Ask A Girl Where You Went Wrong If She Rejects You?

[Peace and Love]

@electroBeam @Elton @Principium Nexus

15 hours ago, electroBeam said:

@Peace and Love  but whats the point of doing pickup if love is just something you cant control? There is literally no reason for it if that's the case. That's an entire industry down the drain. 

Pick up increases your ability to attract the right girl and keep her by TENFOLD!  I can recall numerous men that I've been attracted to that are usually not my type at all.

Here are some examples.....lol  Episode #3

1.)  A few years ago when I was living in south Florida I met this older man named Robbie.  He was 50 years old, 6ft 4,  but he had the face and body of a 35  year old,  and a full head of dark thick hair!  He was vegan and because of his diet and taking care of his body, he reversed and slowed down the aging process.  Well atleast I can say it worked for him.  I'm usually not attracted to older men at all, and he was certainly the oldest man I've ever been attracted to.   And I met him when I was 29. He was one of the most influential men if not the most in my life.  He has a very special place in my heart, that no man has been able to replicate.  He was my superman.  When I met him, I was very sick, and overly medicated.  He helped educate me on vegan dieting and helped me to reverse my serious health issues that I had, including my ovarian cysts which could have made me permanently infertile.  He was extremely intelligent and was always teaching me new things.  He taught me to research, and read things before i made decisions.  We had the most incredibly intense sexual chemistry.  And this man wasn't even a gamer or my type!  A lot of the attraction we had was emotional, and was built over time.  He was one of the most interesting people that I ever talked to or met.  It was a shame that we had met at the wrong time.  Even though he asked me out nearly 4 times in a span of 3 years, the universe deemed that we were not meant to be together!  There was a fine line between being incredibly in love with this man and lusting.  After I moved back home to live with my parents and spend time with my dad while he was still alive, I literally pined over this man.  I even secretly contemplated for a while on dropping my career in hypnosis and running away to be with him! lol.  Love and lust makes you do crazy things!   And he certainly beat the odds! 

2.)  2 years ago when I was taking my Masters in Hypnotherapy I met this guy on my facebook named Kris. If there is such a thing as the term "soul mate", this man was definitely it.  We could literally complete each others sentences, and we had so much in common it would make anyone puke.  We would talk for hours upon hours online, laughing and giggling.  We were literally two peas in a pod.  I've had a lot of wild spiritual things happen in my life involving birds and there was something going on there between me and Kris.  We even had shared some identical dreams which made me contemplate if we had met in a past life or astro-planed, etc. Unfortunately Kris lived across the USA in Washington State.  He was a game designer that worked in the industry for many years, including with big companies like Bungie Games, and Microsoft. He even worked on my all time favorite game Kings Quest 6!!!  Kris was going through a lot in his life.  His best friend passed away on vacation in another country, his dog died, and his ex wife that he was married to for ten years left him and moved to Puerto Rico to live with an 18 year old man.  (We're talking about someone that's in their late 30's early 40's here!)  Because of all these series of unfortunate events Kris gained a ton of weight, and was sporting this ugly straggly beard that turned a 30  year old man into a 50/60 year old man!.  He literally had aged from all the stress.  And it was very hard for me to swallow.  I wanted to make things work, and see healing take place with this man.  He needed time, but unfortunately he lived too far away to make things work. 

3.) Greg from episode 2, was definitely another great example of someone that is usually not my type.  I think many of us have a tendency to get into dating patterns.  I've always been drawn to men with dark hair and dark eyes, not to say I wouldn't be attracted to anything else, I just think it was just natural for me because my dad had those very same features.  Greg was bald, and had pretty light blue eyes.  He also had a 7 year old daughter.  Usually I refuse to date men with kids, because there is a possibility that I might have to take on that "mommy role", and I haven't personally come to the decision in my life on whether or not I really want to have kids!  He made me seriously consider that! lol

