If you would be 15, what would you do?

[At_Giza]

quit porn and start to play some instrument instead of listening to music all the time

[Gladius]

Just two rules: 

1. Don't be a victim.

2. Don't be an ass.

[bejapuskas]

I don't know whether these are good tips or not  It's just something I did and I am satisfied about how things went xDD

Fall in love recklessly, it will probably suck, but it also won't suck, you will learn a lot, trust me. If that's not you, nevermind...

Interview weird people who nobody talks to, they are probably deep and very interesting, they will teach you something. 

Know that your mum knows the best in most situations, but if you don't learn things yourself, you will end up wondering all the time.

I know these are probably not what you expected, but I telling you to meditate 90 minutes a day, buy courses, do yoga, read self-help books, cook and eat healthy, exercise, will just make you procrastinate on these things more than you are already doing, I know you!!! xDD

[Pacific Sage]

On 4/8/2020 at 6:46 PM, ShardMare said:

If u would be 15, what things would u work on firstly? What skill would u master firstly? What would u most concentrate on? If u could tell one quote or one sentence to your 15y old self what would it be? Im confused where should i put my energy? I meditate 40mins every day(do nothing meditation), im journaling every day, im eating healthy, im exercising, studying everyday,  im taking notes on leo's videos, etc. Im planning to quit video games,porn finally, to start actually learning leo videos from my notes and stick it into my head, start building strong morning routine, start contemplating,strategizing, switch to another meditation technique that improves my concentration, start developing my research skills. I have so much time...we wont have school for a long time, and there is the summer break...

Id have fun if I were 15 as I did when I was 15? 

One definitely needs traumas to build so you can resolve them later in life to experience life. I see the values of traumas now.

Experience life, do what things interest you. Now's the time to explore, find out what sparks your life. Find a nice compassionate companion, play sports, party, Maybe even masturbate but not to porn, these days the captions and themes are just plain horrible.

Id say don't take life too seriously you have a really long journey ahead to figure it out anyways. Be carefree but within legal bounds, as much as possible ?

[Grateful Dead]

develop good friendships

have fun and do stupid shit

think about what kind of career you want to have

mindfulness meditation

[ShardMare]

@At_Giza Tf is that picture?

@Gladius What do you mean?

@bejapuskas 

19 hours ago, bejapuskas said:

Fall in love recklessly, it will probably suck, but it also won't suck, you will learn a lot, trust me. If that's not you, nevermind...

I would waste a lot of time if i would have a gf...

19 hours ago, bejapuskas said:

Interview weird people who nobody talks to, they are probably deep and very interesting, they will teach you something.

Thats interesting

19 hours ago, bejapuskas said:

Know that your mum knows the best in most situations, but if you don't learn things yourself, you will end up wondering all the time.

No, she doesnt know nothing, she is mentally ill. Yea i know

No, thats all good what u wrote. Thanks 

[ShardMare]

@Pacific Sage ?

@acidgoofy ?

[Pacific Sage]

I would definitely learn an instrument if I could do anything different if I were back to 15 now.

[Elisabeth]

15 was a great time for me. I wouldn't want to know about self-actualization back then. (Later, like at 17 when I got into a relationship, and at 20 when I went to university and got depressed... yes, I'd rather know.) I was doing stuff intuitively right:

- Mastering school easily by listening to the teachers and taking notes carefully (I didn't need much extra studying. If you were to ask me which subject is most important... if you're not a native speaker, concentrate on English, if you are, you might wanna gain some extra IT skills.)

- Catching up on some badly needed social skills by participating in sci-fi conventions and fantasy LARPs and battles and just generally doing stuff with people making friends. I think socializing during high-school is incredibly important. 15 years later I've got friends from that time. 

- I somehow managed to avoid alcohol.

- I was playing a musical instrument, participating in math competitions (they also had entire math&adventure weeks for kids to get together, getting skills, experience and socializing), and taking an astronomy course which led to me being a guide at an observatory (<- first gig, socializing, practising languages, building confidence, knowing and enjoying the night sky... best thing I could do). Insert any kind of active, useful or creative, hobby. 

Looking back over the list, I'd like to add some attention to diet and fitness. That's the area I neglected badly. I wouldn't mind adding a bit of regular meditation and getting some guidance on intimate relationships for later on. But on the whole? I say: Immerse yourself into life, get all kinds of experience, let skills develop based on real interest, try relationships... You're 15. You need to establish yourself as your own person with your own dreams, experience, confidence and decision-making power. (Independent of parents or Leo.) That's your most important task right now, and it comes from living fully. 

Edited April 12, 2020 by Elisabeth

[Elisabeth]

 

 

 

 

6 hours ago, Pacific Sage said:

Be carefree but within legal bounds, as much as possible ?

