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  1. Posted · Edited by Cocolove

    Wake up, meditate and stretch outside for at least two hours, eat nothing, dose, go outside, once it's getting crazy go lay down in bed in silent darkness. Be prepared for complete insanity and death, if you are afraid of these things you will have a horrible experience resisting. After 50+ high dose trips I've only had a few bad ones and once I let go it got better. Take time to integrate and let psychedelics improve your life and meditation habits, which will in turn improve your trips. I started using them lots at a young age, which I think is fine but you might need to take years to integrate if you trip lots. 

    I wish I'd known how important it is to be alone and do it in a setting where you can get the best result. If you do it somewhere with others you may take the same amount and be the same person but have completely different results then if you lay in silent darkness and practice self-inquiry. 

    I've had some pretty tough ego backlashes. When you do psychedelics, you are signing up to do a lot of rapid growth, which is hard and you need to be ready for. Otherwise you will have a backlash resisting the actual work and go in circles instead of improving.

    Turn off your phone, and all electronics, even when you're done tripping, you should give yourself a day before and after the trip to barely use them. 

    Like Leo has said, living a clam, pure, non-hedonistic life the week before the trip is very important. Face all the negative emotions you have been avoiding so you aren't just tortured by them during the trip.  

     

    @Phil King Alone is crucial but I think a tripsitter is smart for new substances or new doses just so you know you can handle it and aren't predisposed to a very negative reaction. I like the perception and actuality videos, or the guided exercises for before trips. Has the same effect as getting into a good self-inquiry groove beforehand. 

  2. Posted · Edited by Cocolove

    I completely went fully insane for about an hour of my 4 gram mushroom trip today (plus DMT). I have been very worried generally that I'll do something stupid. But every time this happens I just lay there and let go. I think you have to be resisting very strongly or something. Doing it irresponsibly or not knowing what you're getting into.

    But I've always wondered why this happens to some people ever since someone did something pretty traumatizing to me off 3.5 grams of mushrooms. I considered having a tripsitter today but it's just so much better alone. 

    Realized I was God after the madness though. It's nothing like you conceptualize it, everything just is and you project this whole story about an external world and an ego. I only had it for like 5 minutes though.

  3. Posted

    On 5/18/2023 at 7:02 PM, PurpleTree said:

    Nice i should have gone to the rainforest too. Isn‘t the humidity killing you?

    You just have to jump in the creeks every 30 minutes haha.

     

    On 5/19/2023 at 10:14 AM, Husseinisdoingfine said:

    Are you being sincere and real, or being metaphorical and not too literal? Like, if I meditated in a forest or in a concrete jail cell, which would have a better effect on my ability to awaken?

    Nature would be better. Our minds are built to apreciate the sounds of birds, the wind, etc. Think about how that affects mindfullness, ability to see love and beauty. But a jail cell may help you focus much better if you don't have much to do but meditate.

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    35 minutes ago, WonderSeeker said:

    @Leo Gura For now I will stake my development mostly on pickup and travel. Then grade into a more refined career and so on. Many thanks for the encouragement.

    Like a spiral, every time you come back to a new side of development you'll be more evolved and ready to make the next step. I finally got a decent job and now im finishing my multi-year psychedelic break.

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    @NoSelfSelf hm good advice thank you i definetely need to contemplate this more. I just think a book would be good as specific psychological issues can be tricky and techniques can help.

     @integral yea im 21 working a decent amount on my life purpose and self actualization. but that just never brings me the level of fufillment a relationship can.

    I've watched some julien videos on this topic, ive already seen the other you shared.@Raze

    Watching the julien video its just so hard to understand how this is what im doing and how to stop. it doesn't feel like im putting my self worth on that, in my experience it feels like depression is the baseline and having a relationship is an amazing thing that brings pleasure and love. the love comes from that, not from within. Logically I know its true, but how do i bridge the gap and actually start feeling like im complete.

     

     

    I defintely feel a huge difference between if i spend a day self actualizing and being productive versus if I go on social media. I just don't think i need to wait to be very self-actualized to fix this issue.

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    @NoSelfSelf hm good advice thank you i definetely need to contemplate this more. I just think a book would be good as specific psychological issues can be tricky and techniques can help.

     @integral yea im 21 working a decent amount on my life purpose and self actualization. but that just never brings me the level of fufillment a relationship can.

    I've watched some julien videos on this topic, ive already seen the other you shared.@Raze

     

     

     

    I defintely feel a huge difference between if i spend a day self actualizing and being productive versus if I go on social media. I just don't think i need to wait to be very self-actualized to fix this issue.