4.)  One of my ex best friends was another exception to the rule.  We never dated because he was in a serious committed relationship with someone else the majority of the time we knew each other.  This guy was a bi-sexual man, that was in a gay relationship.  He was also very influential in my life because he taught me how to be more feminine and dress attractively.  I grew up not knowing how to put on makeup, and how to really take care of my hair and look beautiful.  I grew up as a nerd, and was considered the nerdiest kid in the 6th grade!  This man changed all of  that for me.  And I started getting all this masculine attention I never really received before.  He would make me laugh so hard, and we would make the craziest jokes with each other.  We almost had like this brother, sister close relationship.  If my friend was not in the relationship he was in, we most likely would have dated.  He had more of the sporty/rocker look.  It's not that he wasn't attractive, it's just that he wasn't physically my type, or someone that I would normally go for.  He wasn't a gamer dude, but we both had a strong interest in personal development and making ourselves better.   (He was a close "runner up" with Robbie and the influence he had on my life.)


I will be honest.  The majority of men out there I'm not physically attracted to at all.  For men physical attraction is a big deal, but for women we need things to be a lot deeper on a an emotional level.  Physically unattractive men that I do have a connection with can easily become my type by doing simple things to improve their appearance- dressing better, putting on some nice cologne, and a good hair style, and facial hair shaping.    Men that are emotionally stable and balanced can go from a 2 to 10 instantly with the right clothes and hair cut!  Pick up is most definitely worth your time and effort!  And most importantly the inner work that it will create within you is priceless.

Edited February 26, 2017 by Peace and Love
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[Colin]

@Peace and Love  teach me oh relationship guru, for I am very ignorant in this area of life.

[jse]

[Peace and Love]

@I_Like_Thing

1 hour ago, I_Like_Thing said:

Peace and Love is an eloquent writer, and she is super knowledgeable on the subject. Have you considered having a Love and Relationship channel? There are some of those, but few as well spoken and knowledgeable as you obviously are.

@Colin

 

22 hours ago, Colin said:

@Peace and Love  teach me oh relationship guru, for I am very ignorant in this area of life.

Awww you guys are too kind!  You're making me melt!!!  I honestly don't consider myself a guru. LEO is the guru!!!  (Besides I haven't even met Mr. Right as of yet! lol)  I've been through a lot in my life, and I discovered that many people seem to benefit and appreciate when I share my personal experiences (both dating, and non dating related).  I feel, sympathize, and understand a lot of men's pain that I don't think a lot of women can comprehend because I worked in adult entertainment for several years.  I've had a ton of exposure to many different types of men and I always felt that I was playing the "sex therapist" role for men.

I may be by no means a dating expert, but I can tell you what I do know...  Episode #4!!  

Step 1:  Before you start getting into dating, I can not strongly emphasize how important it is to love yourself!  I mean this is REALLY a BIG DEAL!   You really can't love another person unless you fully and unconditionally love yourself.  Yeah...of course you can be a in a long term relationship, and things can work, but you really won't have that satisfaction you are looking for until you fulfill your inner self.  Self love changes you.  It gives your life, and it gives you PASSION. You're not even the same person anymore.  And when you love yourself you won't put up with anyone else's crap.  It helps you avoid abuse, and alleviate repetitive negative dating patterns.  You feel a sense of peace and awe with yourself.  You are comfortable in your own skin and people are drawn to you like bees to honey.  When you love yourself you have something called BOUNDARIES.  Boundaries are actually a form of self love, and lets other people know what is ok and NOT ok.  How you should and shouldn't be treated. Boundaries need to be created to promote respect in a relationship.

There are a lot of LONELY people in this world.  They feel that they NEED someone to fulfill them.  To make them feel whole and complete. Love doesn't work that way.  If you're life is like a beautifully baked cake, the loving romantic relationship is like the cherry on top.  A loving relationship doesn't make you complete, but enhances who you are. What makes up the cake is the rest of you....your hobbies, your talents, your life purpose, friends, family, your health and how you take care of yourself, etc..  All those beautiful things put together make up your beautiful CAKE OF LIFE!  And to create this beautiful cake of life you need something called BALANCE.  Balance is so important.  Yeah it's nice to focus on meditating and enlightenment all the time, but we all know that we need to LIVE.  What many people don't know is that when we crave to be in a relationship, it is actually a sign of being UNBALANCED.  We are using the relationship to fill a void in something we don't feel adequate about.   Ask yourself...are you using relationships as a form of a security blanket?  Some people use relationships to feel better about themselves (SELF ESTEEM) others use it to feel validated and feel wanted and needed (which could mean they don't love themselves enough, or don't have enough friends, or hobbies, or things to keep them busy).  Romantic relationships should never be sought out for emotional comfort.  ASK yourself...where can I create more balance in my life???  And make it happen!  It is worth the time and the wait to work on yourself.  You will not regret your decision if you put in the hard work and the effort.

