What do women find attractive in men?

[Danioover9000]

@Vivaldo

21 hours ago, Vivaldo said:

I want to know what exactly women find attractive in men...... 

Is it the physique, face, height or more non superficial things like how well they are groomed, their hygiene, verbal skills, confidence?

Or the size of the man part?

Which are the few aspects women would compromise on?

   An emotionally grounded, full of life force energy, mentally strong man, with balanced masculine/feminine energies.

[StarStruck]

Girls like masculine energy. I won't go into detail what that entails but what girls want is very selfish. I had a hard time accepting that although my requirements of the opposite side is equally selfish. I discovered that we want the polar opposites of what we are + we are looking for the opposite sex to heal our trauma's in a conscious or subconscious way. This also counts for girls: they want masculine energy + somebody who can scratch their traumatic itch. There are actually ways of finding out if a girl has a traumatic past (most do) and you can cater to that.

[StarStruck]

1 minute ago, Loba said:

@flyingwhalee He doesn't have to be super "high value", just someone into spiritual stuff.  The other stuff is a bonus, but a lot of guys like spiritual work and my preferences are moldable, changeable.  I am currently not looking at the moment, I have to get my own shit together first, but just gave a list of what I would find the most attractive if I were.  My preferences are pretty lenient, though, I find a lot of things attractive in different guys and don't really have a set type.

You got angry when I used that word and now you use it yourself hahaah.

[Random witch]

 

37 minutes ago, soos_mite_ah said:

Also, as far as size not mattering, we aren't going to know your dick size before sleeping with you unless you try to brag about how big your dick is. If you're one of those guys, we'll just assume that it's small, physically and spiritually. 

Yeah

[soos_mite_ah]

24 minutes ago, Shin said:

34 minutes ago, JJfromSwitzerland said:

What about lesbians, what are they attracted to?

There is a difference between being masculine and feminine, and between being sexually attracted to a woman or a man body.

People think there is no difference and conflate the two, don't make that mistake.

I think this pretty much sums up how heteronormative and limited yalls explanation of human behavior and attraction is especially on this forum. 

[Random witch]

32 minutes ago, zazen said:

 

@Random witch 

''And yes defiantly I can sleep with a man without developing deep emotions and expecting from him to be my future husband for 30 years.

And many times I think about doing sex for the sake of doing sex and I don't think or care about what's next.''

 

Wondering how true this is for majority of women.. Can people be compatible sexually only and not in other ways. Won't sex eventually lead to emotions and a bond where you want something more. Men are told the opposite of this and maybe its only a smaller percentage of women?

I don't know if it's true for all women in all their life stages, but there's a common assumption that every woman who sleep's with a man get attached and needy as a lost puppy because this is how her body works or something, that's bullshit, sorry, but it's not true for all women. Don't forget how women are socialize, to hide and ignore their sexual needs, being afraid of being seen as "slut", too many partners for women it's a shame in our society and better for her to stick to one in order to save her reputation (If she cares about it). Yes, emotional attachments does exist but it's not the reality of 100% of women after they're doing sex. It also depends on many factors like the age of the women, how confident she is etc. If she's insecure she would be more easily attached to any guy she sleeps with, out of neediness. Insecure guys have the same behavior with women.

 

[Vivaldo]

1 hour ago, soos_mite_ah said:

 

@soos_mite_ah ok its a weird problem I am facing on the forum... Don't mind the other quotations. I am not able to remove em.

Ok I get you when u said that women wouldn't sleep with men knowing What their size is. But when it comes to bed does size actually matter to pleasure the woman? 

1 hour ago, soos_mite_ah said:

It's a common joke among women since Loki has more female fans because of how his character is written but men still want to insist that women find thor more attractive because muscles even though that isn't the case. 

Also, as far as size not mattering, we aren't going to know your dick size before sleeping with you unless you try to brag about how big your dick is. If you're one of those guys, we'll just assume that it's small, physically and spiritually. 

1 hour ago, soos_mite_ah said:

 

16 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

 

1 hour ago, soos_mite_ah said:

 

Edited November 22, 2021 by Vivaldo

[soos_mite_ah]

1 minute ago, Vivaldo said:

@soos_mite_ah ok its a weird problem I am facing on the forum... Don't mind the other quotations. I am not able to remove em.

Ok I get you when u said that women wouldn't sleep with men knowing their size. But when it comes to bed does size actually matter to pleasure the woman? 

As long as you can make her cum a few times, I think you'll be good. And you don't even need a dick to do that much less a large one. 

Also, I never said that women wouldn't sleep with men knowing their size. I was saying that women won't sleep with men who act like their dick size is part of their personality and that it's something they need to insert into a conversation., 

[Vivaldo]

51 minutes ago, Random witch said:

I don't know if it's true for all women in all their life stages, but there's a common assumption that every woman who sleep's with a man get attached and needy as a lost puppy because this is how her body works or something, that's bullshit, sorry, but it's not true for all women. Don't forget how women are socialize, to hide and ignore their sexual needs, being afraid of being seen as "slut", too many partners for women it's a shame in our society and better for her to stick to one in order to save her reputation (If she cares about it). Yes, emotional attachments does exist but it's not the reality of 100% of women after they're doing sex. It also depends on many factors like the age of the women, how confident she is etc. If she's insecure she would be more easily attached to any guy she sleeps with, out of neediness. Insecure guys have the same behavior with women.