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    I notice I've had a habit of being very happy when im in a relationship. But without it, I am often depressed until I get into another one. I've made lots of progress on this just by sitting with my emotions when I would usually use a relationship to suppress them, and working on self-actualization, but I would really like to fix this so I can feel great on my own and eventually have a healthy relationship. 

    I am also needy, obviously the same issue. Also trying to deal with a breakup of a 3 year relationship that happened 5 months ago. We still hang out and I really want to make things work we just can't seem to have a healthy relationship right now. Whether it leads to us having a healthy relationship or helps me get over this and stop being constantly heartbroken, I feel like I need to do more than just spirituality, life purpose, and all that and directly focus on it. I think sitting with the emotions I don't want to feel really gets to the root of the issue in a way, but also I think it would be good to approach it from the psychological childhood trauma angle. Pretty opposed to therapy just because I feel like i can usually do things better and know more with all this self-actualization shit.

    A book recommendation on this would be great, or videos or anything you think would specifically address this

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    Also, I was thanking god and telling it I love you for creating this experience and the illusion. Then I felt god say it back, thanks for doing it. And the gratitude and love started to merge until it flipped and I was thanking myself both directions. God doesn't make you forget, God forgets!!

     

     

    @Leo Gura Yes Indeed, especially remote tropical rainforests.

     

    @Theplay Was a travel day, renting a car and driving hours to get back to my university. So it was distracting and exhausting. At first I was happy to just sit in nature for hours and meditate. Then I started to get more anxious and feeling not at ease. By the time I was back I felt depressed, reality was shaken up and unstable and confusing, I felt strong urges to scroll through social media, whereas earlier I felt I never would want to again. Struggled to be motivated to do basic things, was grumpy to other people. 

    Then I had insomnia from anxiety, to a degree I haven't had in a month or two. Woke up very very depressed. Going through my day has helped, but reality just feels so... unreal. Like after tripping.

    A lot of things I attributed to psychedelics I've realized are just after-effects of spiritual experiences in general. The Ego backlash, the strong emotions and cravings, unease, my ego wanting things to feel normal and real again.

     

    @r0ckyreed It's one thing to feel emotions that you would say "I felt like life is perfect" about. Yesterday I felt that way but only as a result of a deep realization that God makes no mistakes, every moment It (I) am creating is absolute perfection, and couldn't be otherwise. There are no problems, everything is completely ok, worrying that things won't be good is completely an illusion.

    It's difficult to describe and I'm not in that state of consciousness now but I realized why everything is perfect. Or more like, I was able to see through the illusion that there is anything to worry about, of suffering and fear. 

    Definitely had deeper awakenings on mushrooms though.

     

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    This morning I was in the middle of a tropical rainforest on a hike. 

    Randomly I felt a very strong urge to get away from other people and listen to the birds. for a few minutes it felt like I was on mushrooms, the noises were strange and very beautiful. Then it hit me, I realized everything is completely perfect, felt a deep bliss, perhaps the best experience of my life without psychedelics, started thanking god and telling god i love you and then i felt that god felt it back. Went on crying tears of joy saying thank you and I love you to god for creating reality out of love.  then i realized i am god and we are thanking ourself. I am out of the state of consciousness now so it's really weird looking back, just like a trip. It lasted like 30-60 minutes, I just realized everything is perfect, completely okay, and there is nothing to ever worry about. God is it, God is you, God is me. God is every single you it and me. At the start I had my personal identity, then I felt god's love, then it just switched and my identity was god creating me. Having some ego backlash now, very strange it happened spontaneously, not even while meditating.

  20. Posted

    9 hours ago, integral said:

    So in practice, you have to block her on everything and make sure not to check because if you do that will cause flash back depression like an addict. Its also important to remove all gifts or memories of her, like pictures on phone.

    Oh god neither of us are doing that. She wants to stay friends very badly and i do because I hope things work out between us. She hopes that we can get back together once she is not constantly obsessing over the people I was with while we were broken up.

     

    9 hours ago, integral said:

     

    Sitting there bitter about what happened, and sad for months will not help and you won't get over it. Making things worse you'll see them with someone else. 

    So many mixed opinions wow. I need to find balance I think. Process my emotions while im still deeply greiving but not sit around waiting hoping we get back together and being alone and sad.

     

     

     

    9 hours ago, integral said:

    It's situational, if it was emotionally very difficult like in the situation you were in then you need a rebound. If you feel ok about it and feel the need to be alone then be alone. But the rebound should be a good prospect, not a one-night stand, but if that's what you need and it resolves the issue then do that. You can be in a new relationship while still greaving about the previous one and slowly the outlook improves and you feel better. 