I firmly believe that relationships are for us to help enhance spiritual growth.  When you are in a relationship it's not about satisfying you...it's about satisfying and serving the person you are with!  You become selfless!   My goal as of right now is to balance myself out, and discover an even deeper love within me....our real true selves.....from a higher consciousness and an enlightened perspective.

STEP 2:   After you have found and attained SELF LOVE.... this is what I would do NEXT!

I've listened to and watched a lot of Leo's videos on dating and sex.  And I'm not here to kiss his A$$ and get "brownie points" but he does seriously know what he's talking about.  (PLEASE WATCH HIS VIDEOS)  There are quite  a few books on Leo's book list that would be beneficial in helping one to have a healthy, passionate, and balanced relationship. I would read all of them, and become a MASTER of that knowledge.  There is also another book on his list under his "emotional master section" that talks about unconditional love.  Although I have not personally read this book as of yet, (I'm planning too soon) but I think there is a missing link here.  I think many of us really don't understand what real LOVE is.  We all need a firm grasp and understanding of what Love truly is.

This is a time to become excited about YOU! To have a life purpose and passion. Changing your thoughts and how you perceive life!  You need to start thinking:   "I love my thoughts.  They are my best friends"   (No really I'm serious...become your own best friend for REAL!!)

                    "I am on a path where positive thinking and an optimistic attitude guide all of my choices".   (Positive Emotional Mastery)

                      "Every moment presents a wonderful new opportunity to become more of who I am!"  (Living in the present moment, always seizing the day)


If you want to find, seek and acquire knowledge of  spiritual relationships this is what I've found so far.  
Book:  "Spiritual Partnership, The Journey of Authentic Power"  by Gary Zukav

Video:  The Nature of Nondual relationships  -  TRUST ME, It's worth the $10 bucks to watch this entire video!!!

http://shiningworld.com/site/shop/index.php?route=product/product&product_id=133


Once you have a solid idea of what kind of relationship you want, it's going to be a lot easier to attain it.



STEP 3:  You could also do this while completing step one and step two... Start taking care of your looks and your body.  But DO NOT do this to impress someone else, do this to impress you!  This is about feeling good about you.  Don't worry about the girl part, when you take care of  you, they WILL NOTICE.

Top 10 Most Attractive Men's Hair Styles:  Pick the one that looks most attractive on you.  One is not better than the other necessarily.  It's a matter of taste and style, and what makes you feel like YOU. 

What if I am going BALD?!?  What if I have a receding hair line???   Well.....the shaved head look happens to be one of the top 10 most attractive hair styles!!  Leo totally pulls it off!  And then to bring it over the top, get artistic and creative with the facial hair if needed. Grow a goatee!  Sport some side burns, mustache, beard, etc... It can really help to shape your face and give it more structure and angle.  This can really help you ALOT!

Sorry Leo, but you're such an awesome example!  (Maybe he'll just stay in the Enlightenment Section of the forums like he normally does, and will never see this post! lol quietly tip toeing......)

Like if you look at Leo's face, he has more of the round look, but he enhances his handsome facial features by his facial hair.  It like literally transformed his face.  He has the more chiseled look now because of his facial hair.   Keep in mind....Usually.....Women are enhanced by curves, but men become more attractive by angles and a more chiseled look.   This works really well for Leo! 











Top 10 Colognes Women Love:  Maybe I'm simple, and I'm a little biased but I like Gio, Georgio Armani Cologne. lol  Both of my long term bf's wore it.   Find one that you like and test it out!!!  Have fun with this!

