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  1. Direct communication is not immature, quite the opposite. And no, things aren't necessarily more clear to her. They might be, she might be very clear on her own motives and limitations - or not - and she almost certainly isn't clear about your motivations. So have that conversation. It need not be dramatic. If you're having some nice quiet time, ask. 'Where would you like this to go? Do you want to keep it casual or have a relationship? I would like ...'
  2. What is it about psychiatry that you wanted so much?
  3. @Emmaz Probably not. Touch, arousal, erotic play, some kind of orgasm is important to me. PIV not that much. I wouldn't want to go a lifetime without it, but I don't need it often. If a "he" was willing to please me but wouldn't want it for himself... yeah, maybe. Asexual people more often end up in polyamorous relationships, where their partner has one more lover with consent of everyone. Intimacy and commitment need not be diminished by that. Some people do fine building relationships without sex. Might be difficult for me.
  4. Apparently Japanese cultural takes this stance that sadness (possibly sometimes even suffering) is beautiful.
  5. @-Rowan To me it's like the firts one contains the other two, especially reading the second one I thought "isn't that what he just said?"
  6. But not everyday, right?
  7. @iceprincess Just some stuff to check with yourself: - do you still hold hope that perhaps, one day, you two might end up together again? (what would it take to let go of that? would you have to try and get rejected again as Leo suggests?) - are you loving the fantasy image instead of the real person? (as others have suggested, this is likely) - does this past relationship still affect you in any real way today? (not counting the intrusive thoughts) - what real need(s) of yours are expressed in these thoughts? what need did the relationship fill? why him? (meeting this need may well be the key) - how is daydreaming about him pleasant, positive and healthy? (usually even the darkest emotions "give" us something, so I'm sure remembering love does) - is there any trauma, anything you just "don't get", something that hurts? where in your childhood did you encounter this same trauma? Set time aside, inquire about these (and similar) questions, write, release emotions, be intuitive. If none of that works, you'll have to "just" break the habit, but better try identify the sticking points.
  8. @Bratcat Hey. Block him now. Go no contact. If your dynamics has indeed been somewhat close to abusive relationships, then he'll be trying to pull you back in several more times. The "commitment" he asked of you is absurd. Block him, go cry for a week if you need to, then try to rebuild a healthy (even if just online if you're still in lockdown) social life. It's ok to feel intense sadness now. Try to trust it will pass and not worry about your other romantic relationship at the moment.
  9. @Billy Shears I suggest before you drop them entirely, you could 1. try to make the friendship a tad more meaningful (like tell one of them your concerns about drugs and ask if he's willing to meet up sober) 2. find some new people to talk to and make friends with (as a natural outgrowth of the changes you start making in your life) You could also try to re-contact some friends that you might have had earlier in life who are sober. Isolation is usually rather devastating to the psyche, doesn't help your will very much. So try to not be entirely isolated. Good luck and let us know how it goes.
  10. @Hardkill I'm taking a course on entrepreneurship now. It's a process of identifying a problem that people have and designing a solution that you can sell. It's not easy at all, and experience is built slowly. I remember though that you are a good writer. Maybe now you are willing to learn some advertisement and copywriting and sell your services? Something else that you'd like to sell online?
  11. @Stretch Hey, I'm sorry you're hurting and desilusioned. It's the first reaction of forum people to guess where you went "wrong", but not too helpful. This stuff happens in all ambitious endeavours. People who shoot high, fail. Think of the sportsman who injures his muscle, the phd who fails to land a science job, the abandoned mother of three, the ruined entrepreneur. You took a high-risk high-gain strategy with spirituality. There's no use pretending that intense focus on self-actualization (in the narrow sense) is good for everyone. There's traps people fall into, misunderstandings that happen, and just individual differences which predispose you to (not) being able to take a path. I think this is what you wanted to tell everyone with this post. You can rebuild your life and beat your depression. It's the best thing to do now whether you ever come back to Leo's teachings or not. Wish you good luck.
  12. @lostmedstudent As far as I know, it's different whether you strech "warm" after workout or "cold" without it. The first mainly stretches muscles, the second puts more strain on ... all the other stuff. In some cases, cold stretching might improve flexibility more. The duration is not important. Stretch a certain place every day, and it will yield. You might have to find the correct way to do stretching for your particular problem. If you can't touch your toes, the problem is most likely not just the place under your knees that feels the pull, but rather your lower back. Proceed with caution. You wanna make it more flexible but not fuck up the muscles which are holding your tail bone in place. Here's how to stretch for you. Of course, it's possible this one exercise isn't the one or only one you need to do.
  13. So what is his responsibility? Not to make any mistakes? Hardly realistic. (not saying you're suggesting this) To remind you he may be wrong? He does that. To check with health professionals? I doubt that is his responsibility if that goes against his better judgement and/or feels meaningless to him. To be cautious according to your standards? To be courageous enough to lead by example according to some other people's standard? To be transparent enough to show us when he did make a mistake? (Well, that would be my standard.) I agree that Leo has the potential to either elevate or take down hundreds of thousands of people depending on how well he does. That's the risk that every one of us takes by trusting him and emulating any part of his path. Trust is earned in part by taking and showing responsibility, but the risk is still ours. It's good that you're critically evaluating and consider "being out" -- whether you decide to do so or not. Maybe it's enough for yourself if you check with health professionals before taking 5-meo. I for myself don't trust new videos too much.
  14. @Surfingthewave It's very unlikely any conventional psychiatrist could provide well-founded advice to someone this far on an unconventional path as Leo. Psychiatry will base its advice on statistics. Leo is walking a path that's one of its kind. Maybe a health expert who understands the effect of psychedelics on the physical body would be useful. I agree though that any kind of "community" - perhaps a community of chosen spiritual practitioners and psychonauts - could help with reflection. I don't know if Leo has anyone he can open up to deeply and regularly.