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14 hours ago, Karmadhi said:

@Leo Gura Actually you can be those things and still not get girls. What i lack which i did not write there is flirty, sexual vibe, sexual everything. You can be playful and make jokes without doing anything sexual which is my problem. I make girls laugh and create playful illogical vibes but no wettnes from the girl :'( .   I also do not make legit moves, i may lead in terms of picking places to meet, suggesting meetings and the small "come here" kind of stuff, some touching etc  but i never go for strong sexual movements

Of course there is more getting girls. Those were just a few basic elements, oversimplified, not a comprehensive map.

Pickup boils down to: going out & being social frequently + playfulness + confidence + seduction + leading + handling logistics really well.

Sounds like you're seriously lacking in:

  • Communicating with sexual intent, man-to-woman communication
  • Leading
  • Handling logistics

Not having those things in place will kill 95% of your results.

Leading and logistic are CRUCIAL for results. You can increase your results by 10x to 100x by mastering those two things. They are not easy to master.


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6 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

logistic are CRUCIAL for results

my house is 30 mins from the city

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4 hours ago, Yali said:

my house is 30 mins from the city

No sexy time for you :P

1 hour ago, spiritual memes said:

@Leo Gura Do you have any tips or resouces on how to master leading and logistics?

Go out every night and do it.

Find a local wingman who's experienced at getting laid. Learn by observing him.


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36 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Find a local wingman who's experienced at getting laid. Learn by observing him.

how to find a wingman?

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49 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

No sexy time for you :P

Go out every night and do it.

Find a local wingman who's experienced at getting laid. Learn by observing him.

I would love to find more wingmen but it is difficult to find them.

Edited by StarStruck

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@Leo Gura Actually i seriously lack in the man to woman communication. I lack to some extent to leading although i do it but for very basic things like arranging where to go, sit here shit like that. I am not bad at all at handling logistics though. I have managed more than once to get a girl to come to my place and legit have her sit next to me and make it seem relatively natural.  The issue is that due to the lack of man to woman communication beforehand i just came off as a friend and making moves would be extremly out of place. Not being man to woman is the biggest issue to getting girls in my opinion after not socializing and neediness.

PS: these girls i did not meet from pick up, just from being social and interacting with people in my life. 

Regarinf logistics: Handling logicistics might be a nightmare in a same day pull or club pickup however in more everyday life social interactions it is a lot easier. "Let's come for a drink at this bar, oops it happens to be next to my place. Btw i will show you my place i got a new cool souvenir or i pay so little for it but its soo good haha. Oops we are at my place now. Hey, i will show you this video while we chill in my room, Oops you are sitting next to me now. Not rocket science at all. The issue is getting the ATTRACTION for all this shit to actually work, if you make a move without attraction it is just a friendly meeting and going for a kiss will be super out of place.

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2 hours ago, Karmadhi said:

The issue is getting the ATTRACTION for all this shit to actually work

Your real issue is subcommunication. Your body language, how you carry yourself, the intent behind your actions, etc. Sexual intent must be subcommunicated. This is the core of solid game.

Watch RSD to learn the principles of proper man-woman subcommunication.


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7 hours ago, StarStruck said:

I would love to find more wingmen but it is difficult to find them.

Move to a better city.


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6 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Your real issue is subcommunication. Your body language, how you carry yourself, the intent behind your actions, etc. Sexual intent must be subcommunicated. This is the core of solid game.

Watch RSD to learn the principles of proper man-woman subcommunication.

It's an issue here that barely any RSD videos exist online anymore. They don't even have their own website with products to buy, and learn that way. Finding actual examples might be difficult, unless you happen to know where they are. 

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6 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Your real issue is subcommunication. Your body language, how you carry yourself, the intent behind your actions, etc. Sexual intent must be subcommunicated. This is the core of solid game.

Watch RSD to learn the principles of proper man-woman subcommunication.

@Leo Gura Leo, you mentioned RSD videos couple of times already. Can you tell me where should I find those? Or you just mean stuff thats on YouTube? Or is there a seperate video course or something?

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@StarStruck @bazera The current RSD videos i dont like at all. Aside from a few they re too soft and political correct imo. You will not benefit a lot from them. Google “actualized forum rsd deleted videos”, you will find a thread where someone posts a link with old deleted rsd videos. See them, those are 10 times better than the ones on youtube rn. Idk why they were deleted tbh, a big waste. Im currently binging some of them and i find them quite good

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9 hours ago, bazera said:

@Leo Gura Leo, you mentioned RSD videos couple of times already. Can you tell me where should I find those? Or you just mean stuff thats on YouTube? Or is there a seperate video course or something?

I downloaded the entire old catalogue of RSD free videos.

You can find links online if you are serious.

The new videos are not bad either.

When you want something bad enough, you will find it.

There is more attraction theory on the internet than you have lifetimes to watch.


You are God. You are Love. You are Infinity. You are Leo.

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I'm super under-developed in this area as well. I've read quite a bit of David Deida and find him extremely helpful because he grounds whatever he recommends in truth & infinite love, and he specifically says you can't fake authenticity. I agree with that. I don't know if I should watch videos that teach me how to act, it always felt inauthentic. I don't want sex. I want a deep relationship - but I realize that even for that I'll need attraction... "skills"? 

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Hah, at least you can watch it! I've grown to have an entirely new problem the past few months >

I can't even watch or enjoy ANY porn at all anymore. I have zero interest and nothing gets me going at all.


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@Leo Gura Yeah man, absolutely. Even your attraction videos and reading dating books from your booklist has helped me a lot. Thanks for that.

I'll surely do further research.

@RendHeaven Thanks dude, I'll delve into those videos as soon as possible :D

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If your objective is to find a real woman, don't use porn. If you are already satiated, why bother to go out and hunt?

It's the same principle, porn is an endless source of (pixels that resemble) beautiful women, it's stimulus is so powerful that real woman will feel not worth the struggle and your subconscious will not fight to get one.

If you ask me, abstinence from porn turn me in a more energetic extroverted guy, when i binge porn it gradually turn me in a sociopath. But sometimes being a sociopath is what i want, so make your choice and act accordingly.

 

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