WHAT TO WEAR??
How you dress is really important.  Look for clothes that are form fitting and enhance your body.  Do your RESEARCH.  You don't have to break the bank to look good! Look at what Leo is wearing in this video...it works really well for him!!  And the color is very flattering.  Wear colors that enhance your skin tone and your eyes!!!    Find out what colors look most flattering on you!!

 

Intimacy and SEX.... 
I'm keeping the words PG in here, because I really have no idea what kind of audience is looking at this....lol
Here is my ADVICE...
Trust me when I say this....DO NOT worry about the size of your anaconda.  It REALLY doesn't matter if it's a pencil or a soup can.  What matters is how you use it!!!  Master the art of the bedroom and keep both of you happy!  I cannot not over emphasize how many men I've met that are clueless when it comes to pleasing women, especially the younger generations.  It's really sad how selfish they can be.  Please don't be one of them, because in the end one of you will be dissatisfied and end up leaving.  No really....I"M FREAKING SERIOUS....don't worry about the size of your light saber. What matters is the intimacy.   Leo's videos really hit the mark here.  HIS TECHNIQUES DO WORK.  Learn to balance the masculine dominance  and the soft gentle playful side.  Women like that!

 

 

[Falk]

On 15.2.2017 at 11:34 AM, electroBeam said:

Has anyone been successful in figuring out how to ask a girl for dating/attraction feedback when she rejects you? I went cold approach today and found a girl, but she said she was too busy, so I asked her frankly in a playful way, where did i go wrong, and she didn't want to tell me and just kept laughing. This was on the phone btw. 

Has anyone else been successful in asking out girls who rejected them on where they went wrong? Like how will you improve if you're not entirely sure on what you did wrong in the first place.

Get ready bro!!! ...i´m going to brainstorm some crazy mofokin wisdoms on ya ass ...READY????  

1. Abundance mentality! She is NOT the one! She is one girl of many beautiful girls you will have in your life... don´t put her on a pedestal, don´t be needy. Scarecity leads to neediness, playing-safe-mode and weirdness!! BE ABUNDANT say it: there are 100s of girls for me in the next year alone, and this one is just one of those, i live in abundance!

2. It is a numbers game! Rejections are a necessary step to success! Always trust and stay in the abundant mindset and always review your interactions and learn from them!

3. Go get her! Be agressive, show clearity of intent!! Don´t be afraid to escalate.

4. Your life purpose is higher than any women! In general don´t let the women itself be the purpose or hope that she will be or that she will do things for you ...that´s just lazy and passive and castrated!! Don´t do this shit!

5. Be playful and free!! Show her she has no sexual power over you at all ...that will make her chase you! Set the right tone within the first 30seconds.

 

Also deepen your voice, talk slow and breaking raport

Eye contact – never be the first to look away (meditation helps)

Body language – alpha posture / lean back enjoy , you feel safe !

THESE are all honest signals that you are alpha, that you are high value and that you have gotten social proof in your life!!

if you take anything away from what i write here then it should be this!!!

 

6. Always be a leader, Trust yourself, Noone will trust yourself for you! Noone will give you the permission to love yourself and noone can validate that your life purpose is a good one ...you have to find that stuff in yourself! that´s what personal development is there for!!

 

7. Stay calm , when she wants to shit-test you with problems and objections just stay humorous and calm, ignore her shittest or misinteprete the shittests as sexual intent ...8 of 10 cases she will LOVE!!! this

 

8. Be authentic be honest. This doesnt mean you have to tell her your deepest fears and insecurities .(acutally NEVER DO THAT!! FORGET that shit when your mother told you to be open to a girl she didn´t gave you the advise you need to fuck her!! HAHA you know what i mean?) ...because you should not do that!! you have to resolve those problems on your own, because they are only in your head and in your body...BUT! Be honest and authentic in your actions and your intent towards her!

 

9. Stop taking value !! Give value !! you are the MAN!!

Happiniess is what you want , and counterintuitively Happyness doesn come from what you get! (the girl, the validation, the money, approval, status) but from what you can give to others!! Think about that!! What can you give??!!