    I've noticed in the past for short term like 3 month relationships rebounds really did work. I think I should have felt my pain a bit more but they really helped me feel better and get to a point where I totally didn't care about what had happened with the previous person. Even when they didn't work out or were just short and stupid, then I felt okay from the real breakup. 

    But this time things were different. I had a lot to grieve, after living together for years and planning our lives together. It's not the type of thing that can be replaced. If anything the rebounds made me feel after a few weeks that noone would compare to her (so we got back together). It also hurt her which I feel horrible about, and made it so us getting back together couldn't work.

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    @Roy Yea definetely waiting a month at a bare minimum makes sense, but other than time, how would you say you are emotionally ready. Obviously you don't need to be totally moved on, but you should also probably be mostly recovered, to the point where you are okay on your own and don't need someone else to make you feel better.

    @flowboy Yea makes sense. I just made another thread about getting back with an ex and I agree it depends on the context. What about hurting the person who still loves you by doing things right away?

    @GlobalcollectiveReally are they? because I know that it can be harmful to throw yourself into work or working out or being busy all the time, compared to just crying. I imagine it could be if you really feel your feelings and stuff, but what about if you are using meditation to avoid feeling feelings and do something very difficult with your focus.

     

  22. Posted

    Are rebounds healthy? I've been researching it a lot and so I think its worth starting a thread as I really would like some opinions. Personal story here but also just wondering in general the answer to this question.

     

    Me and my girlfriend of 3 years broke up  and I was doing very terrible and thought it might help me move on to sleep with someone else, so I did 1 day after. Then I did with her and another girl a few times each over the next few weeks. I feel like it was very unhealthy.

    1: I hurt the person i cared very much about and still loved more than anyone for years, it was selfish and disrespectful.

    2 I didn't process my feelings, I was just doing whatever I could to distract myself and convinced myself it would help me realize that she hadn't been special. In reality it made me feel horrible about everything overall and like noone could compare to my ex.

    3 It promotes codependence instead of independence. You are using someone else to try and be okay again instead of putting in the hard emotional labor of grieving for months before you can be ok on your own.

     

    So I've kind of been against rebounds. But now I am wondering if there is a context they can be healthy in. There are lots of controversial opinions that are hard to pick through. This article claims to be 'scientific' https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/healthy-rebound-relationships/2025781#:~:text=Next time you're just,shift your mentality toward viewing

    "If you can't find anyone who even comes close to your ex, and you find yourself needing a distraction of any sort — emotional or physical — take some time to yourself."

    but also: "The research indicates that people who entered into a rebound relationship more quickly than others had greater overall mental and physical health, confidence in their desirability, and resolution toward their previous relationship."

     

    So I'm wondering from a self-actualization perspective what you all think. I've been focusing on doing things for myself, meditating, 10 other daily habits, surfing daily, not distracting myself from my feelings, lots and lots of crying. We got back together for a month and this time we broke up 2 weeks ago, because she couldn't get over what I had done while we were apart, even though are other problems have been resolved in a very healthy way. 

    So I think for now a rebound is definetely not for me. For all the reasons above, plus I feel disgusted by the idea of doing that again. Even though it is so hard I feel like I really need to process my feelings.

     

  23. Posted

    What are people's thoughts on rebounds?

    I was very upset and slept with someone a day after when we broke up the first time and i regret it so much, because it hurt her, didn't actually help me move on, was very immature, and I was trying to fill the void instead of dealing with the heartbreak.

    So because of that when we got back together, she was always worried and obsessed about that. Now she says she doesn't know if the relationship is ever repairable but she hopes it is.

  24. Posted

    23 hours ago, Globalcollective said:

    @Cocolove How old are you btw, give some more context on the relationship? 

    We are both 21, I'm in my third year of university, her her 4th. Started dating right after high school.

     

    On 1/30/2023 at 7:47 AM, meta_male said:

    This one obvisously isn't interested in who you are RIGHT NOW.

    Because I lied to her when we were broken up about how I had slept with other people because I thought it would just hurt her and I didn't think we would get back together. She thinks we both need to be less codependent but she is still in love with me. 

  25. Posted

    I'm starting to feel a bit better but still quite bad crying every day, dreaming every night that we get back together. 

    When I broke up with her the first time I needed space for like two weeks. She does too now. So we haven't talked for a week.

     

    I'm just trying to work on myself and my life and feeling like I will be okay either way. Now that I;m making some progress towards that it's clear to me I think I can heal while still hoping things work out.