 

Yes I don't even understand why slut shaming is even a thing! Women are are allowed to be as promiscuous as they want and no one to stop them. 

It again boils down to the simple principle of "live and let live". 

One is free to be monogamous, polygamous or polyamorous or whatever they want!

Edited November 22, 2021 by Vivaldo

[Jacob Morres]

If become a bad boy What do I gain from it? Is there any benefits to being a bad boy besides attracting women?

I ask because for example, if you advocate for being nice I see a lot of benefits. Like being empathetic and kind makes people feel heard & safe, respectively

Edited November 22, 2021 by Jacob Morres

[Vivaldo]

2 minutes ago, Jacob Morres said:

If become a bad boy What do I gain from it? Is there any benefits to being a bad boy besides attracting women?

I ask because for example, if you advocate for being nice I see a lot of benefits. Like being empathetic and kind makes people feel heard & safe, respectively

You must bring the best of both worlds. The good characteristics from the bad boy attitude and from the nice guy att.

There is no formula, you gotta figure it out on your own.

 

[PurpleTree]

2 hours ago, Vivaldo said:

I think a better example would be Hemsworth or RDJ

i can't really go for hemsworth or rdj so i'm trying more the depp route

kind of confused artist staring into space, you know what i mean

[Shin]

14 minutes ago, Vivaldo said:

@soos_mite_ah ok its a weird problem I am facing on the forum... Don't mind the other quotations. I am not able to remove em.

Ok I get you when u said that women wouldn't sleep with men knowing What their size is. But when it comes to bed does size actually matter to pleasure the woman? 

Lesbians can have amazing sex without sex toys.

So what do you think ?

[Vivaldo]

6 minutes ago, Shin said:

Lesbians can have amazing sex without sex toys.

So what do you think ?

26 minutes ago, Jacob Morres said:

 

Ya that's great. But if all this is true, then why is this 'does size matter' topic so hyped? I mean there should be some truth to it.  

I think the size of the man part is a subjective preference of the woman and not an objective fact that big ? are attractive. Correct me ladies if I am wrong.

Edited November 22, 2021 by Vivaldo

[Vivaldo]

I sometimes wish I could experience a female orgasm and know what is feels like. Saying this from a totally hedonistic perspective. 

[PurpleTree]

5 minutes ago, Vivaldo said:

I sometimes wish I could experience a female orgasm and know what is feels like. Saying this from a totally hedonistic perspective. 

and every woman probably wishes she could experience a male orgasm

[Vivaldo]

1 minute ago, PurpleTree said:

and every woman probably wishes she could experience a male orgasm

And God is experiencing both simultaneously. What an injustice!

[Jacob Morres]

51 minutes ago, Vivaldo said:

You must bring the best of both worlds. The good characteristics from the bad boy attitude and from the nice guy att.

There is no formula, you gotta figure it out on your own.

 

Na na I meant what's the real world benefit of it. Is the only benefit getting her attracted to you 

[Shin]

26 minutes ago, Vivaldo said:

Ya that's great. But if all this is true, then why is this 'does size matter' topic so hyped? I mean there should be some truth to it.  

I think the size of the man part is a subjective preference of the woman and not an objective fact that big ? are attractive. Correct me ladies if I am wrong.

Because most men are stupid as hell and don't know how to have good sex, nor they understand a single thing about female psychology except how to quickly abusing them sexually.

[zazen]

1 hour ago, Random witch said:

I don't know if it's true for all women in all their life stages, but there's a common assumption that every woman who sleep's with a man get attached and needy as a lost puppy because this is how her body works or something, that's bullshit, sorry, but it's not true for all women. Don't forget how women are socialize, to hide and ignore their sexual needs, being afraid of being seen as "slut", too many partners for women it's a shame in our society and better for her to stick to one in order to save her reputation (If she cares about it). Yes, emotional attachments does exist but it's not the reality of 100% of women after they're doing sex. It also depends on many factors like the age of the women, how confident she is etc. If she's insecure she would be more easily attached to any guy she sleeps with, out of neediness. Insecure guys have the same behavior with women.

 

It's not true for every woman but what about most? We have to work with generalisations because if we take every nuance we won't be able to get a accurate grasp of reality. If a minority of men or women are able to handle something should that mean we tell the majority that its okay to their own detriment? 

 

I understand society trying to progress, but at the same time some wisdom from religion or tradition was there for a reason. Conservatives are the brakes on progress, liberalism is the accelerator. If we accelerate too fast it can cause issues without holding a brake on to certain limits our biology, psychology and emotions can have. 

 

I understand judgment is bad ie slut shaming etc but on the flip side not letting women or men know the consequences of actions is equally bad. Not as a moral judgment, just as a if you do A, you may experience B. The same way people have the choice to smoke or drink and no one judges it, yet the consequences are known, the same should be told for casual sex. I think the consequences of casual sex are starting to show up now in the stats and happiness levels for example.