 

10. self esteem

Is a product of an abundant mentality, beeing able to trust yourself, beeing active instead of reactive, leading her! Never be passive or dependent on her , that includes asking her what she thinks of you!! Don´t ask her what she thinks ... Make her think you are are higher value than her but display of confidence, social proof, self-esteem, beeing able to stfu from time to time and ability to show your sexuality and escalate ( in optimal chase you do invisbile escalation ...check out "todd valentine" for this one)

 

11. A women should, will and can not be the reason why you are happy in life!

WOW!!! this is a huge one for me, the women in itself is not the goal she is just the enabler to force yourself to become the best version of yourself.

 

You only get her if you don´t need her!!

You only get what you are willing to loose!!

 

 

NAMASTÉ MOFOS !!  

[Shin]

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Intimacy and SEX.... 
I'm keeping the words PG in here, because I really have no idea what kind of audience is looking at this....lol
Here is my ADVICE...
Trust me when I say this....DO NOT worry about the size of your anaconda.  It REALLY doesn't matter if it's a pencil or a soup can.  What matters is how you use it!!!  Master the art of the bedroom and keep both of you happy!  I cannot not over emphasize how many men I've met that are clueless when it comes to pleasing women, especially the younger generations.  It's really sad how selfish they can be.  Please don't be one of them, because in the end one of you will be dissatisfied and end up leaving.  No really....I"M FREAKING SERIOUS....don't worry about the size of your light saber. What matters is the intimacy.   Leo's videos really hit the mark here.  HIS TECHNIQUES DO WORK.  Learn to balance the masculine dominance  and the soft gentle playful side.  Women like that!

This is the most important ^^

It doesn't matter how much sexy, smart, or funny you are, if you don't make the effort to please her in bed, it's all gonna fall down one way or another (unless she's a carpet).

Now if you're a virgin or have very little experience, that might be a problem, but not because you don't have any experience.

It's mostly because she's gonna wonder why, why does a guy that attracted me is still a virgin/have little experience ? Is he asexual/gay, or is he faking confidence ?

The trick is to know that you'll probably fail, but not because you're not sexually experienced, but because you'll be needy and won't be grounded in yourself, you'll see her as the women that finally saves you, you'll put her on a pedestal (you won't fuck her like you should because of that), and she will hate you for that.

So meditate and do personal developement like a motherfucker, THEN FAIL, realize that you don't need a women, meditate and do personal developement like a MOTHERFUCKER, and then if you feel like it, search an another woman.

The kind of women you'll be attracted and that you'll attract will be very different, and the relationship will be way much more interesting and satisfying.

WHY ?!

Because the relationship will be a bonus (you'll already be happy on your own), because you'll stop being fake, because you'll see the woman in front of you like a full fledged human being, and not some goddess without any flaws.

 

Hope that helps

Edited February 27, 2017 by Shin

[jse]

On 26/02/2017 at 9:11 AM, Peace and Love said:

Pick up increases your ability to attract the right girl and keep her by TENFOLD!

I'm so outta touch... Is this what pick up is about?

 

[Ajax]

On Wednesday, February 15, 2017 at 3:34 AM, electroBeam said:

Has anyone been successful in figuring out how to ask a girl for dating/attraction feedback when she rejects you? I went cold approach today and found a girl, but she said she was too busy, so I asked her frankly in a playful way, where did i go wrong, and she didn't want to tell me and just kept laughing. This was on the phone btw. 

Has anyone else been successful in asking out girls who rejected them on where they went wrong? Like how will you improve if you're not entirely sure on what you did wrong in the first place.

Hello electro,

My dear friend, I  don't believe female psychology  works like that. In fact I generally don't even trust my female friends about attracting women... sure they can give you pointers on the external... and that is great but it is not enough it is the internal game that get you results. You can look like Adonis but if something doesn't feel right to the woman then you won't attract her.

To be honest, just the fact that you asked that question shows that you really don't understand the female mentality which can be a handicap. The one thing I think is good to know is that they operate on feelings and feelings are not words... so that can be a problem.... Hell, it sometimes takes my wife between 10- 60 mins... to explain to what I did wrong and how she felt about it and I am actively digging out of her....it would be time well spent review the way of superior man...the section about dealing with women.

