to throw someone under the bus, just because they seem like a fool to you. The more awake I become, the more I see the piles and wreckage people have been burying their life under. Mountains of arrogance and self-deception, running a spear through your own head and calling it life and normal, it all comes crashing down with everything I see other people do. "Hes out of his mind" ,"Hes insane", "Hes lost it" He is evil" ,"Just not that smart" ,"out of touch", "dangerous" ,"overly confident" ,"dirty" ,"a fool", "i hope someone kicks him one day" When you are empty yourself, every conversation you have with someone, its just a clear reflection of themselves to themselves. They will list of all their deceptions to you, one by one. They will work themselves up over you and be put on the edge of breaking, just because you didnt buy into their fantasy. If it just takes one whiff of clarity to make you question your miserable life, maybe that tells you something about yourself. I guess this is venting. As Leo said, the tragedy of it hits you and you cant look away. You want to let all that love burst out and reach your friends and everyone you meet. You want to call out the message of ultimate relieve for them. You can feel their pain, every step of the way. But boy are you fooled to believe that your love is appreciated in any way. Get ready to have all of your openness and heart used against you in the most disgusting way, in the most appalling way. Just for the record. I love you, earnest and honest. Without a doubt, youre beautiful part of creation. Whoever it is Im seeing in the everyday world. Youre also utterly, utterly, utterly, utterly, utterly plain stupid. The deeper I dig into you, the deeper your shallowness shows. The deeper it shows, just how little you care about yourself, how little you care about others, how few thoughts go into your own being, how much you are wasting EVERYTHING. You are boring. You are disgusting. You are hurting. You are stubborn. You are ignorant. You are your own greatest enemy. And yes, I am your greatest enemy. I will never stop giving light to your devilry. I will always show it to you. Because I love you. All your quailities, I cant get enough of them. I love them all, thats what makes this exciting. I would die for you, so that you can see real love in your life. Just for once. When you put the most pressure on me, thats when im gonna bend least.
  7. @Recursoinominado Well, there is no ultimate ground. The difficulty is to find ground in a 100% groundless universe. If you get solidly grounded in nothing, there is nothing that can unground you. Be totally grounded in the present moment and in whatever you are doing at the exact time of now
  8. @WelcometoReality Well yes, we are talking about transforming your entire life and existence forever. What could be the one thing that is the hardest to overcome? What could be the ultimate key to this game? So we are talking about ego death right? What was the ego again? yes, right! yourself. The truth of life is death of yourself. Your whole life youve been told this story of death being the absolute worst thing, the one thing you cannot joke around with. Why makes you so certain about that. Could there be something on the other side of that argument? Im telling you now that this game of life is completely fair. You get what you put in. So if you are brave enough and loving enough, like god would be loving and brave, you get everything that god gets.
  9. @arlin Being conscious of something is the requirement for there to be something in the world. When there is nobody experiencing something, it cannot happen, its not there. The fact that you can experience anything at the moment proves that the universe can experience something. Because the universe includes everything in the universe. There is no such thing as existence, existence is not something that comes before being conscious. There wasnt first existence and then someone became aware of it. Existence is something that is being orchestrated by the process of being "awake" or "there" or "conscious". The process of being aware of something is the whole of existence.
  10. @SQAAD Intuition is not some sort of emotion. Emotion often times distorts your reality and decisions in a highly emotional state are mostly impulsive and short-term. Emotions shine a certain light on reality and it shows life from one certain feeling. Intuition is something beyond a high arousal state. Intuition is more of a sixth sense, it can be described as a hint or a whiff to go some kind of direction or explore a certain idea or energy. Intuition is a sense of doing "the right thing", its the subconsciousness awareness that you have about all of your problems. Its the subconsciousness faculty which deeply knows that "youre gonna have to face that in order to grow", "this is the thing that is holding me back", "you know that you are running away from this", "you know that it is the right thing to meditate right now". Ultimate truth is deeply connected to every soul and therefore intuition is just the part of you that knows. That knows you are fooling yourself
  11. @Conrad You are literally bigger than our solar system and you exhibit more power every second than any God you could ever imagine
  12. @Javfly33 The ego is extremely hard to terminate. It is like a virus keeping itself alive with every ground possible. It is like a snake that is still twitching. A deep and life-changing mystical experience can be like meteor wiping your soul from ego, but as you know even when an asteroid hits the earth, there are still millions of life forms that can survive in all the crooks. Its like if you start kicking an ant colony, they will take heavy damage but they are definitely not gonna die off this way. If you get to a certain point of clarity, the ego speaking in your skull will no longer be a problem and you wont be bothered by it. It wont have any substance for you and therefore no power over you. It will eventually die off but never by force and never by trying to make it stop. By itself, when the truth hits hard. Ridding yourself of activity and mastering a state of inner peace will take at least a lifetime and there will be many different phases of depths. Expect that
  13. @nick96 The truth is love or love is the truth