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Teal swan - what a woman needs from a man in a relationship

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@Aquarius First of all I don't give a shit about this human BS. 

But you have be wise and smart if you want to play this. 

To not wake up as 30 yrs old woman without family kids and good husband and normal life. 

Same for man to not wake up 30 years old playing fucking video games and living in mom's basement jerking on porns and watching animes. 

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1 minute ago, zeroISinfinity said:

@Aquarius First of all I don't give a shit about this human BS. 

But you have be wise and smart if you want to play this. 

To not wake up as 30 yrs old woman without family kids and good husband and normal life. 

Same for man to not wake up 30 years old playing fucking video games amd living in mom's basement jerking on porns and watching animes. 

A tad judgmental I say!! 

 


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6 minutes ago, Peter Miklis said:

Hot as shit I bet.

I'd rather have winter all over again. I love winter.

Oh yeah. Winter is awesome. 

Thinking of summer in our times makes me wanna work out all day and night. 

Then I just end up meditating for 10 hours straight and speaking spiritual cheese on forums. THE GOOD PART IS THAT IM HONEST AND AUTHENTIC :D

I'm going to congratulate myself for the authenticity this time, for honest you always should be. It's a must. 

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Leave it to men to blame women for not spreading their legs for them and starting wars cause of it xD

ok I made my one simp post

But for real though, I think guys sometimes see the less desirable and unfair aspects of dating when they start trying to improve at it and maximize their chances with their most desirable partner and take on a sort of negative confirmation bias about how the entire domain is. yeah, some pretty perplexing stuff does happen sometimes where you feel like you were being vulnerable and she took it as weakness and was turned off. I don't even see any point in trying to understand it. It is a lot for one person to understand... yet alone this thread where plenty of people are trying to make sense of it lol. I think the best thing you can do as a man is just focus on yourself and create and create and create as much as possible the best qualities you want to experience in yourself and often times naturally this will attract your most desired partner. 

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5 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

@Aquarius Yea criticism of Teal Swans work is one thing but attacking her or deeming her worthless because of her age or appearance is truly disturbing and extremely shallow in my opinion. 

 

Woah girllllll congrats on 16000+ posts :) just noticed. I keep disappearing nowadays. 

Yeah I mean she's not perfect, and I totally empathize with her. I'm as imperfect as it gets and I make do somehow. It's a dog eat dog world. Shallow is a fitting word for the way of thinking associated with criticism of that sort. She comes to bring a message, not to be a beauty model. But I think she looks very nice, idk how much of that is make up. I don't even care and nobody should. 

The models we see in fashion magazines are retouched by photoshop and are rarely above 17 years old. And even models will tell you it's not about being beautiful. 

I think there's also narrowmindedness. And fixations. Like only caring about sex, game, money, power... it's very one-sided. Yes, it's essential on a basic level, but you don't wanna get stuck there. 

Sometimes you have to get out of the muddy waters to breathe some fresh air and smell the roses. 

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4 minutes ago, Peter Miklis said:

I have a question for any women reading this. Feel free to answer if you want, but be honest.

Let's say you are with a guy that every woman wants to be with (and by that I mean having sex with him, raw attraction, not for some other vague reason). He has also an OK personality (he's not Mr. Exciting, but also not Mr. I'll Abuse you or Mr. I'll Be Your Servant). Let's hypothetically say that said guy is loyal and stay with you for the rest of your life.

Isn't that the perfect guy?

Man you don't understand how this works. The guy that every woman wants doesn't have an OK personality.

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@Aquarius I don't get these people on here. She is actually very beautiful. 

If I were a man I'd die for her. Plus she is elegant and eloquent. 


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3 minutes ago, Peter Miklis said:

I have a question for any women reading this. Feel free to answer if you want, but be honest.

Let's say you are with a guy that every woman wants to be with (and by that I mean having sex with him, raw attraction, not for some other vague reason). He has also an OK personality (he's not Mr. Exciting, but also not Mr. I'll Abuse you or Mr. I'll Be Your Servant). Let's hypothetically say that said guy is loyal and stay with you for the rest of your life.

Isn't that the perfect guy?

If I were to think of a perfect guy I would want an amazing personality that meshes with me well. Looks wise, I don't care if other women wants to be with him or not as long as I'm somewhat attracted to him. He doesn't have to be attractive to everyone for me to like him. Women don't care about status in that way. Especially when it comes to physical attraction, women have so many specific types and tastes it' impossible to appeal to majority of them. I want him to treat me right and be loyal but that's also part of personality so I don't think it need reiterating 


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2 minutes ago, knakoo said:

Man you don't understand how this works. The guy that every woman wants doesn't have an OK personality.

That's just one of the harsh truths. 

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11 minutes ago, zeroISinfinity said:

@Aquarius First of all I don't give a shit about this human BS. 

But you have be wise and smart if you want to play this. 

To not wake up as 30 yrs old woman without family kids and good husband and normal life. 

Same for man to not wake up 30 years old playing fucking video games and living in mom's basement jerking on porns and watching animes. 

Yeah thanks for that. I need someone to shake me up sometimes. 

Actually, the reason I am single right now is because I made very wrong choices with relationships and men. I treated men like men treat women.

And boyyyyyyyyyy how sad it got. Lol I ain't even sad about it that's how sad it is.

I'm just focusing on money career and mental stability nowadays. I don't want to depend 100% on a man financially, even though I got that option many times, but I am picky with men. I refused each time. I know my worth. And it's not high either, and I don't have sophisticated standards. I just want to respect myself for once. 

Definitely not waiting till 30 to get a faithful man. I don't even know if I'll live till then.