In short asking woman for feedback after hitting on them isn't going to be that helpful, bad idea imo it would probably will make them uncomfortable. 

Maybe if you make a survey and ask women questions about men in general and what the do wrong when they approach them. That way you can learn without the awkwardness.

 

[Shin]

2 minutes ago, I_Like_Thing said:

I want to share a fail-safe pickup technique Leo showed me the last time I visited him in Vegas. He drove me well out of the city, which made me nervous because I thought there might be a hole just my size pre-dug out in the dessert someplace, but my fears subsided when he drove into the parking lot of what looked like some dive bar in the middle of nowhere. I followed Leo inside; he had the swaggar and stride of someone who had tread this ground many times.

Girls recognized Leo, and smiled when greeting him. They looked me up and down, and finally lined up and Leo told me to pick one. I had a difficult time choosing, but I picked the one girl who seemed like she might like me. After this, and here is the pickup technique I want to share, Leo said, "I got this covered, bro," and he pulled out his credit card. 

<----- Literally my face when I read the last 6 words.

 

[Toby]

@Falk That sounds like the "best of" of pickup community platitudes.
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Other than that, there is nothing weird about asking a girl where you went wrong if you have Asperger / Autism. That is something which is an expression of the condition. (I guess someone mentioned that @electroBeam has this condition).

[Peace and Love]

@jse

9 hours ago, jse said:

I'm so outta touch... Is this what pick up is about?

 

If you're the guy in blue....I'm the one taking the picture! lol!!!    I'm not giving up though.  I think we all deserve to be loved unconditionally, but I'm learning to be perfectly ok by myself too, which is even better!   All this consciousness and enlightenment work really does make a HUGE difference!

[Peace and Love]

@Toby

6 hours ago, Toby said:

@Falk That sounds like the "best of" of pickup community platitudes.
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Other than that, there is nothing weird about asking a girl where you went wrong if you have Asperger / Autism. That is something which is an expression of the condition. (I guess someone mentioned that @electroBeam has this condition).

I was the one that mentioned it.  We both had talked to each other in a different thread/topic about Asperger's and disabilities.  He has Asperger's, and I'm learning disabled, with dietary induced ADD and a huge possibility of being Asperger's myself (although I've never been properly diagnosed, but know people that had Asperger's and shared the same classic symptoms).   We were talking in a previous topic about how these "ROLES" (our disabilities)...these labels.... can mentally hold us back.   And we are labeled a lot of the time because we may not learn or understand things in a typical academic teaching style.  The education system is sad, and very far behind.  If they changed or shifted the way they taught to different people they would pick up on things very quickly.  (And I can personally account to that because I taught my ex best friend who had Asperger's how to add, subtract, multiply and divide using different techniques in four days.  And he's a very highly intelligent person who ran a multi-million dollar business).  

 There are many people with Asperger's out there that are very famous and successful.   I understand that we can sometimes not pick up on social cues that others would normally pick up on, or even catch on to jokes.   That's why I sympathize to his cause, because if I was in his position I would want someone to do the same for me!  And I think it's an excellent question because it's considered not normal to do that, but I've encountered times where I've been asked online in facebook messages and I was perfectly comfortable being honest.  I'm sure there may come a time where the sexes can openly things of that nature and it will be perfectly normal.  I think if there is a way that it can be done, why not explore it?  And who really cares what anyone thinks?   

[Peace and Love]

@I_Like_Thing @Shin

7 hours ago, Shin said:

<----- Literally my face when I read the last 6 words.

 

 

7 hours ago, I_Like_Thing said:

I want to share a fail-safe pickup technique Leo showed me the last time I visited him in Vegas. He drove me well out of the city, which made me nervous because I thought there might be a hole just my size pre-dug out in the desert someplace, but my fears subsided when he drove into the parking lot of what looked like some dive bar in the middle of nowhere. I followed Leo inside; he had the swaggar and stride of someone who had tread this ground many times.

Girls recognized Leo, and smiled when greeting him. They looked me up and down, and finally lined up and Leo told me to pick one. I had a difficult time choosing, but I picked the one girl who seemed like she might like me. After this, and here is the pickup technique I want to share, Leo said, "I got this covered, bro," and he pulled out his credit card. 