I love that

[bejapuskas]

@ShardMare  I guess our mums do be mentally ill, but we are more mentally ill than them xDD

[Adam M]

Watch Leo's video "advice for college and highschool kids."

 

Here are some general tips (I also discovered actualized.org when I was ab your age):

 

- Make a commitment to gradually watch at least 80% of Leo's videos. Don't judge the video by the title. Just watch. It might be wise to start with the older ones and build up to the more recent ones. This will take a few years. Watch at least one or two each week.

- DON'T worry too much about taking notes. In my experience, you don't have to remember everything Leo says in each video, but what's important is absorbing the main idea and Leo's thinking style. After watching most of his content, you'll absorb his thinking style. My point is that, don't be overly focused on memorizing what he says... focus on understanding what he says. Follow his logic. Usually, I would put in headphones and walk with Leo talking in my ears.

 

- Purchase the Book List asap. Read books that genuinely interest you.

- Practice daily meditation

- Don't be too hard on yourself and don't give up. Stay committed by watching Leo's content. I've been on the path pretty hardcore for a few years and I still have occasional porn and video game relapses. The key is radical self-acceptance, and the ability to witness yourself with judgement or guilt.

- Dabble around. It's difficult to commit to mastery at such a young age. Just do try things that naturally call you and make you feel blissful. Follow that.

 

Also, I advocate being social and hanging out with other kids your age. You won't find too many conscious 15 year-olds... but do your best to select friends that are more conscious than the rest. This requires an eye of discernment.

Edited April 12, 2020 by Adam M

[Waken]

By no means do I think this is what you should do, or what is best, but about the most sensible I can think of atm:

1) Don't look up (or down) to the people around you (at school, your parents, a guru, whoever), don't assume that they know what life is about, or how to make it work. Don't take their suggestions, life philosophies or advice to heart if it doesn't feel good to you. Do know that most people really, really have not figured life out. This is not something to be judgemental about against them, they don't know and it's easy to get sucked into our culture that is so steeped into confusion, that it doesn't know it is . If you want to know something, anything at all, you can. If you want to be more than what others seem to be, you can. You're not a weak or powerless person, but a spiritual being having a physical experience.

2) There is a being called Bashar, he always talks about following your highest excitement, without insisting on what the outcome should be. It will, so he always says, bring you exactly where you need to be, at the right time, the right place. It will align everything for you. I wouldn't make life too complicated, thinking you need to figure it all out. Don't get lost in fantasies about personal development, gaining knowledge, whatever. Just do what is attractive to you, that you love doing, that inspires or intrigues you. Maybe you at the moment just really want to read a certain book, okay to that. Maybe afterwards you feel like doing a practise, okay do that, then you feel like taking a rest, okay do that. See how life responds, and then maybe you'll start gaining trust in life, and life will become a living extasy, if you want it to.

3) actually if you would take one advice, take this one: read the books 'Conversations with God'. Read them until you breath them.

Edited April 12, 2020 by Waken

[ShardMare]

@Elisabeth thx

@bejapuskas Yes, we are

@Adam M Yea, i've already watched like 80 vids from leo, i took notes. Watched the advice for highschool and college students too. The problem is that i've not taken this too seriously (i've started this at around 14) and i've just used this to mental masturbate, now im takin seriously and start to balance theory and practice.  Thx

@Waken thx

 

 

[Hello from Russia]

@ShardMare I'd experiment with various skills and trades and find out what I like. Then I wouldn't hesitate of learning about business asap and become independent asap, using the combination of skills that I like + business skills (Marketing, branding, sales, advertising, basic finance)

[allislove]

@ShardMare

I'd buy a magnetic double-sided whiteboard on wheels to find out what I want 

On the front-side, I would write what I want. I would add something new every day, depending on the life experience, personal preferences.
On the back-side, I would contemplate anything that bothers me.

[Thewritersunion]

@ShardMare ;) what I’m already working on 

[ShardMare]

Thanks! I actually didnt had a journal(i mean i had but didnt take that seriously) at that time so i forgot these ideas very quickly... Thanks for replying!

Edited September 11, 2020 by ShardMare

[Hello from Russia]

@ShardMare The most important thing - pay a lot of attention to wage slavery thing. You don't feel the effects of it very much right now as you're only 15, but it will be big when you hit your 18s and your 20s, especially, as you say, if you're coming from a poor background. 

This thing is huge, man! And the best time to prepare for it is in your age now, because you can really build up your foundation while you're still fairly comfy in school.

I don't mean to have a fear-based motivation, quite the opposite actually - it will help you a ton for your self-actualization, your sense of freedom and your happiness levels. You will be able to live anywhere you want in your country like I do now and it's amazing. You won't have to live with your parents or slave away on a crappy job like most of your peers will. And you'll have money, this is a wonderful thing.

[Thewritersunion]

Me, reading this while being 15: ✨