Not all of us are gifted in the same way, maybe I am creative and energetic, but I have to work on wisdom and orderliness. 

It's all a long work in progress and I'm far behind others career-wise ._. 

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1 hour ago, Preety_India said:

@Heaven hmm. There is absolutely nothing shallow about confidence. People who have it know it. 

People who don't crave it. 

 

The development of something that is inherent in your being is an illusion. 
Most people are disconnected from God so they have many insecurities about themselves..

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1 minute ago, knakoo said:

Sorry you got tagged 

 

8 minutes ago, Peter Miklis said:

I have a question for any women reading this. Feel free to answer if you want, but be honest.

Let's say you are with a guy that every woman wants to be with (and by that I mean having sex with him, raw attraction, not for some other vague reason). He has also an OK personality (he's not Mr. Exciting, but also not Mr. I'll Abuse you or Mr. I'll Be Your Servant). Let's hypothetically say that said guy is loyal and stay with you for the rest of your life.

Isn't that the perfect guy?

Cough. Not sure. Im not the type of girl who likes a guy because every woman likes him. I have a sense of ego and pride. So I want a man for myself.. 

If every girl likes him, I'll consider him general property. Nope. Those men don't attract me at all. Not at all. 

So with the first criteria he is already out 

Next. 

he's not Mr. Exciting,

Sorry I want exciting. But I can compromise 

but also not Mr. I'll Abuse you 

good. 

Mr. I'll Be Your Servant).

Not a servant but someone who listens and agrees is good for my health. Listening to someone is not slavery. 

Let's hypothetically say that said guy is loyal and stay with you for the rest of your life.

Loyalty is number 1 thing for me. So yes that's desirable. 

 


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14 minutes ago, Lyubov said:

Leave it to men to blame women for not spreading their legs for them and starting wars cause of it xD

ok I made my one simp post

But for real though, I think guys sometimes see the less desirable and unfair aspects of dating when they start trying to improve at it and maximize their chances with their most desirable partner and take on a sort of negative confirmation bias about how the entire domain is. yeah, some pretty perplexing stuff does happen sometimes where you feel like you were being vulnerable and she took it as weakness and was turned off. I don't even see any point in trying to understand it. It is a lot for one person to understand... yet alone this thread where plenty of people are trying to make sense of it lol. I think the best thing you can do as a man is just focus on yourself and create and create and create as much as possible the best qualities you want to experience in yourself and often times naturally this will attract your most desired partner. 

if she took it as weakness she's not the right one, I tell you that for sure. 

I think vulnerability is nice, but highly depending on situation, circumstances, context and personality types.......

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15 minutes ago, Peter Miklis said:

I have a question for any women reading this. Feel free to answer if you want, but be honest.

Let's say you are with a guy that every woman wants to be with (and by that I mean having sex with him, raw attraction, not for some other vague reason). He has also an OK personality (he's not Mr. Exciting, but also not Mr. I'll Abuse you or Mr. I'll Be Your Servant). Let's hypothetically say that said guy is loyal and stay with you for the rest of your life.

Isn't that the perfect guy?

For me it's a turn off if every woman wants her.... that's suspicious. Like idk, if she's every woman's type there's something going wrong in there. Sounds like either a red flag or something sneaky.... Idk somehow it sounds scary. Maybe I'm just having a certain degree of carefulness when something is way up high there... If he's ok and honest then sure, might give a try, but I get so much jealousy and trash from other females for no apparent reason either way.... and younger than me too. Like wtf girls, just live your life and let other girls live too. 

Also what you made is a very hypothetic statement. What exactly do you mean by "every woman wants"? What does that look like in your mind? 

 

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@Aquarius Nothing against anyone. Really. 

If you don't find your own life important who else will? 

Wide picture and every perspective even if you don't like to hear it. 

Bad guys can be quite helpful. 

Good bad guy I love her. 

 

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1 minute ago, zeroISinfinity said:

Bad guys can be quite helpful. 

How? 

 


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14 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

@Aquarius I don't get these people on here. She is actually very beautiful. 

If I were a man I'd die for her. Plus she is elegant and eloquent. 

I think it all depends on perspective. I think she is beautiful and intelligent.

If I wanted I could list the flaws  see in her, and the emphasis is on the I/eye (???/ of the beholder?), but that wouldn't be fair because 1. I don't know her personally, and 2. it's none of my business to trash people or to gossip. I just simply appreciate her and wish her the best in her career path. I do see she is working hard and trying her best. She's a decent example.

I tried making podcasts like 3 times now and I end up creating wonky and freaky shit every time. :/ oops. I could learn a thing or two about communication.

I won't give up though, I bet there are people who appreciate my work. We all find our tribes in the end. It's a matter of time, discipline, persevering...

 

For me the problem is that there are people who keep fucking up my work. Purposefully. And I don't know why. Maybe I'm just a very vulnerable person, easy target. Or just pure imagination. But I do have people attacking me almost on daily basis, based on gossip. It's not cool.

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Just now, Preety_India said:

How? 

 

To tell you actual Truth of how man think. 

We are all about looks. 

That's why women wear make up, dress the way they do, go on plastic surgeries and so on. Basic logic. 

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20 minutes ago, Heaven said:

The development of something that is inherent in your being is an illusion. 
Most people are disconnected from God so they have many insecurities about themselves..

Word.

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1 minute ago, zeroISinfinity said:

To tell you actual Truth of how man think. 

We are all about looks. 

That's why women wear make up, dress the way they do, go on plastic surgeries and so on. Basic logic. 

Spare me the trouble. I could care less. 

Loads of women who don't give a shit tbh. 

 


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