Ok, I may be having an Asperger's moment here.... did this really happen?  Or is this a joke?  This flew right over my head! lol

[Peace and Love]

@Falk

16 hours ago, Falk said:

 

4. Your life purpose is higher than any women! In general don´t let the women itself be the purpose or hope that she will be or that she will do things for you ...that´s just lazy and passive and castrated!! Don´t do this shit!

Ding! Ding! Ding!  We have a winner!!!!  So TRUE!  Life purpose MUST be your top priority!

[Toby]

@Peace and Love Of course labels can become an identity or hold someone back or limit someone but they are also pointers what certain symptoms are. For example if someone with aspergers cannot read emotions or facial expressions (while other people can without any effort or thinking about it), it is something that actually can be tested and impedes functioning socially. Of course someone can improve on that to a certain degree, but basically it is a handicap compared to so called neurotypical people that cannot be overcome even if there are also a lot of positives in that condition.
The same is with learning disorders: it is impossible to somehow teach a child math that is labeled having "dyscalculia". Improvements are possible but overcoming it is not possible. It's different when there is ADD or ADHD that causes some learning problems. And it is also different when someone is wrongly labeled a certain condition or has only minor disabilities.

Edited February 28, 2017 by Toby

[Key Elements]

On 26/02/2017 at 11:26 AM, jse said:

Nice pic. Why does this happen? Cause no one wants to get with a stranger. Those who do, it doesn't last long. You can't even be a stranger to yourself. You probably won't be happy with life. It's worth the time and effort to develop yourself, get to know yourself, and then find a suitable partner.

[Bob84]

On 2/15/2017 at 11:34 AM, electroBeam said:

Has anyone been successful in figuring out how to ask a girl for dating/attraction feedback when she rejects you? I went cold approach today and found a girl, but she said she was too busy, so I asked her frankly in a playful way, where did i go wrong, and she didn't want to tell me and just kept laughing. This was on the phone btw. 

Has anyone else been successful in asking out girls who rejected them on where they went wrong? Like how will you improve if you're not entirely sure on what you did wrong in the first place.

Points for creativity . People in that situaltion are most likly not to awnser honestly. However what ya got to lose.

Be confident in youself as that has been proven to be the best method. Go get youself some kitty 

[egoeimai]

Hey!!!!

What an interesting thread! 

I came back to reply.

My opinion:

This is not matter of girl or boy,man or woman,young or old.

It has to do with connection

Any type of connection. Your chemistry with the other person,the good timing,the experiences you both had at the past,your desires,your emotional intelligence,your understanding,and your abillity to love.

Everything happens for a reason. If something goes the opposite way just let it be. If someone rejected you,let them be as they are,want what they want,accept them with their opinions and decisions,because what YOU've always wanted and will always want is relief.  Someone to love you,accept you the way you are,understand you,be there for you,and doesnt judge you. All is for your well being and its all about your feelings. You want to feel good. You believe that If you have it,it will make you feel better. Well,you are searching love in all the wrong places. People cant give you what you already have inside.

Stop searching the object of your attention to give love to. You are love.

There will always be someone to love you and someone who doesnt.

Your goal is to feel this love,and give love no matter the person/being. Give love to everyone. Everybody needs love. Start with yourself. Top priority. Then go to your animals which they are not judgemental beings and it would be easier for you. Then try with a person in need-and old man/woman with dementia for example (give them your love and see what happens,they are unconditional beings for the most part) give everyone love and dont expect to take back.

Then love with find you.

And it will be so good,and unexpected...almost you wont need it.

Popi.

[Shin]

Delusion #1: Thinking that love comes from an external source, yep after your 5th divorces, maybe you'll start to hear what we're saying here.

#2 is when you think you're right when you're delusional as fuck, I struggle a lot with this one sometimes
 

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And it will be so good,and unexpected...almost you wont need it.

Almost shocked when someone give back, like "what are you doing, really ? Oh ok, that's nice, thank you !"

 

Edited March 3, 2017 by Shin

[egoeimai]

Im not giving back. I just described they way they should be feeling after.